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Help, I'm 49 years old and pregnant

Hi, I'm new here....I will turn 50 years old this September. I have 4 children, oldest is 25, youngest is 8 ( I had my youngest at 41) and pregnant again at 42 which ended in a MC @ 10 weeks. We haven't used birth control in over 10 years... I still have my regular periods, about a week ago I had a 1 day of a tiny amount of implantation spotting (brown/old blood) I thought my period was starting but it didn't..so I get up this morning with very tender breasts and needing to urinate more frequent the last few days, I'm also feeling tired....I thought I was going through menopause..but I've been pregnant before and I know the symptoms, been felt it was highly unlikely given my age that I was pregnant, even though it felt like I was so today just to make sure, I took a pregnancy test and it turned positive right away....I can't get into my doctor until next week, I'm a very healthy/fit almost 50 year old. My question is at my age, what are the odds of MC, is there anything I can do to make sure of a healthy pregnancy? do I even produce enough progesterone/hormones at my age to support a pregnancy? any advice is greatly appreciated! thank you...
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1643531 tn?1477519969
CONGRATULATIONS...I thank God for you because your news gives me encouragement. God told me I was going to meet someone on MH that was older than me that was going to be pregnant; naturally. God promised me several years ago I would have a daughter and I am still believing Him. I began to have some concern because of my age (I just turned 49 in April). But I'm not concerned about my age anymore since reading your story. I pray for God to bless you and your pregnancy. Be blessed.
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I am so encouraged by the great testimonies of older women having healthy babies. I am 45years trying to get pregnant naturally my daughter is 10yrs suffered 2 miscarriages and 1 failed IVF Dec 2015. Any tips on making this a reality.
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I am 49 and missed my period this month....I have a gut feeling this just may be pregnacy and not menopause, because I had implantion spotting...
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I am 49 years and 9 months. I just found out today that I am pregnant. I'm completely in shock. I feel like my head is spinning. I saw a chart recently that showed my chances of conceiving naturally at my age is almost zero percent.  Well, surprise! I know my chances of carrying this pregnancy all the way through are low, but I'm posting to the other women out there wondering and hoping to get pregnant later in life. Yes, this was completely natural and not planned whatsoever.
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1806883 tn?1458321004
well first off congratulations :) if you go by the medical world it will be all doom and gloom regarding your pregnancy, and yes the odds probably arnt that good but I would get on a good pregnancy vitamin straight away, there was a lady in australia last year who gave birth to a healthy girl at the age of 5o so keep positive until you are proven otherwise and dont let the doctors get you down, good luck :)
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Omg!:)congratulations so happy for you I also have 4 children youngest 3 but now im 41and felt fumny took a test and came out positive I was a bit scared, well I was till I read your story:) we are awsome and Blessed, women now how do I tell my husband&older children?
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I just turn 39 my husband and I have been trying for a year now since we lost our fourth child during child birth 2018 since than I am not experiencing any pregnancy. I had my period for this month and last month that lasted for a day there have been lots of morning sickness since July which subsided this September a little. I have been afraid to take pregnancy test because all have been negative since the beginning of this year. I have started smelling the bath soap a little bad. I don’t know what to think  
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Hi there.  I hope you've taken the test by now.  I know it is hard. My sister had two kids and then couldn't get pregnant again for a very long time.  It happens to some people.  I hope you are pregnant this time but if not, maybe your doctor can help you with clomid or something along those lines to help yo get going.  Let me know what happened!
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Hello wow thankyou so kindly for sharing as I'm 44 and I think iam.pregnant and are feeling insecure and all you beautiful ladies discussing with such integrity and honest x
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I glad to see this thread continued even with the "age" of it,  no pun intended.  :) I'm 39 and trying for number 2. Already had 1 mc and possibly in process of another mc. Ultrasound was not positive with growth at 6 weeks. Seeing all the testimony of pregnancy at 35+ helps us stay positive. I wish there was something we could do to help early stages to help the baby grow.  Good luck to all the mommas, one love <3
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I too am hoping for a last shot. I had my first and only child aged 42, without trying that hard to make it happen! Am 49 now and hoping for a second one with the love of my life who I have met aged 44 (he is 52). I don't think he wants another child really but if a chance in a million happens, I'm sure he would love it. I have been told that I have a good chance of it because I didn't take too long to fall pregnant at 41 (despite being unhealthy - at the time I smoked and drank).
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Iam 50 and hoping to conceive soon. I only have one child. She is 20 years old. She wants me to have a child too. I really would love to have a little boy. My husband says in God's hands only. I have to agree. If God gives me a child, I will be greatful. But if He chooses not too,I can live with that!  
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I just found this page and I turned 48 in September.  In 7 months I will be 49 and my husband and I have been hoping to have a baby.  We have been married for 2 years. Before now, I never considered it, but you guys have given me hope to try.  I see all of the &quot;I just found out I am pregnant&quot;, but has anyone had a healthy baby?  THanks!
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I am wondering if you found out if you are pregnant?

