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I am so sad

I have no one to talk to, my bf told me I nag a lot and that I'm always up his business and its because I care!! And he's the father of my child too I'm 40 weeks prego aand he tells me why am I there with him, that I look bored. Everyone is drinkin n I'm just sittin there. I have no one, me n my mom aren't speakin to each other and she's all I got here all my family is in california and I'm here in oklahoma city with my bf. And he just tells me what am I doing here and I'm a burden and I nag a lot idk what to do I feel so alone here I have no one. I feel so bad cause I dnt wana be sad cus then my baby is sad:( but he's hurt me with those words and hehere I am in our apt alone on 4th of july !!:( and the whole reasonn why he's mad that I was bitchin because him and his brothers were tryin to buy cocain! Like really I have a right to be trippin he is the father of my child I want him to live and live long as possible. But he just doesn't see that I care :(
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GET OUT NOW! That is abuse. You have to love yourself more than that in order to be able to be a great mother. I was in an abusive relationship when I was younger. I didn't realize it was verbal abuse until it became physical. Leaving was the hardest thing I ever did. I had children and we were married. When I finally got away I realized the damage he had done to my self-esteem and self worth. I had to really struggle and work hard. But it was worth it. Now I'm 35 and having a baby with the man of my dreams. Before I met him though I had to be able to be happy with me. Then I was able to come into a relationship as an equal. We are true partners. We have a wonderful life together. I'm truly happy. Love shouldn't ever make you feel bad about yourself. No one has the right to make another person feel like they aren't worth being treated well. If he is using drugs he isn't able to put you or your child's needs first. A child deserves to be brought into a drug free home. That baby didn't ask to be born. Not only is that a horrible environment for a child. It's also illegal. You risk losing that child if you choose to raise it in a home where someone is using drugs. You have to put your babies needs first. I know it's a hard decision to make. But if he doesn't see anything wrong with his actions you aren't going to change his mind. And that's not your job. Your job is to keep you and your baby safe. Please please please get help for you and your baby. Women helping women is a great resource. They have a chapter in almost every city. Just call and talk to them. You don't have to tell them your name. It's 100% confidential.
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hi i would like to let u know that i don't know u.but we could be friends if u like too i leave that sucker alone he doesn't deserve u or ur baby
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Don't even bother telling his sorry *** goodbye. Just go. You and baby don't need that kind of stress in your life. I know. I was there not too long ago, myself.
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ANNMARIE93, some churches or social service will help you with a bus, it train ticket. Good luck.
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@ ANNMARIE93, my prayers are with you. I agree with every comment, go to your family and make a mends with your mother, because blood is thicker then water. Also, when you leave him, don't let him get away from his responsibility have him pay child suppor. Also, of you are having a hard time finding funds to head back to California
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I called my sister, she said exactly wat you girls said. I'm thinkin how to get there
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Thanks girls.. its 10:15 nd he still isnt home yet
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**** him off, Lovey. He's a **** and doesn't deserve you. Not to mention, do you really want drugs around your baby?  Go back to California to your family who love you. You owe it to yourself baby to give him or her the best chance. xx
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I know you said your not talking to your mom at the moment but all i can say is CONTACT HER IMMEDIATELY. No dont go into details about your relationship because you dont wanna hear the "i told u so speech" im telling you my mom can be the worst at times but threw ny pregnancy i couldn't have ask for anyone better to be by my side. Men will be men they don't mature like us especially while were pregnant. Dont worry yourself about your bf he will continue to be a douche until he's ready to change. Im sorry your goibg threw what your going threw. Please i beg u contact your mom. Just to have her back in your life and hopefully tbe delivery room then once you have your baby then tell her what you were going threw. Then hopefully she can help in some kind of way. I hope this was helpful.
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Like NurseMoni said it's time to get your priorities straight! Not judging but one slip up from Baby Daddy and they take your baby away from you permanently, whether it's your fault or not. He gets caught with drugs and the baby is around you will be the one who has put him/her in an unsafe environment.  
He may not do it often or what ever but are you going to risk losing your child for someone who obviously doesn't care about what you think?
Go back to your family as soon as you can, it's better to be alone and lonely than to have a man there who makes you feel so alone.
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Oh and yes . . I agree with Babydoll774. My oldest father was also an inmature douche. Glad I listened to my family and friends and stepped away from our disfunctional relationship. And guess what? 14 years later, he has not changed. My daughter is much better off without him and better now with her stepdad, my awesome hubby.
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Honey your soon going to be a mommy. You need to set your priorities now! #1 Ensure your baby is raised in a healthy (drug-free) and safe environment. We all need someone there for support especially during pregnancy, but don't hang on to someone who is not willing to love you and respect you because . . . (repeat after me) "you deserve to be loved and respected".
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I'm sorry to hear that! Reminds me of my first pregnancy with my son. My sons father never changed and we didn't last long after the baby was born. My son is turning 11 next month and his father still has never been in his life. Heard he is still a douche bag after all this time and I am so glad he stayed away because he couldn't have taught my son a damn thing worth knowing anyhow!
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