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PCOS is ruining my life
I am 19 and was diagnosed with PCOS a year ago. I have read some other peoples views on this site and I dont know how you brave women can cope with it. Im sitting here crying right now as I type.
Im obese and have been suffering from despression since i was 15-16 due to people bullying me about my weight. I havent talked to anyone that I usually have outbursts and cry on my own at night as I feel all my underlying problems are getting on top of me. I used to weight 21.7 stone and my doctor prescribed me blue pills called Orlistat (Xenecol) which stores 30% of the fat I eat and it comes out as oil when I empty my bowels.
Also he prescribed me Metformin for the PCOS but I took it for a few weeks and stopped and I get really bad stomach cramps and I cant go out as a stomach ache could occur at any time and I could accidentally soil myself. ( I used to soil myself a few years ago and still do on occasion)
Also..as I have PCOS i get very excessive hair in embarrasing places..I get very dark hairs on my chin and I used a hair removal cream last night and have a bad chemical burn on my neck/chin area..Nothing is going right for me at all. I feel like breaking down because of all my problems.
My underlying problems consist of:
- Sleep apnea (Lack of sleep)
- Obesity
- Pre - diabetic
- PCOS
- ADD (Attention Deficieny Disorder)
- Severe mental disorder (Anger management)
- Otitis Externa ( Constant inflammation of the ear)
- High Blood Pressure
- Indegestion
I feel as of I am not worth anything and my confidence is at rock bottom. I have friends but I know they all use me im just too scared to say anything and I dont want to lose them and be on my own.
Its no use talking to my mother or other family members about this as I dont get on with them and dont trust them and I constantly argue with my mother on a daily basis. At night time if I go to bed at 10pm I wont fall asleep until 5-6am..as I constantly worry in my head that I am going to die in my sleep that night as I get very bad chest pains in my heart.
Another underlying problem is also that I am extremely broody..I know it sounds weird but I have wanted a baby for 2 years now and feel as if i should have one asap before my PCOS gets any worse. But then again there is no guy who would like a disgusting person like me.
I dont know why I feel like this but I desperately need some advice on what to do here and I would like to pick myself up from this and rebuild my life.
Im obese and have been suffering from despression since i was 15-16 due to people bullying me about my weight. I havent talked to anyone that I usually have outbursts and cry on my own at night as I feel all my underlying problems are getting on top of me. I used to weight 21.7 stone and my doctor prescribed me blue pills called Orlistat (Xenecol) which stores 30% of the fat I eat and it comes out as oil when I empty my bowels.
Also he prescribed me Metformin for the PCOS but I took it for a few weeks and stopped and I get really bad stomach cramps and I cant go out as a stomach ache could occur at any time and I could accidentally soil myself. ( I used to soil myself a few years ago and still do on occasion)
Also..as I have PCOS i get very excessive hair in embarrasing places..I get very dark hairs on my chin and I used a hair removal cream last night and have a bad chemical burn on my neck/chin area..Nothing is going right for me at all. I feel like breaking down because of all my problems.
My underlying problems consist of:
- Sleep apnea (Lack of sleep)
- Obesity
- Pre - diabetic
- PCOS
- ADD (Attention Deficieny Disorder)
- Severe mental disorder (Anger management)
- Otitis Externa ( Constant inflammation of the ear)
- High Blood Pressure
- Indegestion
I feel as of I am not worth anything and my confidence is at rock bottom. I have friends but I know they all use me im just too scared to say anything and I dont want to lose them and be on my own.
Its no use talking to my mother or other family members about this as I dont get on with them and dont trust them and I constantly argue with my mother on a daily basis. At night time if I go to bed at 10pm I wont fall asleep until 5-6am..as I constantly worry in my head that I am going to die in my sleep that night as I get very bad chest pains in my heart.
Another underlying problem is also that I am extremely broody..I know it sounds weird but I have wanted a baby for 2 years now and feel as if i should have one asap before my PCOS gets any worse. But then again there is no guy who would like a disgusting person like me.
I dont know why I feel like this but I desperately need some advice on what to do here and I would like to pick myself up from this and rebuild my life.
First of all yo have been getting great advise from the other ladies here. We can't stress enough that you are young and you need realize that you are beautiful and special and you have a lot to live for.
I too have PCOS and some of the same issues as you facial hair which is extremely annoying I tend to do the waxing thing but you really have to wait for it to get to a certain stage which is horrible otherwise i tweeze. I need an alternative soon because I am becoming very self concious... anyway i live iwth it as i have other things to worry about.
I understand about the weight issue as well, what i have done is to try and eat better. Fruits as snacks, I am not a vegetable person but i try. I take my metform twice a day and it really does help. It used to make me feel so sick but it got better.
