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Could it Be???
I haven't been on here for quite awhile. Probably only a few of you know my history. But, to sum it up, it's almost impossible that I am pregnant. We stopped trying a year ago. I had a tubal reversal in February 2010 and they could only repair one tube. An HSG test in April 2010 showed that the one repaired tube was not clear. Anyway...my last period was May 18th. For the last six months, my cycle has been shorter than normal...usually 26 or 27 days. I've had tremendous mood swings for about a month. I really believe I'm heading quickly into perimenopause (I'll be 43 next month). Anyway, so period was 05/18/11. My husband and I only had sex on 06/01/11 and 06/05/11. My period was due 06/15/11. So far, nothing. Not a drop. No cramps. No PMS. I have *never* in my life been late for a period when I wasn't pregnant. I took a test on Wednesday evening and Thursday afternoon. Both were negative. The test - I looked up today - has a higher threshold than some (50 hcg, rather than 25 hcg like the First Response Early Result). Is there a snowball's chance in hell I'm actually pregnant? My husband told me this morning he thinks I am. Is it possible that I could get two negative tests on the day I was due, and the next day, and still be pregnant???
Tricia
Tricia
I must first tell you that i started reading all your mssgs that started on this page and when i got toward the end i skipped down to the results, because i was getting so excited for you. I don't even know you and i was so hoping to hear good news. I'm sorry that your test was neg. I tested the week b4 i started because my boobs hurt so bad and was neg. Then tested the day after i missed because still, sore painful boobs and it was pos. Took the test at 6am so i thought that my eyes were blurry. I just turned 39 so i was shocked. I just got married to my best friend this past sunday and he doesn't have children. We found out 12 days b4 the wedding. He's so excited. Sorry, didn't mean to go into all that. Just wanted to say that I know about getting your hopes up. And two dr's told me i couldn't have kids. I've had 5 surgeries for endometriosis. They don't know anything. This is #2. I believe in prayer girlfriend, and i will be praying for you.
UPDATE: Had a blood test yesterday. It was negative. So, I have an appointment next week to try to figure out what's going on. No period yet.
Silly goose - of COURSE I remember you. I will never forget you! I appreciate your encouragement. I think, at this point, I've just accepted that if it's supposed to happen, it will. I did what I could to open that door. I have not had another test to see if the one remaining tube is open. We had a lot of other things going on, and actually ended up almost divorced...even considering a baby at that time was ridiculous. Maybe God knows better than us. Things are great now - we have worked very hard on our marriage. And part of that has been accepting whatever comes our way. We are doing our best to be good parents to the kids we still have.
You are such a sweet woman, Heather. I always appreciate your notes...
Tricia
P.S. Tested again last night with a First Response. Still negative. But still no period...so I'm a week late now.
You are such a sweet woman, Heather. I always appreciate your notes...
Tricia
P.S. Tested again last night with a First Response. Still negative. But still no period...so I'm a week late now.
Hi Tricia, it's Heather from the MS Forum. Wonder if you remember me?
I am going to guess and say that you are NOT in menopause. But a good way to get an idea is not only the blood test that Tina said to get, but check the age of your maternal side of women and when they started menopause. That's a good indicator. Even if they had hysterectomy and any of them were left with their ovary's, they would have known when they started in to menopause. As I said, listen to Tina and get your hormone levels checked. Your periods have been regular all this time, UNLESS you were pregnant.
Even though I had a hysterectomy at age 27, my ovary's were left in. I was still ovulating every month, until I was almost 55. That's when my last abdominal ultrasound was done. They were checking my bladder and the tech noticed that I had just ovulated from my right ovary and had an ovulation cyst. So with you only been in your early 40's, I am going to bet that you are not in menopause. If you are perimenopausal and still want to conceive, they can give you medication to bring you back to regular periods.
Has your one tube ever been re-checked to look it's current condition? Our dear Sally from this Forum was told that one of her tubes was definitely closed, to only later find out that it was NOT closed. If there is the slightest opening in that tube; pregnancy is possible. It happened to my 41 yr old cousin, after a tubal reversal even after she was told that most definitely; both of her tubes were scarred shut. Her doctor said at the time of her C-section that her tubes were so scarred, that clamping her tubes now, seemed like a waste of time. But considering that she had just delivered a baby, she would tie her tubes again to be on the safe side. This is what my cousin wanted.
I want so much for you to have your miracle, Tricia. After all that you and DH have been through, you both deserve this chance. I will pray for you, Tricia. My heart is pounding at the anticipation that you really could be pregnant again. I've prayed for you for a long time. You will always hold a special place in my heart.
Big Motherly Hugs,
Heather
from the MS Forum
I am going to guess and say that you are NOT in menopause. But a good way to get an idea is not only the blood test that Tina said to get, but check the age of your maternal side of women and when they started menopause. That's a good indicator. Even if they had hysterectomy and any of them were left with their ovary's, they would have known when they started in to menopause. As I said, listen to Tina and get your hormone levels checked. Your periods have been regular all this time, UNLESS you were pregnant.
