My daughter is very afraid of being alone and I am looking for a way to help her. She has spoken to me about it in the hope that I can help her solve the problem. Any problem she has and we cannot solve by discussing she knows and trusts that I will research and find a solution. She is a very intelligent and articulate girl full of fun and generally quite happy. I suspect her problem stems from when she was 4-5 she had to deal with a tremendous amount!! Her mum and I split up so of course she had to move house, but we did 50% custody for the next 4 years until work forced me move 50 miles away (I still see her frequently, but I am a weekend and dad now with a week night visit), both her grandparents died in a freak accident and a very close family friend who seemed totally healthy died within 5 months cancer. She had to deal with all this within the space of about 14 months, that’s such an awful amount for a young child to have to deal with. If she was younger it probably would not have been as bad but being as intelligent as she is she understood all that was going on.
Well that’s the background. Her fear seems to be that something bad is going to happen, someone will come in, break into the house, hurt her or someone she cares about. Even though she is never actually left alone there is always someone else in the house or garden. Even as a baby she never liked to play alone and still doesn't. She will always be reading a book or watching the television or on her computer.
In School, her popularity, marks, attendance etc could not be better, she loves the Girl Guides.
Oh she is also scared of the dark.
Thanks very much for any help you may be able to provide