I now live a couple hours from my parents and it’s hard to spend a lot of time out there. I generally don’t have more than a couple of weekends here and there to spend at my parents house, so my mom insists on taking my daughter for a week at a time as often as possible, which equals out to at least once every other month. I’m normally very cautious about her spending time away from me because I never want her to feel uncomfortable in an environment that neither of us have control over. However, I do know that she is well cared for while she’s there.
I’ve been fighting this for a while though because she’s been getting progressively worse about leaving to come home. At first it was just crying at goodbyes, which is understandable, but then the crying started continuing to the car ride home, and then through the rest of the day, and now it's going on for days after she gets home. I've been telling my mom that I'm uncomfortable with her going there for a week at a time because of this and she says that she'll talk to her about it and it'll be fine. She even went so far as to say that if I wasn’t going to bring her then she would come and get her. When she talked to her about it this time she told her that she never has to feel like she won't see her again because even if I won't bring her there then she will come and pick her up.
I'm really confused about this. Her father and I have been separated before and she rarely even asks about him when they are apart, though they have a very close and strong relationship. She’s closest to me and it’s never a problem when we’re apart. She doesn't say anything about my dad, who she adores, though he can tell her no a little better than my mom can. I’m not really sure how to react to the situation, so any insight is welcome!