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Being pregnant is both a curse and a blessing.

I am getting so big already. I'm 27 weeks and I can barely move, especially in bed. The boys are headbutting my cervix and it's getting so uncomfortable. I've gained almost 60 pounds so far, despite how I eat, and the exercise I do squeeze in. This has been my highest weight in my entire life. Last year I spent 7 months slaving myself to lose 60 pounds, to 105 pounds, and now it's back, plus more. I have no nice clothes that will fit me. My skin is also completely different. It's very dry and a different color. It seems like all I get out of trying to look good, is frustration because it just doesn't happen.

* Not to mention that sex is out of the question. Tried last night, and I'm far too big. I feel bad because I can't fulfill his needs, and I noticed that he's been looking up his ex, and bikini videos(he'd rather see girls in bikinis than watch porn) So it makes me feel even worse. I have no idea why he's looking up his ex. So it's kind of getting to me. I had a problem with an ex before where he had thousands of pictures of girls on his computer and watched porn several times a day, even in front of me while I was "sleeping" It completely tore me apart, and that's why I lost so much weight. Being pregnant, I have to care for them, and not myself. I can't nearly starve or work out 2+ hours a day. I feel so out of control with the way I look now, including my abilities.

All this is just pointless ranting, which I shouldn't even be upset about really. I guess it's just the whole raging hormone thing on top of lots of underlying problems. The only thing that gets me through all this pain is knowing that I'm creating to beautiful boys and I'll be getting to meet them very soon.

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I to feel ur pain! My husband and I used to hve sex Dailey, now im lucky if its 2 times a week.. he works long hours, thsts never really mattered before. Ge also said I rolled over on him? Watever! Lol!"regardless I feel unattractive nonetheless. .. he tells me im more beautiful now than ever, I feel that couldnt b farthest from the truth.. but ur bf should not b lookin up his ex! Ur carrying his children, and that is very disrespectful to you!! I would b very mad!! About a month ago I found out my husbabd was watching porn while our sex was declining. . I told him that was disrespectful, im not real sure if he still does, but he is a man and I dnt doubt it. But hang in there girl.. things will get better soon!!
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I understand how you feel and im only carrying one you poor thing! Im 26 weeks and sex is also off the agenda. I really do think though that he should NOT be looking up his ex or watching girls etc. Its hard enough being pregnant and feeling insecure or unattractive with your partner doing that. I would go absolutely mad and feel so awful. My boyfriend complained today about no sez but I said im sorry..as I do feel bad but its just far too uncomfortable as im carrying low and it hurts. Dont let him treat you like that..its unacceptable and if he wants to watch girls to do it without you knowing  but even that would anger me. I just focus on autumn time when I should be feeling and looking better despite the fact that I will be probably knackered. But at least we can have our bodies back and eventually wear nice clothes. :)
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Be strong, I know exactly how u feel. My last pregnancy I got up to 268lbs n I felt miserable. I worked hard n got down to 168 which was perfect for me because I'm 5'7. This pregnancy I'm up to 220 which is better than last time but I already have my workout plan n eating regiment in place. You just have to keep reminding yourself that it's not forever n you will get your body back with a little bit of work. U will have your man drooling after so don't sweat it n keep in mind u have little human beings growing inside of u, it's not a easy job
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