Even though I had a hysterectomy at age 27, my ovary's were left in. I was still ovulating every month, until I was almost 55. That's when my last abdominal ultrasound was done. They were checking my bladder and the tech noticed that I had just ovulated from my right ovary and had an ovulation cyst. So with you only been in your early 40's, I am going to bet that you are not in menopause. If you are perimenopausal and still want to conceive, they can give you medication to bring you back to regular periods.
Has your one tube ever been re-checked to look it's current condition? Our dear Sally from this Forum was told that one of her tubes was definitely closed, to only later find out that it was NOT closed. If there is the slightest opening in that tube; pregnancy is possible. It happened to my 41 yr old cousin, after a tubal reversal even after she was told that most definitely; both of her tubes were scarred shut. Her doctor said at the time of her C-section that her tubes were so scarred, that clamping her tubes now, seemed like a waste of time. But considering that she had just delivered a baby, she would tie her tubes again to be on the safe side. This is what my cousin wanted.
I want so much for you to have your miracle, Tricia. After all that you and DH have been through, you both deserve this chance. I will pray for you, Tricia. My heart is pounding at the anticipation that you really could be pregnant again. I've prayed for you for a long time. You will always hold a special place in my heart.
Big Motherly Hugs,
Heather
from the MS Forum
Hey, girl! I've often wondered how your "babyquest" was going. So have you given up, then? Curious...when did you start missing periods? I just can't help feeling that I'm still a little young for my periods to stop. But I have no one to compare it to; my mom, grandma, sister and maternal aunt all had hysterectomies in their 30's. I seem to take after my dad's side of the family, but I don't feel I can really call up my aunts I haven't seen for years and say, hey, when did you stop having periods? LOL. I *can* say, though, that my dad's mom had my youngest aunt when she was about 42 or 43.
You are in my prayers! I would go for a blood test now, but I would HAVE to know.
Hi Tricia! It's been a long time since I posted, too. I have sadly entered the dreaded "change". I haven't had a period in 3 or 4 months now. But, I have gotten all the too familiar signs of pg, too. It could just be hormones going crazy. One time I was so convinced, I bought a 3pk of hpts. When you do go into the dr have them check your levels to see if it is perimenopause. I'll keep my fingers crossed that it's really a bfp though ;0)
I'm kind of thinking that's the case with me. Because I really can't fathom why a test wouldn't be positive if I was truly pregnant. So there has to be some other explaination. Although since yesterday I have had other things...the sensitive nipples, peeing more, and I am WAY horny. (Sorry if TMI.) But that happened with my last three pregnancies, too...wanted to get "frisky" constantly. LOL. But that, too, could just be hormonal changes due to "the change." Hmmm.
fingers crossed. however, i don't think it is so unusual at your (our) age. i am also 43, completely regular cycles, ALWAYS, and last month, had a 42 day cycle for the first time ever. I tested like crazy but always negative. I think it is part of being 43, this is the way things slowly start. *****. but I hope you get different results!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
UPDATE: Called the doctor today. Spoke to the nurse. I told her I am now 5-6 days late, but that I tested today and it was negative. Told her that my cycles have been fairly regular, so no real signs of "the change." She said, depending on when implantation took place (which could be anywhere from 6-12 days past ovulation) I could still be getting a negative and be pregnant. I told her I'm just a little concerned because I only have one tube, and that it was supposedly blocked, so I worry about ectopic pregnancy. She said to wait until the end of the week. If my period still hasn't started, come in and they'll do a blood test.
Well, I tested at lunch. Negative. So, apparently my cycle is just really screwing up.
Tricia
Tricia
We tried for 7 yrs to have a baby. Finally accepted we weren't going to have children and months later I became very sick. Everyone knew pregnancy wasn't a possiblity but one friend handed me a test and said "I don't want to make you feel bad and if I am wrong I am truly sorry" She was right!! Turns out I was 11 wks pregnant. Four yrs later we had another miracle baby come into our lives.
Well, ladies...still no period. I will probably test tomorrow morning. I have to go buy a test today. I'm just reluctant. How many hundreds of dollars have we spent on HPTs, only to be disappointed? And I guess I'm just feeling so ambivalent about it...it took me so long to accept that I wouldn't get pregnant. I mean, really, what are the odds? And now that I have accepted it, and my husband and I are moving forward...I just don't get it. I don't want to be disappointed again. I am having a few symptoms - but, as we all know, the symptoms are so obscure they could be anything. I was nauseous yesterday morning, to the point of my mouth watering and almost throwing up. Yesterday I was SOOOO tired. Got plenty of sleep, but had that "OMG, I MUST SLEEP!" feeling that I had when I was pregnant with Ian. I went to bed at 8:30 last night! But, none of the symptoms I've had in my three pregnancies, i.e. VERY sensitive nipples. That was always a clue for me. I just keeping thinking, if this is true, if I am pregnant...wow. Someone must really want me to have a baby. We only had sex twice this month...
