Potty training, when to worry?

[Piratesparrot]

My son will be 5 soon and is still not "getting" potty training, we have as much diaper free time as possible, lots of praise for attempts on the potty but we are getting nowhere.
His preschool have dismissed my concerns repeatedly talling me he's on the 'later stages of normal' for boys and not to panic.
I'm getting frustrated with it, I know no other children his age in diapers and I'm worrying as school is not far off, he's bright as a button in every other area but this.
I'm close to tears over it.

[mantamommy]

How did you get on with this, I'm presuming the problem sorted itself?

[mantamommy]

His preschool are correct 4 isn't that unusual. so don't panic any, they've probably seen this before.
Toddlers can be so stubborn and once a resistance battle starts it can be hard to break that cycle.

A trick you could try is buying a size smaller and pretending your son has out grown the diapers, a week of telling him how grown up and big he's getting leading up to it can work wonders.

Good luck and please try not to panic, stress out or cry, as hard as it can be to Believe in your situation it IS normal.

[Piratesparrot]

Thank you, I will try this idea. Right now my husband thinks we need to back off as he's under too much pressure.

[Piratesparrot]

I tried buying a size smaller and play acting that he'd outgrown them, he wasn't very convince and has peed his underpants without attempting to get to the toilet.

[RockRose]

He's old enough at this point to tell you why he's not using the toilet.  Does he not feel the urge to go in time?  Is there something about the bathroom that frightens him?  Does he not care?  Is he trying to not have to go to school?

[Piratesparrot]

Thank you so much for replying!
He knows when he's pooping as he hides but I'm unsure about wee, he can seem to hold it though so I guess he can control it, he can go a couple of hours diaper free without wetting, but doesn't care when he's wet, he's not bothered by it.

I can't get any clear answers as to why he won't use the toilet or potty, he says he's not scared.

[Sharryn92]

i had the same thing with my four year old and didnt matter what i done the hole reward thing high praises getting him to come underwear shopping  with me he just refused to use the toilet and than i realised he done it because it was the only thing we couldnt make him do a real power thing so one monday morning i just took the nappies off and refused to put one on him he cried for an hour and a half and stopped took a week of accidents but one he finally understood i wasnt giving in and desi dee ed to use the toilet

[Piratesparrot]

Thank you, we actually tried something similar a while ago and he just didn't care when he was wet or dirty