Adjusting to living with someone

[Farah_Remo]

I'm 26w3d and recently got married. Ive never lived with anyone other than my family and i'm 26 years old. My husband is such a calm and understanding person but I find myself getting frustrated all the time. I never know how to make his food since he eats so differently from me, i hate being cuddled while sleeping, and lets just say his hygeine is a bit less upkept than mine. I just cried my eyes out because i made him a sandwich he told me over and over again he doesnt like (i know, im pathetic). How do you ladies handle this adjustment period?

[elvendork]

I drive my husband nuts, I'm the messy one

[knufrio]

My husband and I lived together for 2 years before we were married (although we were engaged). We both agreed it's important to get to know that side of someone before taking the next step to be married... Also we have separate bathrooms and if you have the apace for it I highly recommend it LOL because I too cannot stand the toothpaste stuck to the counter, and water on the floor, etc.

[Farah_Remo]

Thanks ladies. Amy, the toothpaste globs in the sink drives me insane! Lol.
And Love35888, yes its nice that he wants to cuddle but hes a BIG guy so its uncomfortable for me and im so used to sleeping alone. I hope i calm down after having my baby, and ill definitely try to make things easier by talking t

[Amy1830]

I moved out when I had just turned 18 so I have actually lived with 5 boyfriends, one of which is my now fiancé (I'm 34 now.). I hated living with someone! Because I am a neat freak and I am not a good sharer haha. And after living with and breaking up with exes I was nervous about really mixing up mine and my fiance's things "just in case" it don't work out it would be hard to grab my things and leave. But of course now we are getting married so I don't worry about that anymore. My fiancé is very easy going and pretty neat as well but he still does things that annoy me like getting water all around the sink every morning, not fully closing the closet doors, walking across the floors with work boots after I just cleaned them, leaving toothpaste globs in the sink, taking the last granola bar and leaving the empty box in the cabinet, things like that. At first it really got under my skin. But I'm not the type to hold things in so I would ask for him not to do those things, nicely of course. And over time he has definitely improved. He still does it sometimes but I don't mind as much now, its just part of my routine to push the doors closed or wipe around the sink. I look at it like, he takes care of me and I take care of him, in our own ways. And as far as cuddling goes I think usually the one who likes to cuddle starts slowly cuddling less the more time living together has gone by. As far as at night, I mean. Because I used to be the cuddler and then I started realizing it was easier to fall asleep not cuddling and that there wasnt anything wrong with that, it didn't mean we weren't all lovey dovey or anything.  We still cuddle before falling asleep and on the couch and stuff. I think it will just start to be a routine for you and things will fall into place. Don't sweat the small stuff. And also like the other ladies said, your hormones are making it harder for you right now. It will get easier!

[Love35888]

Me and my hubby went through that, we moved in together when I was about 5 or 6 months with our first baby.. it is hard getting use to two different lifestyles. Learning to cook what he liked. Cleaning up his crap.. aww I think thats sweet he wants to cuddle with you at night, I would love that, my hubby will end up tossing n turning. Just talk to him and let him know how you feel he might understand.
N I think the pregnancy hormones will make stuff seem alottttt worse. I cry evrythime I get just a little frustrated. I just dont think we can help it. I think its okay to cry, just sit down take a deep breath relax. It will be okay. We're hormonal n men are annoying lol

[badyas]

Your hormones are alot to blame for feeling so frustrated. If you just got married it will take time to adjust to each other. My husband and I will be married 5 years in july and we are just getting to the point we dont drive each other crazy. He was a clean freak and I was always more focused on just spending time with each other. The first few years are a learning stage. You just have to figure out what to compromise on. Deep breaths and remember the reasons you love and married him. Dont worry it will get better.

[amy8702]

Probably hormones. But remember, communication is key! Don't sell yourself short.

Sorry about 2 comments hit post too doon

[amy8702]

Have you tried to sit down and talk about it? Most of this is pr