When I was pregnant with my first I wanted the baby to be a boy so bad and it turned out to be a girl. I was a little disappointed since my hopes for a boy were very high, but let me tell you something, I feel extremely blessed with my beautiful girl. She is now almost 6, and she gets me like noone, she is such a blessing. When I was pregnant with my second(a boy) my husband was away and she was my main supported and main ccaregiver. She was always there with me and always "taking care" of me. My son and her are 4 1/2 years apart. The connection you have with a daughter is amazing,it's more than just the gender. At least it it's for me, I am now pregnant with my third and since she was there with me while pregnant and without my husband she understands me better and is more attentive towards me than my husband because we both have been through it once. She is so mature and so caring at such a short age. I feel like I wouldn't have had that kind of support and attention from a boy through everything I have been through. Sorry if it's long, but if you build a strong and beautiful relationship with a daughter, she will be there when you need her the most, and daughters always need their mommy unlike some boys who are so independent and forgetful haha. Well I guess the same goes for some girls. All I can say is, I thank God for giving me a daughter first!!!!
Well... I found out the other day that I'm expecting my 4th baby girl! I have one son who is the oldest and by far has been the easiest (he's 17yrs). My son and middle daughter are still quite disappointed that this is yet another girl but healthy is all that matters! With a 16 year old daughter in the middle of her teen years, I try to be her friend and as open as possible with her! I too wish it was a boy because my beloved father that recently passed had given us a name for the baby boy (that wasn't conceived yet) about a month before he passed. With all the difficulties and trials that other parents tend too as far as health, we must be grateful for healthy babies! You'll be a great mom to your baby regardless of the sex! Don't worry.
Yes, I understand the dispoinent. It's a very normal feeling and don't be ashamed of it. It will fade as the pregnancy progresses. You will love this baby no matter what gender.
I definitely feel ur disappointment... I have always desperately wanted a girl and already have 2 boys. This was my last chance to get a girl and its yet another boy. I was so incredibly upset but 5 weeks on I am getting over the disappointment and incredibly excited to met him.. just stuck on a name.x
I have 2 boys and am sad I am having a girl. I don't know what to do with a girl. It's a defective boy I guess... I will see how it goes for me as well.
Good luck on finding a way to bond.
I have a boy,14 and a girl, 3. I am hoping this new baby is a boy. Girls are so dramatic and emotional. It can be axhausting. I love my daughter dearly. I hope we continue to have a very strong bond that lasts forever. But boys seem to be so much easier. Overall, I am very blessed to have three kids and so appreciate being a mom. Boy or girl. It really doesn't matter. They are all loved dearly.
When I was pregnant with my first, I wanted a girl really bad but I had a boy. Now that I have my boy, I could never imagine my life without him let alone a girl. I am pregnant with a boy again, however my husband wanted a girl really bad. My sister has a boy and a girl and I love them as if they were my own. So the little girl that I won't have, my sister shares her daughter with me.
She may turn out to be a tomboy. Not all girls are super girlie! ☺️ I am hoping for a boy too but more than anything just healthy. My first was a girl and she is super attentive and sweet. You also have the benefit of helping her through the things you struggled with but ultimately, she'll have her own personality that has nothing to do with gender.
Everyone has their hopes of what the baby will be. I'm having my third. I wanted another girl, so did my husband but #3 is a boy..., he's healthy so of course that's what is most important. My girlfriend started crying ( and I mean full on hysterical tears) in the drs office when she found out she was having a boy..., now she is pregnant again and she's terrified of having a girl.
I think boys are easier because we raise them that way. Many parents have expectations of girls that just don't fit reality. We think girls are better behaved than boys, so when they are full of energy and bouncing off walls, we get really frustrated with them. With boys, we have expect their energy and, even, delight in it. Girls rebel more than boys because we give them more reason to. To the OP, just let your daughter determine her own personality and all will be well.
With my first I wanted a boy to name after daddy. I was so hoping for a boy thatv I returned all the pink clothes from my baby shower for gender neutral. I still got a girl, lol. My second I also hoped for a boy - another girl. When I got pregnant with this one, I knew it was a girl from the start, at least I was right once. My bf wanted a boy but quickly took to the news of a girl. I actually wanted a third girl. I know people say they are harder to raise but I'm already used to it.
I am right there with you. I have 2 boys. My third I desperately wanted a boy. However I have a 4 week old baby girl. I still don't have any feelings for her one way or another. I care for her like any baby deserves to be cared for I just don't have "those" feelings. I am told this is normal and will pass. I sure hope so. Good luck mama. I hope it is easier for you.
You got a long way to go before she will be a teenager. I wouldn't worry too much about that now. And even if she is super girlie you will make it work. She may not be girlie at all! Either way she is going to love you and you love her. I bet you two will be two peas in a pod just wait!