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10153131 tn?1411325469

Baby Shower

My mother in law is supposed  to make my baby shower, but hasn't mentioned  an thing about it yet we haven't set a date or done any invitations or any of that sort.... I'm already 34wks and I have no clue of its even going  to get done.... and she doesn't want us to buy anything  for the baby she says that's what the baby shower  is for.... but how can we not buy anything  when we don't know if it's even going  to happen..... I've bought some outfits a warm blanket  and his carseat/ stroller set. But that's it.... I still need alot for my son and I feel so unprepared  :(
Sorry so long, I'm just venting
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Bahahaha I'm due in 4 days and everyone kept saying they were going to throw me one too....supposedly my mil is having one this weekend, but i honestly don't want one..she wont take no forvan answer. i just feel like if anybody wanted to do it or get us anything the would have done it months ago because I've kept everybody updated on my progress this entire pregnancy.
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10153131 tn?1411325469
My sister  and best friend  went  ahead and took over, they  are throwing  it next Saturday... it only took them  2-3 days to plan  it last min....
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I'm 31 weeks and my mom was supposed to do my baby shower and help get the baby room ready but she kept putting them both off so me and my husband did the baby room together and having my baby shower next weekend because I don't want any last minute surprises and not have the stuff we know we'll need. It's already stressful enough.
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I remember shopping after the baby shower. I was in Walmart and I felt like my water was going to break on me in the store! Lol. I kepted having to run to the bathroom to pee! My water broke at 5am the next morning.
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I would be freaking out. My son was born at 37 weeks and 5 days. My Aunt threw a baby shower for me the day before I went into labor. When it was put on the caldendar a few months before it looked fine to have it on that day because my son wasn't supposed to be born until a few weeks later. So I was waiting on that shower before I bought stuff because I didnt want to buy something someone already bought.
The day of the shower my contractions started kicking in lighty. I knew I was going into labor so after the shower my MIL and I went shipping for all the things I didn't receive yet that I needed before the baby was born.
Your MIL needs to stop dragging her feet!
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10153131 tn?1411325469
No she keeps putting it off, I'm due within the next 6 wks or so.. it went from the first week in Jan to the middle and now Feb. I'm sorry but I'm just trying to be well prepared  for when my son is born.... and she tells me not to buy nothing and that's what the shower is for... it's not that I'm trying to take over and plan my own, but what's going  to happen if my son is born early and we have nothing because  we didn't get anything because  we waited on a shower that didn't happen!!!!
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If your mother in law has seemed responsible enough to you before then I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. Baby showers are supposed to be somewhat if a surprise and I find it funny how now the one who's supposed to be receiving the shower are always trying to take it over and plan everything. Baby showers are a gift not a requirement. Maybe your husband already knows the date and is just not telling you.....
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10153131 tn?1411325469
My sister and best friend  said they would just go ahead  and make it for me, which was pretty nice of them. Since my mother  in law is dragging  the situation.... I have 6 wks left  and I honestly  don't  think I'll make it past 4 more
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9764007 tn?1405807828
I just couldn't deal.. if I were you I'd say you're not telling me anything I'm going to plan my own I don't like last minute things.. who knows if you make it to due date an all your friends and family work and they need a heads up in advance.. and see what she says..
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Omg that would drive me crazy! This kind of happened to me with my first my husband's aunt said she was going to throw a shower for us she would do everything and when I was about 6 months I noticed no talk or movement of any sort so my aunt and I took over and just planned it ourselves she never lifted a finger this time around I said no shower then my mil and his aunt did the same thing said they would plan it I told them they where on their own I would just show up so they decided not to do anything lol some people are just flaky good luck hun
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Talk to her.
Tell her u dont have much time left...
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Also, if you know her personality, how is she with these sorts of responsibilities? I would love and update when it happens!
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973741 tn?1342342773
What about this====  do you have anyone that would throw you a shower if you needed them to?  If so, I'd say to your mother in law that so and so says they'll have a shower for me and told her you were thinking of having one.  And frankly, I'd say that she will have it by the time you are 37 weeks if you haven't had one yet, so that is really the cut off.  See if that doesn't spur her into action and if she is indeed not following through, in the next week have whomever else might have one for you just do it.  Because that is a little crazy to leave you hanging like that.

I actually had something similar.  My sister said she was going to host one.  My friend said she would.  I waited and waited for my sister. We had a date and I called my best girlfriends to give them a heads up and all could come and then my sister says "nope, that's not good anymore" with no back up date.  My sister was a tiny bit miffed but I said to her "ya know, I am not trying to be rude but my friend WANTS to do it and times a ticking.  If you just want her to do it instead of you, she will."  My sister planned it that day and we had it two weeks later.  I had to kind of push her because I was like you, I just wanted to know what I needed and didn't need.  

Anyway, good luck hon
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10153131 tn?1411325469
Yah  I think it be best if i just talk to her, cause my family would need a specific  time date since they all work... thank you ladies  
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Lol. Type out the word with spaces in between the letters.
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9358102 tn?1418673367
Maybe it's a surprise. Ask her some people don't do it till like 8th month  plus
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10389360 tn?1410823968
Hey, I didnt swear! Why the stars?! Lol
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10389360 tn?1410823968
I was just going to say, maybe its a surprise! Lol it would be a ****** deal if she has been telling you not to buy anything, then no shower!
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I'll be 34 weeks at mine on Sunday and I thought it was late. So I know how you feel.  Maybe it's a surprise?
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I think you should get on your husband a little more and just have him tell his mom, You Really just need the reassurance that it's in the near future
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Maybe its a surprise? Lol keep bugging its getting closeee
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10153131 tn?1411325469
That's the thing I have talked to my husband  about it, and he's asked his mom about it.. she just says soon.... but it's kinda frustrating  not knowing what's going  on!!! I feel like I'm going to end up having the baby before it even gets done
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I would be so worried! Maybe you could nicely And jokingly say "so when is the baby shower anyways? I'm tempted to buy stuff!!"

Or "I just want to prepare, I'm going to pop any day now"

Can you get some info from your partner?? It's his mum after all. It doesn't hurt to start getting diapers but focus on size 2 since everyone will buy you size 1
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9764007 tn?1405807828
Well you need to speak to your baby father an tell him to speak to her.. it's getting late in your pregnancy now what is she waiting on an why haven't you heard anything.. where is the invitations so you can invite your friends and family...
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