Good Evening Community,
I have read this board the last few months and decided to post my own problem to see whether I have been lying to myself all my life or if I have a severe psychological problem. So to start things off, I'm 20 years old and you probably read it countless amount of times when people have posted about the same concern as I am currently posting. I have never been interested in the same gender, nor did I ever had any sexual experiences with the same gender. I have always been interested in girls and I had my first kiss with a girl at the young age of 6. I never had high self-confidence, I compensated my lack of confidence, by being extremly unfriendly towards people I didn't know. I also have severe problems getting to know new people and friends, because I have hard times opening myself. Alright so in 3rd Grade I had a crush on two girls, which I sadly never could hook up with. I started watching pornographic content at the age of 13 and was always into heterosexual pornography. Never ever did I have a gay thought in the back of my head. At the age of 16, I managed to finally find a girlfriend which I loved extremly hard, it broke apart because I always was jealous if she met with other male friends, because in my mentality, if a girl loves one guy, she shouldn't be meeting others. So I went through a depression, was sad 3 months, tried to hookup with her again but never managed to again. In 2012 my mother passed away at the age of 43, I never really could compensate the loss, as she was my best friend and always helped me if I needed guidance in life. I started university, but didn't manage to finish it, was thrown out of my house by my stepfather because he didn't want to live with a stepson who did nothing in his life. Worked for a year and than last year I finally started university again. During the year that I worked, I have met two girls, which both didn't want to hookup with me in the end, I really was destroyed. After starting university again I had difficulties finding new friends, as I moved to a new city and I started being lonely. I never doubted my sexuality up until a point, where I was talking to a guy who was ~30 years older than me and all of the sudden I had the urge to kiss him. It was a fight against myself, because I personally didn't want to have any sexual interference with him whatsoever. So I thought, alright one gay thought can't kill you. On the next day the same event occured again, was talking to a friend and the urge appeared to kiss him. Once again it was a fight against myself, because I didn't want to even think about it. After that I started questioning my whole life, the events occured 3 months ago. There are days where I am 100% sure that it's just a stupid thought, than there are days where it starts feeling real. In the last 3 months I didn't have any gay thoughts at all, but my interest in the women race has severely departed. I always check on the street if a guy arouses me, the most ridicolous part is that sometimes I have an impulse downwards if I see a guy who is attractive. But I personally can say that I am not gay and have no interest trying out if I maybe am gay. After reading several coming out boards, some people write that they found out about their sexuality at early 20's up until late 20's. That really made me sad and I am severely depressed. I am going to get some counseling in 2 months, because there is no earlier way. I have lost my interest in meeting people, am completely isolated and everything feels unreal. What made me post this was the fact that I had a date with a girl yesterday, after 4 months not meeting women and I had a conflict with my inner self, because my brain said ''You don't want to meet her, stop wasting your time, go home'', this went on for one hour and I finally could think clear again and had a great conversation with her and also liked her personality. I wasn't attracted physically to her, because I normally don't date blonde girls, I'm into brunettes, but I still want to give it a chance, because maybe she is exactly what I need. The problem is after I came back home after the date, the OCD got real again, I almost started crying, because my brain said that I'm lying to myself and don't want to meet girls. I will meet her again next week, but I got high anxiety, what if I really am deep in denial and am extruding my true side. But I don't think that I can be gay, because as I said I tested myself, watched gayporn, it doesn't arouse me at all. On top of that, I think normal people don't think about being gay for 3 months straight, they accept it and they live their life like normal heterosexual people. But I have the thoughts in my head 24/7, after I wake up, after I go to university, after I go to the gym, after going to sleep. I mean if I was gay I would be fine with it, but I don't see a future with a man, as man always been my rolemodels and friends but I never had an emotional connection.
TL;DR : Never was interested in guys, am lonely, had two gay thoughts over the course of two days, started doubting sexuality, lost interest in woman, got depressed, don't know if its deep denial or HOCD.