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I'm wondering if any of you guys had bad experiences with your Gyn..or if you notice the difference between the two.. I'm 28 weeks and had a doc app. today.. Its my first pregnancy and I am really beginning to notice how nonchalant and dismissive my doctor is.. Ever concern I have she doesn't volunteer to look further into it, shejust says that's normal or yea it happens... But mind you two years ago I went to her complaining about my periods and I told her that ever since my miscarriage (4 yrs ago) my periods were way heavier and came with excruciating cramps and back pain.. And I also had gained a significant amount of weight.. That day she blew me off and prescribed me 120 pills of 800mg ibuprofen.. A whole year supply and then some.. My periods continued with no change and I continued to gain unexplainable amounts if weight.. When I would see her she would only keep pushing birth control.. Something I've been refusing since I was 16. Which was a good thing because something told
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1) it is never too late to change drs. You need someone you feel comfortable with. 2) male and female Drs have equal rates of being bad and being good. I work with the drs (pediatricians) who's husband are OB/GYNs and they are awesome!!! I would be going to one of them if they didn't deliver at hospitals over an hour away from my house. 3) I myself have a female Dr now and I love her, however she is in a group so later on I will be branching out to the other drs (male and female) to increase the likelihood that I'll know the Dr who delivers my baby.
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Get a new doctor ASAP!!! I can't believe what I just read! That is a doctor who doesn't care! My doctor would never dismiss me like that and she answers every question I have even if it is silly. She has also had me see a specialist because of my concerns. You need to remember that you are paying them, so if your doctor doesn't live up to your expectations you should switch immediately, for the sake of your life and your unborn child!
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Im 19 weeks and just switched doctors. It was the best thing I ever did! If you are not comfortable with her and the care she is giving you don't wait any longer. It is not going to get better. Good luck!
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I changed 5 doctors and im finally happy ..im giving biryh next week:))
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Wow thanks ladies for the response.. I'm going to have a chat with my boyfriend and discuss switching because today might've been the last straw.. @28 wks I still feel its too late but I asked her today if w could begin discussing labor, she asks what did I want to know, I said about pain first off.. Her immediate response was "I encourage all my patients to get an epidural immediately".. I felt she could've approach the answer with more options than get an epidural, as if there isn't other ways to give birth... Then I ask will she be there to deliver, she says most likely no but possibly but there's always others there... I'm thinking, then what's the point of establishing a report with you? If the physician on site is going to read my file and treat me like any other patient.. Anyway yea I think I'll do the old switcheroo.. Thanks ladies  :-)
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Oh.. and this time around I lucked out with getting a good practice... there are 3 ob's in the practice and all are attentive and I really like all of them... they ask questions of how I am feeling and if I have any questions and listen to all my concerns... I have had A LOT of appointments and see them quite frequently... I told em I'm sick of coming in all the time.. lol... they understand and said some women become friends with the staff they are there so much and I'll be one of them
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You should definitely switch doctors.... I had a really bad experience with my very 1st OB when pregnant with my daughter.... this doctor actually told me that I was wrong in calculating my last period because it is impossible to have a 45 day cycle and ovulate on day 25...  she said there was no way I could have known my conception date because ovulation strips dont work and called me a liar... and then insisted on doing 2 pelvic exams because she screwed up the lab results. Needless to say... I switched after 11 weeks... then the dumb *** didnt put all the test results in my file and I had to have another pelvic when I switched... but the doctor I switched to... LOVED her... I wish I wouldnt have moved because I would love for her to deliver my baby this time around
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I have a male dr and he is wonderful. Male or female you should switch soon because she obviously isn't a good dr for you.
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Omg my obgn did the same to me..I was low on amniotic fluid, high blood pressure, and now possible pre eclampsia. Never told us, didn't even have a clue till I saw my new Dr.
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I have a midwife and love her! She gives me time to ask whatever I want and looks things up for me, calls me back if she wanted more time to get other midwives or a doctors opinion. Its great because the service I'm with is midwife care, yet doctors are involved as medical needs arise
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Well this is my first pregnancy as well and my first doctor was a complete jerk, he would walk into the room wouldn't  say anything to me or my husband, he would just say how are you feeling and just do a pelvic exam and an ultrasound and say ok everything looks fine.  With me having seizures I had so many questions about the pregnancy and how everything was going to be for the baby and me and he wouldn't answer.  I switched doctors and best thing that I ever did.
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Get a new doc asap! And let her know y ur leaving cause she might have seen everything doesn't mean u have experienced much so she's wrong! My doc is a man and I love him he always let's me know how it is and when. I'm over reacting for little things but makes sure I feel like he's listening!  U should feel important!
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Get a new Doc is right! Your pregnant and your doctor should take the time out to make you feel good about your pregnancy! Address all concerns even the smallest. My ob was an incompetent idiot that would just push all my concerns with "think happy thoughts" She was ignorant! I switched docs at 28 weeks and my new doc will sit and conversate with me and address all concerns and explain things in detail. GET A NEW DOC FEELING STRESSED WITH UNANSWERED CONCERNS IS NO GOOD FOR YOU OR BABY!
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Get a new doc..wow!!
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With my first pregnancy my obgyn was a guy and he was an ahole!!! He never told me anything and was very rough and short at every appointment.im still mad about how.he treated me and how big of a difference my new ob is, But this time I have a women and she is very sweet and concerned.
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I Neverrr wanted a man dr but I gave it a shot and it was the best decision for me. He just seems to want to actually listen to what I have going on and do whatever it takes to give me relief of my concerns.
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My cousin said the same thing about her doctor who is also a man.. I was never comfortable with male doctors but considering the way she made me feel today, I may look into it
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Me that I might have terrible conceiving one day... Long story short come to find out during this pregnancy, my first sonogram.. I have a healthy sized fibroid, that had been growing for whoknows how many years.. I'm only 24, that is not a common thing.. I realized this explain many symptoms I was getting.. Heavy periods, terrible cramps, pain during sex, weight gain..etc... All because she was being so dismissive.. When I agreed to keep her as my pregnancy doc it was mainly because I was use to her.. But my app today made me realize that with this being my first pregnancy and considering some of the ailments I have I feel like she could be more concerned and caring in her approach.. Am I bugging? Are u guys doctors like this? And is there a difference when a Dullah our midwife is involved?
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Ive had two bad experiences with ob/gyn drs. Both were women I was going through miscarraiges and they just kept acting like it was no big deal they didnt want to run test or anything so im on my third ob and its a man dr and I absolutely love him!  He listens to my concerns and ran all kinds of blood test. I'm currently 9 weeks and things are going great so far.  I would look into switching drs if I were you
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