I am 49 years old, single and haven't been in a relationship in 18 months (went through a bad break up). So, I meet a really wonderful man and when we had sex it was very painful and the bloating, cramping and pain afterward lasted for days, so I go to my OB and they find an ovarian cyst on each ovary. They said "Let's watch it over the course of a few months and see if it goes away on its own or bursts". I agree that's probably fine to do, but I just can't handle intercourse and it's becoming a real strain on this very new relationship. The pain I feel after intercourse has me doubled over. The doctor said another option is surgery but they worry about scar tissue. I just don't know how to get myself out of this situation. I weigh 125 pounds and am in good physical health. I don't know what scar tissue does or if that is painful in itself, all I know is that I need to handle this health situation quickly for my own health and for a healthy new relationship. I need any suggestions. Is surgery really a bad thing to do?