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So how would you approach this with 16yo daughter

So our daughter (16) just got her first boyfriend in December.   She says they aren't "officially dating" since he hasn't asked her out yet which I don't get but that's a whole other topic.    They go to different schools which I think is a good thing and she usually gets to see him one night during the week if she does not have anything else going on and normally on the weekends.    We have met him and he has been to our house a few times and they hang out watching movies etc.    But for some reason our daughter feels the need to hang on him even when other people are around.    We have tried telling her she doesn't need to act like that but it sort of goes in one ear and out the other so not really quite sure how it get this point across to her.    While I understand this is all new for her. it  just makes everyone around her uncomfortable to watch her hang on him especially when others are in the same room, vehicle etc. etc.     Any advice would be greatly appreciated........
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Good Afternoon, I was wondering have you tried talking to her. Not a talk where you are judgmental or letting her know how uncomfortable it makes others feel. More of just a women to women talk. Use that time to see what she likes about him, why she is desiring to hang on him, and just overall what she is feeling about the relationship. I am betting she feels insecure, and that leads her to feel like she has to hang on him. Through a talk where you dont judge but just talk you could determine this.

In return if it is a security thing, then you can talk to her about how she doesnt have to be insecure and give her advice. At that age she doesnt want you to tell her what to do but give her advice like a friend and talk to her like one as well. I know that you are the mother and she needs to know this, but it doesnt hurt to be a friend at times as well. This will open her up to coming to you when the problems get bigger.
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