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Strangely sexual behaviors for a 12yr old.

My niece is 12 years old. I try my best to look out for her because her mom is not the most competent parent. A few months back her mom was contacted by the school about my niece possibly participating in self harm. Her mom kept this to herself and didn't tell me about it, nor did she talk to my niece about it. Now things have escalated. My niece is getting in trouble at school because there were rumors going around that she was doing sexual things with another girl in her class. My niece denied that it was true, and said that the kids were just picking on her, so we chose to believe her. Over the past weekend she went to stay the night at the girl's house. My sister talked to the parents before hand and they assured us that they would be well monitored and not left alone. Now my niece is telling people at school that they "messed around" over the weekend. That's not the worst part. The other girl's dad apparently just went through her And my niece's texts and there was all kinds of very bizarre and completely not true stuff in there. My niece made up a person named Samantha that she claimed was her "sex toy" and made claims that her father molested her when she was 3 years old, even though her father was not in the picture then. Her father left shortly after she turned 2, and while he was a dirtbag, I know nothing like that ever went on. I know my niece hasn't had the easiest life, like i said her mom is less than competent as a parent and her father left when she was a toddler, and she was also diagnosed with type 1 diabetes when she was 9, but this just seems so out of control for a kid that just turned 12... I am currently trying to find some kind of therapist that she can talk to, but its proving difficult to convince her mother that she really needs it, and also to find one that's affordable. I haven't yet talked to my niece directly. Today was the first day I was made aware of any of this and she is still at school. I plan on going over and having a face-to-face talk with her. I just really don't even know what to say. I'm in my mid 20's so I remember what it was like to be that age and nothing like this ever happened to me. I self harmed for a bit when I was 16, but as far as sex goes I didn't even think about it until I was 16 or 17. It seems so young for her to be going through this... any suggestions or help would be greatly appreciated.
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their body is raging with hormones, its when this behavior starts
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