I am so sorry you are going through all of this. What exactly does he think you are "addicted" to? If you are only getting the pain meds once every two months you aren't mis-using those and you aren't over-using the ambien either. Does he think it is the fiorocet? The only thing you can really do is to talk with him and explain why you need to take the medication and see why he thinks you are addicted. Best of luck to you, that would be a horrible situation knowing that you need the meds but loved ones don't understand :( Keep us updated...
I am basically in the same boat. I take fiorinal, it has asprin instead of tylenol. I also take Soma. That is all I ever take, oops I also have Tramadol. When he comes across either of these prescriptions he takes them, he does not ingest them he just takes them and throws them out. I have had nothing except the Tramadol (which does almost nothing) since January 1st. It is too early to fill either script.
My husband does not believe in fibro at all. He rolls his eyes on the very few occasions that I have mentioned it becoming more accepted by more doctors.
Somehow, someway we all get through these things :-}
He won't say. He thinks no one should take anything everyday. I think its the fiorocet but my dr said there was nothing taking three a day and it was great that I didn't depend on hydrocodon. After I counted out all the pills he tried to say oh your doing good then. But never said he was sorry. He went even as far to say I was addicted to soda pops. I drink 3 a day, he drinks about 6. I eat three times a day(even when it gags me because I hurt so bad) and walk 5 miles ever morning, even when I can barely move( on those days its more like a creep and I only do 2-3). i am at a loss. He has always acted like he understood my pain but now I just don"t believe him.
I wanted to lend you my support. I, too have a husband that used to be very supportive and has recently changed. I don't know why they do this. I think that maybe they are tired of us being sick and just want it to "go away" so it's easier for them to tell us we aren't sick. It's so so hurtful. My marriage is hanging by a thread due to this issue. We have gone round and round and I just can't believe that the person that was my biggest cheerleader on "going to the doctor to find out why I hurt so much" is now telling me to quite going to the doctor and "just deal with it like the rest of us do." I don't think that ANYONE that does not stuggle with pain can understand what we go through.
Denise - that is NOT ok!!! Go get yourself a lock-box, lock up your meds and hide the key! I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but that behavior is totally unacceptable!
Hang in there ladies and keep posting. We are all here for each other!
I agree with Kat, Denise. You should not have to suffer anymore than you all ready do. I am not happy that any of you are going through this too but I don't feel as alone as I did yesterday. I really don't even know how to act around him right now. I wished he would apologize but I don't see it happening.
I have discussed my condition with my dr extrensively on more than on occassion. I tell her that sometimes I think I am nuts and this is all in my head, and other times people think I am nuts and its all in my head. It took me 4 years to find a dr that didn't just keep upping the antidepressants so I do trust her. She tells me I am doing good, that some people with fibro are on morphine everyday.
Why can't my husband trust me and my dr?
A lot of people suggest bringing the husbands along to appointments with you so that they can hear it themselves and also ask their own questions. Have you tried that? Perhaps it might help.
In my case, I took hubby along with me to the psychiatrist and it only made things worse. He verbally attacked her and it was very embarassing. He basically told her that she didn't know what she was doing. Awesome. Now he has gotten upset with my therapist and said he doesn't know what he is doing either and that he just wants to keep me in therapy to make money. He doesn't trust my pm doctor either, so I am at a loss. I keep asking him when he got HIS degree in all of this....
I hate that others have to go through this as well. I strongly believe that stress contributes to our ability to deal with pain, and it's so hard when we don't recieve support from the ones that we love the most. Chronic pain patients struggle enough with isolation and when you feel like this in your very own home it's even worse. I know that all too well.
That is why I am so very thankful that we have this place to come to for support. We can lean on each other because we DO know what it's like!
Please feel free to message me anytime. I am here to listen and lend my support!
My husband would not like the therapist that he made me go to last summer or the rehad that I went to because of his attitude. I did both things just to shut him up but both places said the same thing.....when he starts his shlt to walk away.....He likes to argue things until the other person (me usually) give in to his point of view.
I have changed my attitude, no more being utterly controlled by him. Somehow I lost me in these 23 years. I think he knows something has changed with me even tho I am not crabby or witchy or anything like that. Thanks for letting me vent.
