My 5 year old still won't leave me alone; she is constantly wanting to "Play." I am a stay at home mom and my husband works from home, so if it isn't me, it's him she's after. She thinks the world revolves around her and we just can't get her to understand she needs to play by herself sometimes. She gets these big puppy dog eyes and gives us this look like she just had her whole world taken from her. It's heartbreaking for us. We feel quilty and manipulated! HELP!!!
At that age it can be so hard to find things to keep them busy and happy...my kids are 4 and 2 and I remember spending every waking moment with them...when they hit about 2 or so they were fine playing by themselves for a while, but even to this day if I go to the bathroom, I have to answer a million questions about where I'm going and when I'll be back! At 13 months, my kids wouldn't stand for me to walk away either...the only saving grace I found was Baby Einstein videos...every evening when I would make dinner I would pop one of those in and it was the only time of day they would let me be! I was so against kids watching TV until I discovered those videos, then I decided it was worth it for that 1/2 hour I got to make dinner ALONE!
Now it's a different story since my 4-year-old won't watch those videos anymore and even my 2-year-old is getting out of them...now they just beg to help me cook dinner!
Good luck! I don't have a great answer for you, but I know how that is and it can be very frustrating!
Thanks for the suggestions. I do ignore him to an extent, but I guess I give in once his face is red, his nose is running and I'm scared the neighbors will hear him and think I'm beating him or something! LOL
We did buy him a pool a few days ago (a frog pool where part of it is covered), but suddenly it is 98 degrees outside! South Carolina has the most spontaneous weather! I know a pool is nice and cool, but that's a little too hot to enjoy!
We hope to get him in it closer to the evening.
We also bought him a swing, which he loves!
Anyway, I'm sure we'll work through it...thanks again!
My nephew is the same way with my SIL. She can't do anything with him not whining about wanting to be held or near her. And he will be 2 next month! I actually have to agree I would start ignoring him, I know it can be hard to hear a baby upset and everything, but he has got to learn that you cant focus on him all of the time. What if you tried putting him in the same room as you are that time. Like if you wanted to clean the kitchen or start dinner, put him in a highchair with a toy or a quick snack that way he can be in the same room with you but not "bothering" you.
Sometimes you will just need to ignore him. It sounds harsh butin reality after a short time he will understand how to play by himself. And like you said you can see him from the kitchen so you will know if he is yelling if he needs help or just wants attention. As for going outside...get out in the mornings before it gets to hot....get a little pool with a shade unit on it and play in that to cool him down and my guys at a very young age always loved to be in the sandbox....that way he plays, you have a lawn chair, bench or blanket to sit on to read a magazine but not totally distracted...gives you a break and lets him develop some independence to do things himself.....
Hey girl! I definitely have advice for you...get your kiddo addicted to an episode of Barney, as I have. It's the "Airplanes" one and he loves it more than anything! We get home in the afternoons and he hands me the remote so I can turn it on. He'll sit there for the entire 27 minutes and not even blink...it's terrific. It gives me 27 whole minutes to go potty, change, look through the mail, unpack all of our daily junk, make him a little snack, and get dinner started.
I'm giving you a hard time :) I know you've been struggling with your kiddo and everything...good luck finding some time for yourself :) I'll write you back on myspace by tomorrow...I swear it!