My husband & I took our son to a doctor just yesturday, He is a neurosicologist, I' not sure if thats how to spell it. My husband has never hit my son with a belt but he did get spanked often. The reason is because nothing works with our son when it comes to disipline. The only way he would listen was after he got spanked. We tried everything, grounding, taking things away from him and nothing worked. I went in the office with my son and he told the doctor about his dad spanking him and yelling at him. The doctor talked to my husband and I and told us that most kids that go thru that when they are young become bullies to everyone when they get older. We are going to have our son tested for ADHA and at the same time start family councling. I'm not sure if thats an option for your son but we are praying it works for us.
I've got it! :D Why dontcha take the child to live with you? If his parents don't really want him, that could be PERFECT for everybody! :D
I have to agree with the others ... your grandchild needs help no child should be abused and it will get worse .call CPS
I am sorry to say that here was a period in my life of 3 years when I lived with an abusive individual. My son and I were both abused during this time. I always intervened on my sons behalf and took the beating myself. I finally got him out of there. I beat myself up for those lousy years. Other than that period,my son was never abused. He does have a wife who favors the second child and who encourages these punishments. She has always been mean to the older boy for some reason. The punishments come because the older boy is resentful and jealous of the younger,favored child. I have witnessed many instances when the mother would come in from work and kiss and hug the younger child and ignore the older completely, She still acts this way. The younger childs room is filled with toys and the older child has hardly any in his room. He has told me that the parents never buy him anything...
When you call CPS, you need to make it VERY VERY clear to them that the father has retaliated in the past when help is offered to the child. They need to know this, because that's not typical - parents usually freak out a little and back off. They need to know that any intervention - even a visit or a call from CPS - they offer will cause your grandson to suffer worse treatment.
So if they don't plan to take real steps to intervene, and if these allegations are substantiated it won't make CPS react strongly, they shouldn't cause this child pain. So you need to establish that first - these are the allegations that are true - if you are able to substantiate them, will you take action?
I am curious, though. This kind of terroristic parenting is usually a result of being parented this way. Was your son treated this way in his childhood? Is this his biological son? Is his marriage on the rocks?
Hi, I hope your son is open to getting some help. That would be my first suggestion. If he isn't willing to co-operate I would let him know that you are planning to get your grandson some help whether he likes it or not. I hope he agrees to get help regarding appropriate behaviour managent for children. You need to help your grandson this is a horrid situation all round for everyone involved. Good luck and take care.
If talking to your son makes things worse YES, please call children's services. ANY adult who would take things out on a child (punishing the boy for telling you) has issues and it needs to be addressed. You will be doing your grandson a favor.