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51 and wanting to become pregnant

Im 51 and my fiance is 57. We have been talking about having a baby but worried about the health implications for both me and the baby.  Can anyone help?
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377493 tn?1356502149
Thank you, I will look into it.  Maybe this will be the right route for us.

Mysty, I am in Calgary Canada.  The fertility clinic's here don't seem to have many embryo's available for adoption, hence the rules they have applied.
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161938 tn?1212169149
where do you live
Donor embryoss are very easily obtained in the Unites states
I have gotten plenty and the cost is very low
There is no charge allowed for the embryos - the procedure generally costs less than 2500 dollars
I highly recommend
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hey Adgal, are you familiar with California Conceptions? They're a big IVF clinic that specializes in embryo donation and I am going to use them if this preganancy doesn't materialize. They are worth looking into- their success rates are phenomenal and there is a money back guarantee- for $9800 you get three transfers in a one yr period (give or take a couple months). Its like a big shared cycle-you make up a profile of what youre wanting and they will match you to frozen embryos. You get alot of info on the donors and the sperm is right from California Cryobank. I have heard nothing but good things about them and alot of their patients come from out of state since theyre so reasonable and successful. I think it would be worth coming from canada-only a couple of trips are required as it is a frozen cycle, not a fresh one. I am going to wait and see how my pregnancy turns out and then go that route. I also am not going to spend a bunch of money on IVF with my own eggs just to likely fail.
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1647691 tn?1363723702
I'm sorry but I'm with adgal and fail to see how using donor eggs is a lack of respect for life.  There are very few people who put there embryos up for adoption and yes they have to be adopted similar to a adopting a child, only you have NO guarantee they will implant and ultimately become a child.  You make it sound like adopting an embryo is a done deal and you will automatically get a child from one of them.  There is absolutely NO more guarantee that an adopted frozen embryo is going to implant and become a full term baby than there is with using a fertilized donor egg.  Ultimately implantation is left in God's hands and we can only pray that is what HE wants for us.      
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377493 tn?1356502149
Well, I don't agree with you that donor eggs are a lack of respect for life.  That being said, I would happily do donor eggs or embryo adoption.  I would also happily do adoption of a child any age 5 and under.  We have explored all of these options.  Embryo adoption is exceedingly difficult as very few people donate their frozen embryo's.  Here, you are only eligible to apply if you have done at least one failed IVF cycle with your own eggs.  In my case, we know that age is my problem so I am not willing to spend 10,000 + dollars for what I know will almost surely be a failed cycle.  So embryo adoption is not an option for me, at least not locally.  We are also pursuing adoption, but again, it is exceedingly difficult as very few children become available.  We have been trying for over 4 years.  So where is my lack of respect please?
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161938 tn?1212169149
I would never consider donor eggs - that is really a lack of respect for life!
BUT - the good news is there are millions of embryos already made waiting to be implanted and you can do that at any age
It is great - you will be the only parents the baby will know and you will save a life - what a gift you can give a baby!
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I would think you are considering IVF with donor eggs right? You are  unlikely going to conceive with your own eggs, thats if you're still even having monthly cycles. As long as your health is good, I don't think the baby would be in any danger. I would definitely get clearance from your doctor. You will probably not get alot of support from friends or family but that is something you're going to have to face having a child at your age. Good luck to you.
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803938 tn?1403748253
At 51, sorry but you have very little chance of getting pregnant naturally.

Your best chance is to use donor eggs (eggs from a younger woman), you'll first need to research fertility treatments in your area to choose a program - this is quite expensive.
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377493 tn?1356502149
Hi there!  At 51 the first step for you should be to see a fertility specialist.  Although some women do fall pregnant naturally at 51, it is pretty rare, and typically some intervention is required.  The specialist can run some tests and will also probably suggest a general physical to ensure your health is good.  This can help identify any potential health risks you may face, as well as help you understand what your options are.  THis can be done though, and if you are in good health already, the increased risks are there, but probably not as high as you might think. Every women is different.  Was there anything specific you were worrying about?

All the best to you.
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