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sexual curiosity?

I walked into our living room today and caught my 2 year old daughter on top of my 5 year old son. He was holding her and humping her!

His pants were on but unbuttoned.

I explained to him that what he did was wrong because it was for grown ups only and not for children.

I also told him that people don't do that to their brothers or sisters.

He seems to be very interested in his sister and I know that he's touched her before and I thought I took care of it.

I've even caught him peeking at me in the bathroom throught the keyhole in the door.

Why is he so curious?

I no longer let them take baths together and they are not allowed to be naked unless they are taking baths or getting dressed.

He has shown her his private areas before. I just think that this is NOT normal curiosity and that somebody at some point has done something to him. I just have a bad feeling.

I'm not sure what else to do or what direction to go with this.

Should I talk to a doctor?

What else should I explain to both of them?

I'm so shocked and at a loss of what to do next.
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5694898 tn?1372543842
its natural for anyone any age 2 do stuff like that when i have kids i wont make them do anything like that but if they explore they explore their not gonna be like that for ever i think it is very important for kids to xp that i am very realistic
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Did you check her private to see if it was red or look like it had been violated?  You should have taken her to the doctor so they could have looked for bruises.  I would have went straight to that parents house.   3 years old or not your daughter knows what happens to her and you should always believe what she tells you. JMO
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Kids are curious at all ages. I think at age 7 I might worry but never call cps. I do understand how some people see it as someone inappropriately touched their child but you have to put yourself in your childs shoes and see it the way a child of whatever age sees and understands it.  I have a two yr old son and if he touched another child I can't get on to him cause he doesn't understand. Like he doesn't know what sex is. Duh! Just like a fiv year old. they dont really fully know and understand unless youR really going into full detail and teaching your child all about sex and stuff. (Which I don't recommend)  . And beating up someones mom cause their 3 or 5 yr old touched ur daughter cause they are to young to understand is very adult like. Let's teach our children violence instead of being an adult and talkin to the other parent about the situation that made u uncomfortable. Way to go! YouR teaching your child well. Ya thank god u found jesus cause u really need some guidance.
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4707031 tn?1358202137
my situation is similar, except for i have 7 and 8 yr old boys and a 3 yr old daughter. it has been a year since i found out and was able to began watching more closely, blessed i was that my baby girl is the youngest of 6 and very intelligent even though she could not talk, was able to give me a full story on what was going on, of course i freaked out..... i blamed my 7 n 8 yr olds but more myself till its been a whole yr and im still so messed up about it that i jus came apon your story today. however i wish i would have done this type of search much earlier because you all have helped me remember that kids do experiment..... instead i've spent all this time feeling guilty and ashamed and had no one to talk to, i thought i failed my baby girl, i love her so much, i felt i was the worst... and not knowing what to do i got the wrong people involved and made more of a mess  
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4216832 tn?1351192714
Hello kimaling.. i had to comment on ur post because it brought up a red flag with the kids in my house.. I have a 2 year old daughter she has not shown any signs of curiosity or anything yet, but she has a 4 yr old sister from her dads past relationship. I have caught her a couple of times checking her self out and kind of touching her private, I dont have her often she is usually going from her moms house to grandmas house and to our house. What has got me questioning her is there has been times where she has grabbed my boobs and tried to kiss me when i was changing her after a shower. I thought it was weird cuz it wasnt like a lovable kiss a kid gives their mom but more like romantic.Recently she surprised me because out of nowhere i was doing something and she comes and pokes me from behind i literraly felt her lil finger. she had never done that before she would just slap my butt or grab it.. So when u said to worry when the kids initiate something like that I'm worry because my daughter loves her sister and always follows her and one time i caought them lokked in my closet.. it really worries me. I can not talk to the mother because she takes everything so deffensive.. What can I do, if their is anything i should do...
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Please could you send me the link for this website.
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