The long and short of it is you have to love yourself before you can love others. You will be ok, you're young.
Good luck and there are lots of great ladies on this site so feel free to ask questions and vent.
I too have PCOS and some of the same issues as you facial hair which is extremely annoying I tend to do the waxing thing but you really have to wait for it to get to a certain stage which is horrible otherwise i tweeze. I need an alternative soon because I am becoming very self concious... anyway i live iwth it as i have other things to worry about.
I understand about the weight issue as well, what i have done is to try and eat better. Fruits as snacks, I am not a vegetable person but i try. I take my metform twice a day and it really does help. It used to make me feel so sick but it got better.
The long and short of it is you have to love yourself before you can love others. You will be ok, you're young.
Good luck and there are lots of great ladies on this site so feel free to ask questions and vent.
Well, I've been on the pill almost 3 years (on and off) and I didn't gain weight with it, because I was controling my weight with the Metformin and diet. I at one point lost 62.5lbs, I have sruggled with it for the past year (personal issues) and gained 13lbs back. I think the pill is your best option, it will control your periods in which you need. I use to be like you with the bleeding. I would start what seemed to be a normal period, then stop after 7 days and then pick up in between spotting until the nest period. I finally seeked treatment in April 07 after I spent the whole month of March bleeding and in pain. So far everything has been working. Periods come on time every month and last about 3 days and are very light, with minor cramping.
As far as the boyfriend issue....don't rush it!!! Let me tell you something, at 11 I got my first boyfriend and spent 3 years with him. Thought he was the one and lost my virginity to. Well, 2 months later after that...we broke up and that was it. From the age of 14 to 20 I never had another "real" boyfriend again. So I know the lonely feeling...but when you wait...Mr. Right will find you. And for me, he found me almost 3.5 years ago....and I couldn't be happier. It will happen...trust me :-)
The point I'm going for is...your young, you need to get your health in order first and then there will be plenty of time to find that someone special. And never say your ugly! You are a beautiful young woman that has alot to live for plus you have respect for yourself...which is good!!
As far as the boyfriend issue....don't rush it!!! Let me tell you something, at 11 I got my first boyfriend and spent 3 years with him. Thought he was the one and lost my virginity to. Well, 2 months later after that...we broke up and that was it. From the age of 14 to 20 I never had another "real" boyfriend again. So I know the lonely feeling...but when you wait...Mr. Right will find you. And for me, he found me almost 3.5 years ago....and I couldn't be happier. It will happen...trust me :-)
The point I'm going for is...your young, you need to get your health in order first and then there will be plenty of time to find that someone special. And never say your ugly! You are a beautiful young woman that has alot to live for plus you have respect for yourself...which is good!!
Thanks you guys, you're all so nice!
To msnniki412: Ive been taking the Orlistat since last May and have lost roughly just over 3 stone. In the first 3 weeks I lost 18 lbs (1 stone and 4 lbs) and I felt great for it but since losing 3 stone my weight has been yo-yoing between 18.7 stone and 19 stone.
I think mainly the reason im so depressed is possible because of my periods. I came on friday (extremely heavy) and AWAYS have to wear 2 night time pads..and I change them 3 times a day. I come on at any time..some times im on for 3 weeks at a time. This time round I was off for 15 days exactly and came back on.
Just when im getting over my PMS, i start my period again.
And I doesnt feel great when I have the runs and my period at the same time!
My doctor wont prescribe me the Pill as it will make me put on the weight..which I dont really need. He referred me to a gynaecoligist to talk about the coil to make my periods lighter but I havent heard anything yet. But to be honest I dont want to take the coil as i dont feel theres any need to..its not gonna make anything better for me..just my periods..plus, ive heard it hurts. Ive never had boyfriends before and am basically a virgin so theres no need for me to have the coil.
At the moment i get upset about not having a boyfriend as people around me who are younger than me are having babies and have boyfriends..and heres me..fat and ugly with nothing..and i think a coil will make my worries worse as they're to stop people getting pregnant..but im not going to get pregnant as i dont have a boyfriend. And i dont sleep around as im waiting for the right man (if he ever comes along.)
To msnniki412: Ive been taking the Orlistat since last May and have lost roughly just over 3 stone. In the first 3 weeks I lost 18 lbs (1 stone and 4 lbs) and I felt great for it but since losing 3 stone my weight has been yo-yoing between 18.7 stone and 19 stone.
I think mainly the reason im so depressed is possible because of my periods. I came on friday (extremely heavy) and AWAYS have to wear 2 night time pads..and I change them 3 times a day. I come on at any time..some times im on for 3 weeks at a time. This time round I was off for 15 days exactly and came back on.
