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Is this kind of behavior normal for curious boys?

My son is 6 years old and was caught naked with his 5 year old male cousin. When asked seperatly what they were doing they both responded by saying " having sex"!  After I talked with my son I discovered that they were licking each others privates and sticking there penis in each others buttocks!  I asked my son where he learned this kind of behavior, he told me " I just learned it" I am sure no one has abused him and I am hurt and confused about what this all means!! Is this normal for boys to be curious? Also my nephews mother is very upset and thinks her son was molested and this will always haunt him! ( None of this was forced, boys boys participated) Please help, as I don't know what to do about my sons actions or my sisters reaction!!!  
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Most boys do experiment with each other; however, they usually do not start putting  each other’s private parts in their butt until they are around 16-17 which is when a lot of guys lose their virginity. I would be extremely concerned as to where they learned how to do it and the mechanics behind it. Most boys who do experiment are heterosexual...it’s just a ronde vous if you will. However, considering age, it’s something you should look into. No child male or female should know that much about the mechanics of sex to know where to “put things ” besides the basics of teaching them about inappropriate touching. If your child does turn out gay or bisexual, accept him with loving and open arms, and please do not turn your back on him and/or kick him out. I’m a Christian, and I will happily accept anyone on the bases that what they are doing does not hurt themselves, a child, any one else, and animals. After all, God said “love thy neighbor as you love yourself” and to “not judge for the extent that you judge the same will be held against you”.
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It is normal, but I would not encourage it by putting naked boys next to each other unless they were very young siblings. I would not make an issue out of it.
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Yes it's normal
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I am actually going through the same thing right now. My son (6) and his best friend (6) were in the bath and quiet. So I stood in the hall and listened. I heard both of them say something about licking. So I walked in and was just “ok guys let’s wash and get out” then my son proceeded to tell me about each other putting their mouths on each other’s penis and my son stuck his own finger in his butt. I couldn’t speak for a minute. Then talked to them about why we don’t do that to each other and that I wasn’t upset or mad. I know that my sons friends’s parents don’t talk to him like I do.
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Well, in all honesty, friends bathing together isn't usually part of a play date or sleep over.  Curtail such activity.  I don't really know this to be normal as the mom of boys myself.  But I guess you are not worried about it.  Make sure that they've not seen anything on tv or real life or heaven forbid, been molested by anyone.  Child on child molestation happens and is a cycle.  It happens to one kid by someone and then they do it to another child.  I guess firm boundaries about not touching each other's private parts but honestly, I would not allow kids to come over and take baths with my kids.  :>)  
1350925 tn?1277384525
I am with rockrose. Boys that age hear from other littlle boys about stuff like that, and decide they want to try it too. They go to the nearest  boy their age and they "explore". I have 3 sons and raised 4. It is a normal child thing. I was abused as a boy, so I didn't do the whole exploring thing, but my boys...I have caught the oldest (6) with a few of his friends doing stuff u described more then once. I have also caught my little brother (14) with his friends. Right now my twins (4) are still young, so I haven't caught them doing anything but touching themselves. I know for a fact none of my boys have been molested or hurt like that in anyway shape or form. It is just normal exploration play, So if u are sure they haven't been exposed to anything then don't worry about it. They are little boys! Even little u still think with ur ****! What feels good for a grown man, feels the same for a little boy. If it feels good, kids will do it. (Not knowing they shouldn't). Hope I could help u!
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Thanks, I am feeling the same as you on all of this!
I also agree with them having more supervision, ( this happened at my sisters house)
My son will be sticking close to me for a while! : )  
Thanks again!!
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13167 tn?1327194124
gmama,  I think boys figure this stuff out all by themselves,  with just the mainstream media magazines and tv shows.  Boys know what to do - I think if no one ever ever mentioned or depicted sex to them,  they'd still know exactly what to do with a woman when they became a man.  They just know.

And I think your sister is really doing her son a disservice by acting like he's damaged goods and a victim.

They need more supervision,  though.
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Thank you for the nice words!! I have been a basket case since this happened! This is the first time I have ever tried anything like this and it makes me feel better to talk about it with people other than my family!  Since this happend yesterday I have given him lots of hugs and have made sure to tell him that NO MATTER WHAT has happened he is loved!!
I am sorry to hear about your son, It sounds like you are a loving mother and have came through a bad situation very well!!  God bless you and your family as well!!  Thanks again!
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1330757 tn?1275588846
they have been exsposed to either a television of movie that they seen this behavior on and is what i hope has happen because that can be delt with easly but the worse thing is molestation i think maybe u should give you son a hug and with your heart feel what u have inside about the situation if your heart is telling you he has been molested then u know  what u must do to protect your son and your cousins son I am so sorry for what is going on because the truth is I have a son and when he was five years old he told me a man that live with his grandmother whispered in his ear some horrible things he wanted to do with my son my son was very scared to tell me he thought maybe he done wrong he told me everything i huged him and all my heart could do was listen to  my son the feeling that came from my son was fear and thats what made me ask him what was wrong so all i am saying feel your child with your motherly heart your heart will tell u no lies about you children god bless you and your family my prayers are with u all
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