I am also 49 and have not had any children, although have been pregnant in my previous marriage and miscarried.  Tests showed that my husband had multiple problems but that I was fine.  This month I have been experiencing some unusual symptoms, starting last Tuesday which would be halfway through my cycle. I have been randomly nauseous, sore nipples and had hot flashes.  My period is due later this week (today being Monday). Today have noticed brown discharge when wiping.  I am so confused.  I keep telling myself that it's ridiculous to think that pregnancy could happen at my age - and then people tell me about others who have conceived and delivered healthy babies.
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My daughter was born when I was 28.  Then at 43  I meet this much younger man nd I get pregnant that month. It was a hard decision but had my boy at 44.  I'm thin md my pregnancy was great.  We snowboard every weekend nd just have s blast.  Im 53 now I have one good tube I found out cause they tied my tubes but only one is tied apparently.  Anyway I had a period this month. But am having waves of nausea for 2 days then vimited once at night.  Really strange. For the last two months my breasts were killing me but after this last regular period they aren't. omg  Could I be pregnant?  I gotta get a test.  I couldn't possibly be.  
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I was moved when I  read ur story.. Am 49rs old lady, had a son out of ignorance when I was in secondary school, then i was  17yrs.. Now am properly married to a more younger man... But i ve not being able to get pregnant... Now I have faith and hope in God.... God bless you and your family.
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     Since this was a recent addition to the above post I'll answer you 8andwant9--and yes I understand this is an old thread so feel free to pm me so we don't keep it alive.  I just feel like an answer is the best way to  close the thread.

     I had a baby at 45 conceived naturally.  I wasn't trying and actually thought I had the flu and went to the hospital and found out. She was healthy and I had no issues during the pregnancy other than hyperemesis, which I'd had with my prior pregnancies years earlier so nothing new there.  

     Relaxing plays a big part of getting pregnant when you're older.  TTC can really put a lot of stress on you throwing your body out of whack.  In my family women have had babies up to 52 years of age naturally so I didn't think much of it, but some doctors (not all) acted like it was some kind of miracle.  In that way I am lucky since I have in-family examples of success--but you should know even so my questions and doubts are the same.  Do your best to eat healthy, get enough rest and try to relax.

   The internet can be a blessing and a curse. There are tons of people saying babies over 45 are near impossible and donor eggs are the only way to go.  I'm not knocking all of that info nor having children that way, you should just know that a lot of it can be overblown and often people are repeating stats that they hear.  I'm just saying as long as you aren't in menopause you have a chance of pregnancy.  

     Just look on the net for info on women over 40 with surprise/unwanted pregnancies.  Its a growing concern and stems in large part from the medical community (and society) lulling women into a false sense of security by saying it's not likely.  I had asked my doctor for BC at the time (before my accidental conception) and was told it wasn't really necessary. Not going to blame them though...I should have pushed for bc instead of just accepting what was said.

     Don't get me wrong,  I love children but being overweight and having issues with hyperemesis for every pregnancy thus far I had just recently discussed with my spouse that before we even think about another baby I'd want to lose some weight in hopes of it being a better pregnancy. The next month I found out I was 2 weeks pregnant.  

     I was in shock, trust me, but having recently had some significant losses in my family (mother, brother) I felt that this was a wonderful gift back to us. She was and still is.  Now she is four and  I, like you, have decided to try one last time.  Doctors are largely unsupportive and imo this is either going to happen or not, I can't allow them to discourage me.   I won't be going any expensive routes.  Using donor eggs and such are out of the realm of what I want to do to achieve this.

     I'm taking vitamins and following some tips and overall just trying to relax and let it happen.  I do have some challenges but overall I'm feeling positive about ttc.  And you have to love the BD--if nothing else my stress is lower and DH and I are spending a lot of time together.
    
     I signed up here today just to tell you this because I know where you're coming from.  Keep your head up and do whats right for you and don't get discouraged,  there are a lot of us older moms out there and YES it is possible.
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This is a really old thread.  You can start a new one and ask this question :). You are more likely to get responses that way.  
There have been ladies that have been successful pregnancies at over 40.  Momacher (screen name) just had a little boy.  
I don't know if this an option or not, you could use donor eggs or donor embryos, if you aren't successful on your own.  Just something to think about??  
I had my twins at 45.  We used donor embryos.  