I was just thinking about you the other day. I really hope you are pregnant. Would your dr consider doing a blood test for you?
Hi SoCalTricia,
Hang in there, as I just got a BFP yesterday (faint line, but there- on CD44! I just turned 43 in June and we have been ttc for about 1.5 years. I had concieved a month after getting married, but m/c at 10 weeks, blighted ovum. I have two boys, remarried in 2009 and my DH did not have any children. I had been having normal periods between 26-33 days. The last 6 months my periods were all 26-28 days with serious PMS symptoms. Well, this month, I had NO PMS at all! No sore boobs like I usually have, no headaches, no nothing except for tons of discharge which appeared like ovulation discharge around the time I was expecting my period. I had cramping around CD23 and was sure AF was coming! But, nothing! I also had lower leg cramps and back pain. We bd'd earlier in my cycle, as I was tracking, and around June 4-6th. I thought my cycle was messed up because AF didn't show. However, due to the LACK OF symptoms I thought I would test again before going to the dentist (x-rays). It was a dollar store test and the line was definitely there (faint but colored). I had tested on CD 42, 43 and no line whatsoever on the same brand test - not even an evaporation line. CD 44 light, colored line. I am taking a digital today to reconfirm. Good luck to you! :)
Hang in there, as I just got a BFP yesterday (faint line, but there- on CD44! I just turned 43 in June and we have been ttc for about 1.5 years. I had concieved a month after getting married, but m/c at 10 weeks, blighted ovum. I have two boys, remarried in 2009 and my DH did not have any children. I had been having normal periods between 26-33 days. The last 6 months my periods were all 26-28 days with serious PMS symptoms. Well, this month, I had NO PMS at all! No sore boobs like I usually have, no headaches, no nothing except for tons of discharge which appeared like ovulation discharge around the time I was expecting my period. I had cramping around CD23 and was sure AF was coming! But, nothing! I also had lower leg cramps and back pain. We bd'd earlier in my cycle, as I was tracking, and around June 4-6th. I thought my cycle was messed up because AF didn't show. However, due to the LACK OF symptoms I thought I would test again before going to the dentist (x-rays). It was a dollar store test and the line was definitely there (faint but colored). I had tested on CD 42, 43 and no line whatsoever on the same brand test - not even an evaporation line. CD 44 light, colored line. I am taking a digital today to reconfirm. Good luck to you! :)
I'll be watching closely. Does sound a bit unusual for you considering your usual cycle.
It is possible not to test positive the day your P is due, and still be pg. Hope the next test is positive.
It is possible not to test positive the day your P is due, and still be pg. Hope the next test is positive.
You have no idea how badly I want that next test to be a positive. I want this for you even more then I want it for myself and that is the honest truth. Please keep me updated. I will be sending all sorts of positive thoughts your way. XOXO
Yeah, both tests were evening/afternoon. I called my doctor and spoke to the nurse. She said that, depending on the day of implantation, you may not test positive on the day of your missed period. She said to wait a week and test again. Since I'd given up on getting pregnant, I haven't been tracking ovulation or anything. Just my periods. So I don't even know when I ovulated. But I do know that we had sex on day 14 and again a few days later. Today is the fifth day late. So I guess I'll wait a couple days and see. I'm pretty nervous to find out, either way. Odd feeling.
Tricia
Tricia
If u took ur tests in the evening and not with fmu they could register negative. Good luck
Of course I have to be Pollyanna :) There have been cases (at least one I found documented in a medical journal) of women who are pregnant and don't test positive on a urine test. You may want to go to your health care provider for a blood test.
Hey there girl! It's been a long time since you posted! I completely second, ditto, plagerize whatever--what adgal said! I think anything is possible, but perhaps unlikely...because your cycle is so consistant and predictable, this just may be an indication that your body is changing, etc..I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!! Hope all is well! Pam
Hey Tricia. Well, you know I am always honest. In all truthfulness an HPT rated at 50 would most likely register positive the day after AF was due. Almost all market HPT's will. That being said, there are always exceptions such as a late ovulation or late implantation. So give it a try in another day or two and you should get your answer. Maybe try a slightly more sensitive test. I wish I could say it was likely, but I know you prefer an honest opinion.
My periods are doing the same thing right now and it's driving me bonkers. They have always always been 28 days, but now seem to range from 22 days to 30. Plays with the mind.
Anyhew, yes, it is possible. I just think it may be a bit unlikely. I sure hope I'm wrong. Love ya girl and think about you all the time. XOXO
My periods are doing the same thing right now and it's driving me bonkers. They have always always been 28 days, but now seem to range from 22 days to 30. Plays with the mind.
Anyhew, yes, it is possible. I just think it may be a bit unlikely. I sure hope I'm wrong. Love ya girl and think about you all the time. XOXO
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