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Be aware of Paxil!

My deceased husband, was on Paxil. While,on it, it shot my daughter 5 times,in the head and came home and,stood 2 feet away from me and shot himself in the head!
I can only lame Paxil because he loved her and never would have hurt her had he not been on Paxil.
Please be aware of unwanted thoughts. Be sure to talk. To your doctor constantly and make them aware of your feelings.
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Do not blame yourself.
This world is a jungle, it is not your fault for bringing this animal in.

As i said take it easy, and seek counselling if you have to, it works wonders!
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I can't imagine paxil being that bad, had ptsd and was treated with therapy and paxil, but everyone is different.

Take it easy on yourself
So sorry for your loss,God bless them.
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Oh my gosh!  That story is so heart breaking.  I am at a loss for words and that seldom happens.  My heart is so heavy right now.  I hope you eventually find a nicer place within your mind and soul.

As I take a step back, I think you need to remember that you did not cause this.  You did not take this animal in, knowing that he was an animal and knowing that he was going to cause this much grief.  You just didn't, and you don't have to hold on to that.  In fact, I'd say you have no blame in the matter because you cannot control other people.  We can only control ourselves.

I think you hit the nail on the head when you spoke of cultural differences.  The middle east is a crazy place when it comes to moral obligations.  Women are thought of as objects or even worse than that.  It is so easy to have a death sentence bestowed upon you over there.....  Maybe that was the clicker with this animal.

And by no means would I ever try to make an excuse for this jerk nor would I try to minimize the impact of what happened.  Paxil or not, something went way wrong here and I am certainly not qualified to offer any kind of diagnosis.  I often feel it is too convenient to blame the drug in situations similar to yours.  I think we try to catagorize things so we can store them away.  Maybe it was indeed the Paxil or maybe it was just a psychiatric snap.  Again, no excuses....

I so hope that one day you can have this all in a much more comfortable spot.  You'll never be able to replace the loss and that's what bothers me most about your situation.

Bless you
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Thank you so much!
I will say,to maybe clarify things a little. My husband was from Iran. I am not.
I am California born and raised. I felt sorry for him ,Lind of like a stray dog I guess. I was divorced for two years, and married this "animal"
My daughter was,from my first marriage, 32 years old beautiful person who had a 6 year'old...my granddaughter.
He always acted as if he loved my daughter and granddaughter. We had been married for 14 years before he murdered my daughter.
Now, I live with guilt for EVER bringing him into my life. Had I not, then my beautiful daughter would still be alive.
I DO realize, people from many other cultures do not have the same value for life we have but to kill my daughter is something no one ever would expect.
Thank you for your kind thoughts.
Please watch your wife carefully. If,she begins to act strange,in any way,please get her to a doctor immediately.
God Bless
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Oh my gosh.  I am so sorry to hear of this.  So tragic... so, so tragic.  Not to minimize the situation any, but from the information provided, I'd have to place the majority of the blame on mental illness.  He'd have to have been diagnosed with a depression disorder (or the likes) in order to be on Paxil.

My wife is on Paxil and it works wonders for her.  As well, she has seen a therapist for some of her issues.

Again, my heart felt sympathy to you.  I cannot imagine what you are going through and only hope for peace as fast as possible.
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I don't want anyone else to experience this hell I am experiencing. I live in hell every day.
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Thank you. I am so concerned about others on this type of medicine. I just don't want anyone else to experience the hell I am now. If I can warn others ...this is what I want.
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I am so sad and sorry to read of what happened to your family...My condolences to you

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so horrible.  I cannot imagine the trauma you have suffered.  :(
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675718 tn?1530033033
this is true with all meds and under the supervision of a doctor
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