So all my life till I was 17 I was sure I was straight, never once questioned it, only ever had eyes for guys, never had a boyfriend but wanted one, before I slept every night i would think about beng in a relationship with a guy, kissed guys before and liked it. So, you basically get the picture, however with my best friend who is a girl, she used to hug me and kiss me on the cheek all the time, I was always quite uncomfortable with it, but eventually I embraced it and I loved everytime she hugged me and kiss me on the cheeck and used to think about it when I was alone and loved it, but even then I never thought it was because I was lesbian it was just because I loved her, and this experience happened with my best friend before her as well. Even with all this going on I still like boys always so it never phased me. Recently however I met this guy on holiday and I thought he was the idea of my perfect guy but when I was with him I never fel attracted to him in that way and with the guy before him I didnt either, thats when my HOCD was triggored. I became incredibly anxious and depressed and tried to analyse my every behaviour in the past and my every though was concerned with whether I was lesbian or not. I used think of girls to see if I was turned on and I never was, only maybe once or twice, everytime I looked at porn I was only ever turned on by the guys and never by the girls ever. Anyways, eventually school started back and I was so busy i thought it was all over until the holidays reurned, I saw my best friend and I still loved when she hugged me and got tingles when she touched me but I never wanted to be in a romantic relationship with her or wanted to kiss her but the anxiety came back because I had more free time to think about it, I read many bloggs and similar stories but I never felt permanently better. I tried to tell myself I was gay or bi but it never fully resonated with me. I know my family wouldnt want it for me and it would be awkward but would be supportive so that wasnt a problem either. I began to fear that I would never find a guy that I would love or be in a relationship with. Then I tried to look at pictures of hot guys to turn me on and I did get turned on, however I got turned on by one picture of a girl and when I was walking I saw a girl wearing tight clothes and got aroused. I then got freaked out again. Bottom line is, I always have these thoughts in my mind, Ive tried reading about it, tried imagining myself with girls and never liked it and I am always anxious. I still behave normally around both girls and guys but I am conciously checking myself if I am being aroused by being with girls and boys and it is incredibly frustrating, I just want to enjoy my youth and forget about all this, but I would 100% rather be straight than lesbian and the thought of me realising that I am lesbian freaks me out and makes me depressed.
Am I lesbian/bi/HOCD??
I really need help and im too embarrassed to talk about it with anyone I know.
How can I get rid of how I feel and just go back to the happy straight girl that I was?