Oh BTW, I honestly do not think I am an addict, I have not had any soma or fiorinal for 3 weeks.
That is what we are all here for - venting! I am also learning that the ONLY thing I CAN change is my own additude. Where that will take me in the end, I don't know. But at least I can choose to be at peace - or practice doing so!
Denise, even if you HAD had your meds even today, that doesn't have anything to do with whether you are an addict or not. If you are taking medications as prescribed for a valid medical purpose, then you are not an addict. Only YOU know the truth...don't let anyone else tell you otherwise!
I found a post on the PM couch that was particularly helpful in explaining the differences between addiction and dependence in regards to medications. I'll go find it and post it. I am thinking about showing it to my husband but the time is not right - he is not in a place where he will accept this right now.
I am blessed that I have you all to vent and share with. I have told very little people of my conditon but here I can bare all. My husband has been sweet as peaches since our disagreement but its only time until he blows up again. I will enjoy this while it last. I took 2 fiorocet this morning and a robaxin and don't feel guilty at all. atleast I am able to play with my children and do some laundry. Thanks Kat for all your help and I willl soon be visiting the webpage provided. Have a wonderful day ladies and let's all try to keep our heads up. We have the right to live in as little pain as possible!
Hi and thank you for the links, actually I did read those last week. Hubby has a way of plying on the guilt trips about anything at all. I did get my Soma today, time for a soak in the tub then a plunge into the hot tub.
I have fibromyalgia and leftover issues from interferon treatment for hepatitis C 3 years ago. My neck is also a mess, non surgical fix and I am getting an x-ray on the lower back on Wednesday to see if an MRI is warranted.
I am doing this without narcotics as long as humanly possible. I am dreading the time that I might need something stronger.
Thank You again for your understanding!!
Just had to post between me, ya'll and this board, that hubby is complaining of lower back pain tonight. He has been in the gym all week and he must have over-done it. It took the WORLD for me not to go off on him about how "I feel like that EVERYDAY!" But I held my tongue and offered him some of my anti-inflammatory cream instead. Perhaps he will realize what I FELT like saying himself. Maybe not. But at least I feel like the better person for not saying anything. :)
I have to let you know, I understand your situation but Fioricet is not FDA approved for Migraines. It has an unfortunate implication of causing repeat headaches in high or repeated doses. It is indicated for tension or muscle contraction headaches. It is also prescribed for Post Dural puncture headaches. Fioricet also containes 40mg of caffeine per pill which may contribute to you not sleeping.
I'm so sorry that you are having these problems with your Hubby. However, I'm SO happy that you counted out your pills for him to SHOW him that you AREN'T abusing your meds in ANY way!! Good for you!!
It's VERY good that your Doctor has given you the Fioricet to HELP with the headaches and ESPECIALLY the muscles in your neck that ADDS to the headaches. I USED to have migrains and was prescribed Fiorinal for them and that was about 25 years ago and they took care of BOTH the migraines as well as the muscle tightness in the neck that brought them on.
You ARE NOT ADDICTED to anything at all. My Dear, you are VERY responsible in the way that you manage your medications. Your Doctor is correct that ESPECIALLY in the fact that you require VERY few hydrocodone. I HOPE that you aren't putting yourself TOO frequently in a LOT of pain because you DON'T want to ask for more hydrocodone. I KNOW how debilitating a headache can be. There's NOTHING worse that will bring me to my knees than a headache.
You KNOW I'm here for you. ((((HUGS))))..........Sherry :)
Thank you Sherry! All the support I can get is very much appriciated. The only other person thats knows of my fibro is my best friend and my mom, and they have never judged me. I noticed one reply to my post said the fiorocet was not for migrains and could contribute to my lack of sleep and rebound headaches. I like that you pointed ou it HELPS. Also, I went 3 months without any pain meds at all and my migrains and headached did not improve. If any thing codien(if I take more than one dose a day) gives me a rebound. Thank you so much for showing you support and I hope you are doing well!
just to add: I do not take any medication without first doing my homework on it
Doing our homework on meds is ultra-important!! You are very smart to do that. There are so many things that the docs don't tell us about the meds they recommend! I also like to read user reviews to see what others have gone through going both on and off of a medication. It's wonderful that we have the internet for such resources these days!