STEPFATHER NO EXPERIENCE

[denv]

I  met my wife 2 years ago and kids didnt seem to be an issue. i have no prior kids myself with x wife. over time i feel isolated,confined,and they get to me 100% of the time,i feel like they are just there to consume eveery last dime i have eat everything they can and make messes. i hate it and am considering leaving my wife. its a thankless job and i have no interest in growing with them as a family. i miss my freedom and the way it was before this life. i love my wife more than anything but i go out of my way to please them with little to no reward. i am a custom harley bike builder,property manager whos used to going out when ever i want and having freedom. i have lost myself to two children 9-11 that are no mine who had nothing before me now...what i give is not enough....seems like a huge price to pay just to be with a woman....i talk to my wife all the time telling her im short of breath,sufffer major anxiety,dizziness etc.....these kids drive me up the wall it ***** so bad im thinking of giving up this relationship its so uncomfortable.on my birthday my wife couldnt even think to have them make me a birthday card yet im supposed to give every penny,every bit of time.....for what...im about to say F_CK this
before me...they were stuffed in a tiny room in there grandmothers house.....now they cant have enough......and i dont feel i should be put through this....when i say im suffering you have no idea.....im torn and i dont know what to do....i have brought them into a much better life....but mine has suffered greatly......seems to me no woman is worth a man in constant suffering.....

[margypops]

Oh I am so sorry, you are feeling very left out and it hurts ,step parenting isnt easy, but if you love your wife it may be worth working it out, the kids wont be 9-11 for too long. Have you tried to do things with them, taken them out, played sports with them , sometimes its a whole picture , speak to her get her to work on better behavior from the children, arrange that you and she have time together by yourselves, if you are torn it means you are still wanting to make it work, maybe some couples counselling could help. You also need time for you so make sure you are still involved with those wonderful Harley's, I envy you ,. I do agree she could have got them a card to give you it is hurtful and you sound like a great guy...Families are worth keeping together ,speak to her honestly tell her what you have said here, try to spend time with the children ..and if it doesnt work out..climb on that bike and away you go ...good luck  

[denv]

I SEE THEM RIPPING US APART AS KIDS GET OLDER THEY GET COCKY,ARRAGANT,AND PUSHY AND WANT MORE MONEY ,AND I HAVE NO RESERVATIONS FOR BULL_____
ITS HARD ENOUGH NOW CONTAINING MYSELF IN THIS HOUSE...I FEEL SMOTHERED,ISOLATED,AND USED,BEING A STEPFATHER IS VERY UNREWARDING,NO REAL LOVE THERE LIKE A BLOOD CHILD,NO TRUE SINCERITY,THEY WANT WANT WANT YET A BIRTHDAY CARD IS TO MUCH TO ASK?...THATS NOT FAMILY,I TRULEY BELIEVE A BLOOD SON WOULD HAVE COME RUNNING WITH A CARD BECAUSE HE WANTED TO,IS THERE A FORUM FOR MEN WITH NO KIDS?....WHO HAVE ENDED UP IN A BLENDED FAMILY?....IM SURE THERE ARE GUYS LIKE ME OUT THERE STARING OUT THE KITCHEN WINDOW DEPRESSED

[margypops]

If you continue to feel like this then maybe the only way is out,I agree a birthday card is not too much to ask for and that was not nice of them .Its in your hands you can either give it a go as I suggested or move out, there is a mens health forum but I doubt its about kids ...good luck

[RockRose]

I read your profile.

It's not a sin to say I've made a mistake and I want out of this marriage,  since you didn't create any kids together.  

It sounds like this was a mistake.  Not all men want to be dads.