I got pregnant at 39, does that count? :>)) I was a career person and didn't start my family until later. Is this your first child? It seems that my colleagues, family or friends that had a pregnancy after 40 were already mothers and it is easier if that is the case. The people I know that had never had a child needed assistance and it did not happen easily with some never being successful. It takes the average couple a year to have a baby naturally. See your regular ob/gyn for guidance. Since you are older and wanting another child, they may refer you sooner to an infertility specialist. They will talk about your options. They can check your hormones, your eggs, etc. They will look at why you aren't getting pregnant and your egg situation. At 43, your eggs are less and also more prone to abnormalities but that is certainly not always the case. My sister had her third child at 42. My dear friend had her first child at 41. Her second at 43. NO issues. But that's just people I personally know. Do you still get your period regularly?