Good luck!  I hope you are successful!
Sending baby dust!!!  
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I have 8 healthy kids and the last 3 with my current husband are all girls.  I'm 44, 45 in 3 months, and I desperately want one more shot at a boy.  Have been trying for 2 years now and would be very happy with anything!  My husband says that he doesn't need a boy to be happy, but he is only 31 and I can't help but want this for him.
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am just wondering, have been reading all these old posts and am curious if any one follows here any more?
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Ladies, I was happy to hear that a friend of a friend announced that at 50 she is 8 months pregnant! They waited for all tests to come back positive before they made their announcement. This is their 3rd child. What an exciting holiday it will be for this family! I wish you all many blessings and great hope.
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Hello mom10ofmany, I just turned 49 a couple weeks ago and have 11 children. Through the years we have had 2 miscarriages, and 2 years after our youngest (now 7 yrs) was born, I had some strange pregnancy that we thought must have been a blighted ovum or something similar.
I am wondering how you are doing in your pregnancy? Have you ever homebirthed?
hope to talk soon
donna, mommy to a bunch
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I cant imagine how you feel.  Im 32 weeks pregnant at almost 40 and my body can barely handle it.  Fibromyalgia is very painful and pregnancy would be a nightmare for you.  

I hope this will be of some comfort to you...Its possible you could be pregnant.  However,  even if you are,  the chances of misscarriage are extremely high for your age.  I read a study only 1-3% of 49 yr old women conceive in a cycle.  And of those women that actually conceive,  over  84% will misscarry.

gl.
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I'm 48 June 19 wil be 49 I have missed period at least 1 1/2 months my nipples are so sore and sensitive but I do jog with no actual breat pain just nipples, got blood work yesterday no results yet! I ansolutely cannot accept this pregnancy, I have fibromyalgia and severe depression and am completely bed ridden all winter! I pray in not pregnant! Thoughts on sensitive nipples ?
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I'm very sorry for your losses.My heart is breaking for you.
But I hope you are feeling better today,

I'm sending lots of love,  healing and hugs to you both.You are in my prayers all the time.

Debradesign, how are you doing today? What is your news?
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I just found out a week ago that I am about 6 to 7 weeks pregnant. I am turning 49 in July. I have 10 birthed children but m/c twice in the last 2years I have been taking vitamins and folic acid for months but not to get pregnant just to fight the menopausal feelings. Could you tell me did you carry to term and what did you do if you did to help the pregnancy. I'd not what did you do to cope? Thanks melinda
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I was wwondering if anybody knows if its possible for me to ever have a Baby again. Im very healthy and just turned 49 and havnt had a period in a year.  :(  I have a younger BF, who loves me regardless, but its killing me wondering if i could conceve or not with all the medical help there is out there. My Dr, said I could carry and referred me to a fertility specialist. I havnt gone yet.. Not sure if im ready to face the music yet.. I just pray that there may be a possibility..
Thanks,
Cindy  
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Hi everyone! 37 days after I started bleeding/miscarrying my period came and everything is back to normal...

msmegruns, sorry to hear..my hcg never got that high, so your miscarriage might take longer to resolve...hopefully you won't have to have a D&C...it's not a fun thing to go through...and yes I enjoy my kids so much!!

Crtx, the sooner the better..you might want your doctor to run some tests before you plan a tubal reversal...I had a very healthy pregnancy and a 10lb baby at 41, and 2 miscarriages after that..my sister was going to have a tubal reversal at 42 but they did 2 FSH levels and the doctor refused to do a tubal reversal based on her not so great levels....so the sooner the better for you..and good luck! you never know!!
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I just was looking thru sites n came 2 this.ur story has really encouraged me.im 39 yrs old n been married 2 a 30 yr old 1 yr july 30th.said he didnt wnt kids of his own b4 we married.i hav 4 of my own frm previous marriage n grandkids.4 days ago he decides he wnts kids n thinks he has 2 divorce me 2 meet some1 else 2 hav thm.i wnt 2  get a tubal reversal done but its gna take time 2 save up the money,but 2 me its worth it 2 kp my marriage n try 2 hav a child wth my husband.i thot 39 wld b 2 late but ur story pumped me up even more 2 do this n by the grace of God it will b a success.God bless you! C.R tx
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