My boyfriend of 7years and my 10year old ADHD son to me hate each other?

[27_27]

Every time I have had a relationship the men don't like my son. They love my daughter. But I can't get boyfriend to even pretend that he likes him.n ever letting him do anything my son's always in trouble. They hate each other and then put it all on me and they fight like kids. Oh please someone help me with this.

[ravey2040]

I'm hoping you will hate this response because that will signal to you that it is right on the mark.  This bf conduct is a huge red flag. A man acting like a petulant child should raise the alarm with respect to what sort of partner you are willing to be with. If your son was not there, you can be guaranteed that the bf would hate your daughter. If neither of them were there, your relationship would reveal itself swiftly. Children are never the problem; they just bring our attentions to it. Manipulators and gaslighters always have a blame target and he's chosen your son. And you've chosen to be with someone (several by the sounds of it) who has the emotional self-regulation of a child. They are fighting each other over you; that's what children do when parents have weak boundaries. As a parent, your primary responsibility is to your son and he obviously needs your time and attention. I left my relationship to protect my child and until they are 18 and launched into the world, and for the rest of their life, I won't take anyone else's side. Ever.

[HughG]

1)  SEND   the   BF    packing  
2)  send  the  KId   To   Boarding  school  Like  Military  academy  and  College at  the Military  college   of his choice  (West point,Annapolis,  Colorado)

[camoprincness2285]

I know what your going threw I go threw it everyday my self ive been with the same guy for 8 yrs and my son and him cant spend each other they fight like crazy and they do put it on me an I know what your going to threw I'm going to figure out how to take care of the problem my self maybe we can work together and figure it out together.

[specialmom]

That's really hard on everyone.  Does family counseling help? Everyone needs and should have a peaceful home as it is their safe place.

[RockRose]

Any man who can't even pretend to like my kids would be out the door that day.  

[HelpingHand23]

Have a sit-down conversation with him and ask him if he is doing anything hurtful or rude to your boyfriends. Maybe he could also be jealous of you’re relationships (if he’s older).

[HelpingHand23]

It could also be a coincidence because with you having boyfriends, they usually wouldn’t like him anyways