Mum has passed away

[Sam_in_UK]

Just to let you all know my mum passed away this morning. They were treating her for a bowel obstruction but it was her heart that gave up in the end. She was in hospice and not in any pain so I am getting great comfort from that. This board has been a great source of comfort and advice when I have needed it. You are all stars. Much love to all, Sam x

[Casey06]

Hi Sam, my daughter who was 4 at the time has very vivid and fond memories, which makes me so happy! My 1 year old son, however does not, but I know how happy he and my daughter made my Mom and Dad! Just remember you and your son "are living proof that your Moms Love remains"!

God bless and give your son a big hug for me!

[Sam_in_UK]

try email address again samben26 at hotmail dot co dot uk

[Sam_in_UK]

Dear Kelly, thanks for the hugs we need them right now. I do believe in angels, you are not going round the bend, anything that helps with the hurt has got to be good. Im not feeling much of anything today. Going round my dads for dinner today, will be very strange without mum there but I know I've got to get on with it. My e:mail is ***@**** if you want to e:mail me direct. Love, Sam x

[Sam_in_UK]

I am so sorry for the loss of your mum and your dad also, you must be a very strong person. Does your child who was 4 at the time remember your mum ? That is my greatest fear that my son will forget the brilliant grandmother that he had. Thanks for the prayers I need them so much. Love, Samx

[Macy1509]

Oh Sam - our precious mum's sounded so similar - we are very lucky to have had such wonderful mums. My mum was just 2 months away from her 58th birthday. She was also the adored grandma of Francesca my 5 yr old daughter and Jack our 2 year old son. Her 'grandbabies' were her life and it is unbearable to think of a life for us all without her in it. Like you Sam, I go over all of our conversations time and time again and would so so love to hear her beautiful soft voice just once more. Its my birthday today - 33! Whats the point of a birthday without sharing it with the one that gave birth to you - I can't bear it.
I agree Sam that our mums will both be 'taking care of us and our families - from above'. I don't know if you believe in angels - we do! I have been getting so many fluffy white feathers delivered to me on my doorstep when I go out. I'm sure its my mum sending them to me! Perhaps I'm going round the bend but I don't care - it makes me smile for a moment.

Sending you a big hug Sam and a big hug for Ben from Francesca and Jack
                                           x                                                           xx                    xx

[Casey06]

Hi, Sam, my mom died in 1999 at age 62, after a one year battle with lung cancer. My children were also small. 4 and 1 and my Mom adored them so. My father died suddenly, about 5 months after my mom was diagnosed, so I was her primary caretaker till the end.

My mom sounds alot like yours, very much lived for her family.

After 7+ years things are better, but never the same. I still miss her dearly.
There is just something special about moms!

I am sorry for your loss and will keep you in my prayers.

[Sam_in_UK]

Dear Kelly, that is exactly how I feel. Im trying to get comfort from the fact that mum is no longer in pain, but all I want is her with me. I can't get my head around why this happened to my mum. She is the most beautiful, kind, caring person I know. She didn't deserve to get this awful disease. She lived for her family, she never wanted flashy holidays, clothes or jewellery. She just loved the simple things in life, being with the ones she loved. The hole she has left in my life is massive and I know it can never be filled. I cant ever imagine being happy again, I know there will be happy occassions to come but without mum there it will never be happy. I would do anything to have her hold me one last time and say 'night, night darling Godbless'. I remember the last day I saw her and sitting holding her hand, just to have that time again would mean so much. Her last words to me were 'give Ben a big hug'. Ben is my 3 year old son. She always finished every conversation with those words. I can't believe I will never hear them again. I still want my beautiful mum too Kelly, I hope they are looking down on us and will give us the strength to get through this. How old was your mum ? My mum was 62.    Much love, Sam x

[Anna-maria74]

Oh Sam I am so very sorry :(

When you are ready just keep fighting the good fight - just one more woman dying of this hatefull disease is one to many!

