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Looking for positive experiences

I am 37 years old and have 1 daughter, almost 2-1/2 years old. I had a miscarriage before her at 6 weeks, but I got pregnant 3 months later. it was an easy pregnancy that ended in c-section because she got stuck. I got pregnant after two months of trying. I thought I was having an easy pregnancy, but that was because, at the 12-week-scan, I learned that the baby had died at 8 weeks.

I am having a hard time with the idea that our baby was dead for a month and I didn't know it. I induced the miscarriage through meds, and I am in the middle of it now. It's been a rough one, and I went to the hospital because I passed out from blood loss. Almost had to go back this weekend for the same reason.

There is so much information about how hard it is to have a normal, healthy pregnancy after 35 that I can't help but wonder whether it's worth trying. I know many people do get pregnant easily in their late 30s, but the people who talk about it are usually the ones who have trouble.

I would love to hear stories from women in their late 30s who have given birth to healthy babies, without a lot of help. It would really boost my mood. Thank you.
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Thank you all for your stories. I am so glad for your success in having children. Having a child was something I didn't realize I'd wanted so much until I had my first.
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P.S. I'm not trying to tell anyone what do to. It's just that I paid a lot of money to see a fertility doctor since it's not covered at all by insurance. So I'm passing along the doctorly advice I rpaid for to anyone out there who wants it...for free :)  Plus it worked for me. Good luck!
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I'm so sorry for what you are going through. But don't get down. It is possible to have a healthy pregnancy at our age.

I got pregnant for the first time at 35. Did it naturally. Pregnancy was a breeze and so was labor and delivery.

I got pregnant again at 37. Tried for 10 months and ended up going to a fertility expert who put me on Clomid. This pregnancy is more draining. I'm tired, sore, and achy all the time. No energy. But thankfully, no complications either. I'm 27 weeks and hope the rest of the pregnancy will go smoothly and that I will deliver a healthy baby.

My fertility doctor is all about taking good care of yourself.

1. Eat clean and healthy when trying to get pregnant. No fried foods. No caffeine. No alcohol.
2. If you're over weight, try to cut back on carbs and add more green veggies and fruits to your diet. No potatoes, especially french fries.
3. If you don't already exercise, add light to moderate exercise to your routine like walking.
4. Limit your use of computers and cellphones. Since I worked full time at an office job, my doctor banned me from using my computer or cellphone after I got off work at 5PM. She said that the body is working hard when we are so intently focused on these devices. It puts stress on our bodies whether we use it for work or fun.
5. Get plenty of sleep. At least 8 hours a day.

I followed these five tips while I was trying to get pregnant and have been following them since I got pregnant. Whether you believe my doctor or not, these are healthy habits anyone can incoporate into their lifestyles.
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Sorry you are going through this. With my first pregnancy, I was 35 and had a relatively easy pregnancy with my daughter. I had to have an emergency c-section due the the umbilical cord being wrapped around her, but she came out perfectly fine. Now I am 41 and am 36 weeks pregnant with my second and having an equally easy pregnancy. I wish you the very best. Don't give up hope.
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I'm sorry you're going through all this. I know it's hard.
I'm 37 and have a soon to be 20 years old and a 3 week old. Last summer I had a miscarriage and 3 months later, I got pregnant with our daughter. Don't give up hope. It is possible to have a healthy baby at our age.
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I feel so sorry for you going through this. I had a missed miscarriage last year. Baby died at around 6 weeks but I didn't misscarry until 10 weeks. I chose to let it happen naturally. 8 week scan showed no heart beat but it was inconclusive so I had to wait for another scan at 9 weeks before I knew my baby was dead. It was so sad and so horrible. At the time I was 39 and hadn't planned to get pregnant, though it made my partner and I realise that it was what we wanted even though we were not together all that long. I'm now 23 wks 5 days age 40. I've been for loads of scans because of my age and previous miscarriage. All is going very well and my little boy is very active all the time. I understand that it's hard to be positive at a time like this but remember having a healthy baby is possible. Nothing in guaranteed but life has a way of getting through. Be strong and good luck! xx
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