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30wks 2days and no confidence support needed

So when we found out we were pregnant my husband and I were extremely happy. We are having a little girl! I have struggled with being a large girl my entire life, but my pregnancy has been perfect.

But the one thing I was looking most forward to was being the pregnant girl not just the heavy girl.  I was excited to show!

But never did I start. I feel pregnant, I feel her move around and I hold her low because of my long torso. I am very even with my weight. I dont hold it all in one spot. But now that Im about to have one of my two baby showers tomorrow I feel like I dont fit the role. I see all these other baby shower picture of women and their baby bump with hands on it and im jealous. I feel so stupid but Ive cried over this many times.

Many people who are my clients look at me and then down at my stomach and back up when I tell them ill be gone for maternity leave in march and I see their surprise look on their face as if they are saying "what?"

Im just having really bad confidence issues with this and im not sure how im going to get through the baby showers without feeling like I can't take any pictures. Heck I cant take any maternity pictures and that almost depresses me.
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I wear maternity pants because she's made where my pants lay firm so they slip off easily when I bend, but with even a maternity shirt and pangs I almost look exactly the same. I was told by the doctor I will come out of my pregnancy lighter than i did going into it and I should be happy because most women don't do that. I guess its just hard to see ftm with the progression from week 12-37 and im here looking at my week 12 where I had already gained the three out of six pounds ive gained.

Today I am going shopping and I may have to try a dress for the shower it may just help me feel better about the little things.
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You can take maternity pictures. You can do whatever you makes you happy. Are you wearing maternity clothes? You'll look much more pregnant with full panel maternity pants or maybe try a dress. Everyone's body and pregnancy is different. You may only show during your last month and that's ok. It takes a lot longer for others to realize your baby bump a than it does for you to notice it.
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