Thanks Pam! I'm sorry to say that up until now I was one of those that always listened but never asked. You are right, they work for us. From now on I'm going to speak up.
Again, Thanks!
Lori
Dear Pamela,
Thank you for emphasizing this oh so important point. Alas, because of Dr. shortages, many of us do not have the luxury of finding another Dr:(
I tend to ask a lot of questions of many professionals and I'm always prepared to be transparent and accountable in my own work. But I'm astonished at how many people - whether they are doctors or contractors or financial planners - are genuinely surprised when I do ask those questions. Too many of us are afraid or intimidated to ask about implications....thanks for reminding me to assert myself this afternoon.
With so many newcomers, a whole bunch of BFP's and a few of us undergoing various tests, etc. I started thinking about this post. I know my new OB is night and day from my old one, and I can't believe how much better I feel dealing with her. I thought I should "bump" this post back to the top. I know I needed the reminder!!
Have a great day everyone.
Amanda
Thanks for your comment. I feel better knowing that you think he's on the right track. I got a call from him today saying my blood work for progesterone (?) is fine, but my hubby's semen analysis is abnormal (something about not many live sperms and not able to move much). I'm going to post another question about this.
Thanks again,
Mary
From what you've said, it sounds like your new OB/GYN is on top of things. If you are 35+ and have been TTC for a year, and no pregnancy, then it sounds to me that he is offering you the routine tests that you should have done to check your levels. I have never seen an RE, but alot of women on this forum have, and could probably respond more precisely to your concerns. But, he does sound like he's advising you correctly to what you need to have checked out! Good Luck!
Speaking of which, I felt confused after leaving my new ob/gyn office recently. I visited him the first time and told him that I've been trying for a year, so he offered me this: 1) progesterone test 2) semen analysis 3) HSG. My old ob/gyn thought I should try for 6 more months naturally just b/c I didn't have any issue with my son who is 3 now. I had #1 and #2 done with no result yet. He said once he has the results in we'll schedule #3. We went over my history. He examined me. I guess my cervix is ok then. When he talked about HSG, it was above my head. I had to go back to this forum and read about it. He gave me prescription for antibiotic and told me to take pain med also for HSG. Do you feel he's ok? I thought only RE does this kind of thing. I didn't expect these many things to do after the first visit. He also mentioned if HSG doesn't help, the next thing will be Clomiq. I do ovulate every month, and my cycles are regular unless I'm sick or stressed. I'm not sure if I'm on the right track or not. I do want to try for #2 but feel overwhelmed with all this. Thanks Ladies!
True, they are working for you! My dr. said it best I think...
He said, do you want your tubes tied? I said, NO! Gosh, do you want to tie them?
He said, "No, that's bad for business"!
Thank you for your comments! I have no reservations asking or posing questions to anyone when I am doubtful or feel skeptical, especially when it comes to my health and well-being...But, alot of women do. And just because a doctor is "nice" to you, or has a reputation in the community as being "the best" or "most experienced" remember...one size doesn't fit all, and that's with everything in life! Anyway, as Lisa said, "Follow your Instincts" Thanks for listening to me ba-ba-ba-babble!
Thanks Pam!
Thank you for speaking out.
I had and old fashion Obgyn all of my adult life. About 25 up to 41.
he was a nice older man with funny hair. He was the type that would say " don't worry dear".
When I finally met a man at age 40, my husband, who really loved me and wanted to marry me I approached my nice Obgyn for an annual and asked if I would be able to have children when I was 43, he said " oh sure honey, I deliver many babies for women age 44!!". I was 40 and didn't want to have a baby ASAP because I had a new partnership in my business and " yadda, yadda, yadda" anyway, after my husband proposed I went off the pill because I figured it would take a while to get Pg. I got Pg 2 weeks later and we got married 4 months later. I now have a wonderful; 3 year old. ( and husband).
Follow your instincts and always question your Dr. They are not God. They are mechanics of the human body.
If I had waited until 43 like I wanted - I would have only 2 m/c. My new Obgyn answers all my questions and told me if I feel somethings not right then somethings not right and I should listen to my body. She orders tests.
Lisa
Well said Pam. You are so right, its incredibly important. Too many of us just walk away without getting the information we needed!! A reminder like the one you just gave is so very important!! Thanks for taking the time to post this.
Amanda