For the past 8 months my life has been an up hill battle, feeling down and not wanting to do anything just think about the possibility of been gay. I have never been diagnosed with OCD but i believe when i was younger i had some traits of it, possibly, such as only walking on the cracks whilst walking on pavement or pens been alined straight and perfectly apart.
However these are not my problems, i just feel the need for some reason to constantly question my sexuality, even though i have never questioned it before i was 18. Before all this started i had people constantly question whether i was gay as a joke due to me having 3 sisters etc. Lately it has been a nightmare and harder to accept it been HOCD, im so confused at the minute with what sexuality i am.
Firstly my attraction to women has completely dissipated, im even beginning to question whether i had an attraction at all, i use to love looking at girls and hoping that they fancied me (not really any luck because i was shy to talk to them), and hoped that they looked at me the same way, i know when i see a good-looking man however this is never sexual (or at least i dont think that it is), however i feel the need to question it and try and find the answer, sometimes i need get an answer which makes me even more depressed and anxious about it.
I use to think it was HOCD because i had many of its characteristics such as mentally checking arousal/gay scenarios to see if i liked it (sometimes i couldnt tell), checking online to see if other people felt the same way which many of times made me relieved and made me believe it was HOCD and that i wasnt gay (however the questioning came back short after), watched gay porn to see if i was aroused and found the first time i watched it i was disgusted and never aroused however each time i became less disgusted but i never got aroused by it. Does this mean i could be gay still??
Recently there is this one guy in my college class that i keep questioning if i fancy him or not and the answer is never clear its always "not reachable" and its confusing me why i cant find the answer. However things took a turn for the worse this week when we were talking and he mentioned his girlfriend (which i didnt know he had) and i had the most dreadful feeling inside of me, my heart started racing and my blood felt like it was burning my skin(felt like an anxiety spike but worse). The only explanation i could find was that maybe i really fancied him which made me spike even more and kept making me want to find out if i really did fancy him and kept questioning it and asking questions like, why did i spike? was it because i fancied him? is it because im jealous of him having a girlfriend and not me? Surely if i fancied him i would just know right? and it wouldnt fell horrible?
I could talk about this alot more but with all the other things i stressed about i was able to relieve the anxiety and find the question using online sources but no one ever seems to say they got an anxiety spike because someone told them they had a girlfriend and i just feel so down.
BTW - Ive talked to my parents about it and they've told me they dont care if im gay (which i already knew) so why should i be worried about been gay?
and when im drunk this all seems to disappear and i can be myself, when im drunk i am attracted to girls and men do not bother me however once im sober the questioning returns.