Help! I feel so guilty...should I?

[Karoline001979]

I'm currently almost 6 months pregnant and am due in December.  This will be my parents first grandchild. The problem is that the company my husband works for wants to transfer him from Indiana to Colorado asap. All of my family lives in Indiana. My husband and I would have to sell our house and find a place there. I would have to find a new ob and everything. I feel kind of overwhelmed. I know my mom will freak out. I also feel bad because my mom just finished painting a mural in the nursery.  Also, my parents are separated and I'm the only person my dad has and he's 74. I think it would be exciting to move but am worried about my parents, especially my dad. I feel guilty just thinking about moving! Should I???

[CeCe1975]

Doing what is best for your husband & you is the most important thing. If taking this position will make life easier then that's a big plus.

[Dinochick]

I recently moved from Mississippi to Iowa for my husband.  He was blessed with a new job and better pay.  At 20 weeks I packed up our home and he flew home to help me drive to Iowa along with our one year old son. It's hard having my family 1700 miles away especially since my baby is due the day before Thanksgiving. However, God can helped me through it and he will help you with whatever decision you make.

[hinkypunkheid]

Support your husband.  He's the one you choose to grow old with.  Kids grow up and move away.  He never leaves.  Do what's best for your family.  

[chloegc1023]

Ur welcome.  Since ur already open to moving, it seems everyone would be happy if u at least stayed until after the baby is born.  U can rent ur home and have a realtor find u a good tenant to help take the stress out of finding one urself.  Goodluck and let us know what u guys decide to do!  

[T_marie85]

Sorry I just read what u said.  If u two are struggling now and need the pay increase then do what u need to do but if ur making it i would stay family comes first before money in my opinion.

[T_marie85]

Honestly I wouldn't be able to... Does ur husband have to accept?

[Karoline001979]

The job is a fantastic opportunity for my husband and he would make more money so he really doesn't want to turn it down. What you said to do would definitely make sense. Then I would also get to spend more time with my family too before I actually make the move and they could see the baby too. Thanks for the advice!

[chloegc1023]

That's tough.  What will happen to your husbands position with the company if he doesn't accept?  If it's a significant pay increase then it would seem that accepting will be in the best interest of your family.  Maybe you can stay with your mom or dad while he moves out for the position and then you move out after you have the baby.  He can come visit you for the birth and that way you don't have to change drs until after baby arrives and both of your parents will be able to be there for you at the same time.  I probably wouldn't be in a hurry to sell the house just yet since things sometimes don't work out in a different state.  It's a lot to swallow to sell the house find a new place to live, find a Dr, and birth of baby.  just sayin it might work out better if he goes out there first to check everything out first beforehand.