Sending you my thoughts and prayers,

Anna X

[Macy1509]

How are you feeling today Sam? Stupid question really as no doubt you feel like you've been hit by a steamroller just as I did in the days following my mums passing. I'm sorry to tell you that I'm not coping well at all. I just adored my mummy and whilst I know she isn't in any more pain - there is just a massive great gaping hole in our family lives now and that won't ever change. Any amount of time isn't going to make that better. I can appreciate all the great times we've shared  - but I still want my beautiful mum.

Sending you lots of love and strength Sam at this very sad time
love Kelly x

If you wanted to email me to 'chat'  that would be fine - but am not sure how to pass my email on to you. Any ideas?

[nyc lady]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  Our Band of Angels continues to grow.  Take comfort in knowing she is with some of the most amazing women to ever grace this planet.

Sending hugs from NYC.
Pam

[coogeegirl]

Dear Sam

I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mother. It is so evident from your posts that you were a wonderful support for you mother.

Please make sure that you take care of you in the coming weeks

thinking of you

Jenny

[Helmar]

Dear Sam....I join with everyone here in saying how very sorry  I am to hear that you have lost your dear Mum. She is at peace with no more worries of fighting this wretched cancer, so you will find peace in knowing that. Time will dull the pain that you are experiencing now Sam.... but you will always have the wonderful memories of times that you've shared with your Mum over the years. Nothing will erase those. Take care of yourself now. Thinking of you....hugs....Helen...

[sktmom]

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I am sending you my prayers and condolences.

[rmarie]

Sam, sorry to hear of your mom.  She was fortunate to have you there for her, it is good that she was pain free.
Myt thoughts are with you.
Marie

[baguba]

Many prayers go out to you.  So sorry to hear of your  Mom's passing.

[alanpvegas]

Sam, I am also sorry for your loss...I'm glad she was in hospice and out of pain.  Pain is the most awful thing to go through especially this chronic cancer pain.

I'm sure both of our mom's are up in heaven...oh no...I just realized....my mom is probablly telling your mom embarassing stuff about me...hehe....moms.   :)

[dian07]

Sam I am so sorry you have lost your mum.  I am so glad you can find some peace knowing in the end she did not suffer.  I am certain she is watching over you and your family.  My heart felt condolences to you and your family.
Peace.
dian

[Sam_in_UK]

Thank you for your kind words. They really do give me comfort as this most difficult time. I will do my upmost to make every woman aware of early detections signs of ovca. We need to stop this disease spoiling so many lives. Much love, Sam x

[Sam_in_UK]

Dear Kelly, I am so sorry for the loss of your mum. This pain is so raw and I can't believe it will ever go away. How are you coping 3 weeks on ? For me its as if times moving on but I'm stood still. Does that make sense ? My heart goes out to you. Just think they are both watching over us now. Much love, Sam x

[katems]

I read on another forum earlier that your dear mum had passed away. I just want to add to the above posts and say how very sorry I am. It must indeed be a comfort to you that she wasn't in any pain when the time came and that now she is at peace.
Take care of yourself.

with love and prayers
Kate in the uk

[vegas2cr]

Sam, I am so sorry for your sad news. I am so glad she was in no pain.  I know that she knew how much she was loved... it has been evident in all your posts.  Sending you hugs from Costa Rica Ronni

[rootietootie]

I am so sorry Sam, but I am glad she is in a better place and is no longer suffering.  May god fill your heart with love and the knowledge that she is still with you and you will see her again someday.  I am glad she passed peacefully.  God bless you  Hugs.. Shannon

[Macy1509]

Hi Sam

You may remember that we have chatted about our mums before.

I am so so sorry to hear your sad news that you have lost your mum and send my love to you and your family.

I know only too well how you feel right now as my mum also passed away just 3 weeks ago on 26th September. The pain of losing her is just unbearable.

Sending you a big cyberhug

Kelly x

[Tybear]

Sam...I'm so sorry to hear of your Mum...please accept my condolences.
Becky