Just when im getting over my PMS, i start my period again.
And I doesnt feel great when I have the runs and my period at the same time!
My doctor wont prescribe me the Pill as it will make me put on the weight..which I dont really need. He referred me to a gynaecoligist to talk about the coil to make my periods lighter but I havent heard anything yet. But to be honest I dont want to take the coil as i dont feel theres any need to..its not gonna make anything better for me..just my periods..plus, ive heard it hurts. Ive never had boyfriends before and am basically a virgin so theres no need for me to have the coil.
At the moment i get upset about not having a boyfriend as people around me who are younger than me are having babies and have boyfriends..and heres me..fat and ugly with nothing..and i think a coil will make my worries worse as they're to stop people getting pregnant..but im not going to get pregnant as i dont have a boyfriend. And i dont sleep around as im waiting for the right man (if he ever comes along.)
Well said! Totally agree with all you said!
Now I do wonder about the medication spironolactone. Did your gyn pescribe this, or your primary? I will do a google on it for some more info. Has it helped much with hair? I have the annoying dark hair on my chin (mainly in 2 spots, with a few strays on the rest of my chin and neck). I too shave about every other day, because the waxing is only good if you let the hair grow a certain lenth. I'll have to talk with my doctor about this.
Now I do wonder about the medication spironolactone. Did your gyn pescribe this, or your primary? I will do a google on it for some more info. Has it helped much with hair? I have the annoying dark hair on my chin (mainly in 2 spots, with a few strays on the rest of my chin and neck). I too shave about every other day, because the waxing is only good if you let the hair grow a certain lenth. I'll have to talk with my doctor about this.
First if all, you are 19, you have your whole life ahead of you. I was diagnosed around your age, I am 31 now. You need to know that you are worth it. You are a young lady with her entire life in front of her.
Lets start with medication. I currently take metformin, birth control, and spironolactone. The metformin is important. I too had sensitivity to the medication (the runs!!!) but it got better over time, with regular use. Talk to your doc about upping your dose slowly, starting about 500 mg a day for a while. The birth control regulates your periods and the spironolactone controls the testosterone your body is producing, which causes the excess hair growth. I have shaved my chin for YEARS and have learned to live with it, everyday. The spironolactone has helped though, it's not as dark or thick as it was. I take 25 mg a day. The medication is primarily used for high blood pressure. To lose weight, I began walking about a mile a day and laying off the soda. I lost about 25 pounds and have been able to maintain it, just with those two simple things. I also drank tons of water.
Finally, a baby isn't going to make you feel whole. It may for a little bit, but once the routine of a mom becomes reality, you may realize you are too young for such a big responsibility. And as for a man. There are plenty to go around. You need to love yourself first, then find a man who realizes what an awesome person you are. I wish you luck and I hope you never give up!
Lets start with medication. I currently take metformin, birth control, and spironolactone. The metformin is important. I too had sensitivity to the medication (the runs!!!) but it got better over time, with regular use. Talk to your doc about upping your dose slowly, starting about 500 mg a day for a while. The birth control regulates your periods and the spironolactone controls the testosterone your body is producing, which causes the excess hair growth. I have shaved my chin for YEARS and have learned to live with it, everyday. The spironolactone has helped though, it's not as dark or thick as it was. I take 25 mg a day. The medication is primarily used for high blood pressure. To lose weight, I began walking about a mile a day and laying off the soda. I lost about 25 pounds and have been able to maintain it, just with those two simple things. I also drank tons of water.
Finally, a baby isn't going to make you feel whole. It may for a little bit, but once the routine of a mom becomes reality, you may realize you are too young for such a big responsibility. And as for a man. There are plenty to go around. You need to love yourself first, then find a man who realizes what an awesome person you are. I wish you luck and I hope you never give up!
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As for your sleep issues, I do suggest to maybe prop your bed up using extra pillows to help with the ease of breathing. You may also want to see a doctor on that and they might have another suggestion for you as well. Also, I know you may think this is inpossible but losing 10% of your current body weight will IMPROVE your overall health status. It may seem hard at first, but really once you get your body use to eating healthy...it becomes easier.
As for as the baby issues go...your still so young! Your 19, you have so many more years ahead to have a baby. If you start controling your PCOS and losing weight, your issues of having a baby will improve, and you may be able to get pregnant on your own. Many of the ladies on here with PCOS have had babies, or are currently pregnant now. But you have to be willing to start getting healthy now.
And again, we here on Medhelp are always here to help and talk. So if you ever need somebody to talk to, come on here and somebody is always available.