Hi, I think when you have experienced this kind of loss you're always going to be hard on yourself. I lost my baby boy at 29wks, when I became pregnant again I found out my daughter would be born with Down's Syndrome. She is nearly 4 and is the love of my life. I can't pretend life is easy, she has some health concerns and picks up illnesses and bugs easily because her immune system isn't great. I'm constantly tired but the desire for another child is still there. I actually think I maybe pregnant now but haven't tested. I have a 50 50 split amongst friends and family, some say I'm too old and couldn't cope, others say just do it. I'm frightened if I am but the thought of not being pregnant again is quite sad. The pressure we put on ourselves is staggering, there isn't a day that I don't think about my baby boy, I blame myself for not knowing there was something wrong and I feel I let him down. I also felt guilty about my daughter but now concentrate on being the best Mummy to her that I can.
Being a Mother is the hardest job around, I was a children's Nanny for 20yrs before and nothing, but nothing prepared me for the role of a parent. It's something I feel very very grateful to have experienced, and for all the tough times I would do it all over again. To feel the way I do when I cuddle my daughter and when she says "Mama", there is no feeling in the world like it. I'm sorry if I've gone off the subject, but I really want to say to you is, try not to compare yourself to other family members, you sound like a strong person considering all the problems you've been through. I don't think your depressed but maybe you have lost confidence in yourself? I think a lot of mother's do because we put pressure on ourselves and the world puts pressure on to get everything right and perfect. My world is absolutely fine as long as I've got my little girl with me, I think she gives me the confidence to try again for another baby. I wish you peace and happiness x
I am so sorry for your losses. I have never experienced miscarriages, but I understand struggles. I know if you depend on & trust Jesus, He will bring you through ANYTHING. Even the feelings of shame. He continues to be here for me everyday of my life. I have prayed for you & your family. Be blessed.
I know how you are feeling. It has taken me 21 years and 8 miscarriages to have one. I didn't even want to tell my mom I was pregnant with this one on her birthday when I found out because of my past miscarriages. I wouldn't be ashamed of the past miscarriages though, if I was you and I was a month late I would be checking to see if I was pregnant.
I am sorry to hear of your prior loss, especially when you were so far along. I can't even imagine how you felt since all of mine were very early losses.