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Circumcision

I would like opinions. I wanna circumcise my newborn but my husband is totally against it. My older son was circumcised and is just fine.
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Thank mjoen... You took the words right out of my mouth... There is no shame or blame either way... As a mom going with your gut is best with things like this because there is no true right or wrong
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Thank you everyone
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We did with my 1st born and if this baby is a boy we will do it again. My husband is and he was actually the one who really wanted it done. My dad is not and one of the big things that helped me decide to do it was hearing my dad say if he would have had boys (just me and my sis) that he would have had his sons done. His brothers have had infections and one even had to get himself circumsized at 50 yrs old and it was awful. I honestly think to each their own on this one. As parents we have to make so many decisions for our children that sometimes it is hard to make that final decision but I think it would be so much easier if there wasnt all this negativity flying around. Its horrible that so many people bash each other for the decisions they makr when most are just making what they think is the best situation for their own family whether its formula/ breast, cloth/ disposable diapers, vaccines/or not, circumsized/or not. I just wish sometimes some people would think before they let their strong beliefs and emotions get the best of them and say hurtful things.
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Wow its amazing reading all the different opinions on this. Where I am they don't do it anymore because its considered unnecessary. My brothers, my husband, most guys I've date all not done and they were born in the late 1970s so I'd say Australia stopped doing it a really long time ago. I'd struggle to find someone to do it here. But then again it just never came up for us, we never discussed it and no one ever asked us because its just not common practice here. But each to their own. If I was in a country that encouraged it I probably still wouldn't because I've been raised in a culture that considers it unnecessary.
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Totally agree if there wasn't the need for it ...it wouldnt be a.option. and.I personally can say if.my hubby wasn't circumsized I sure a heck wouldn't have married.him unless he did.it. they look disgusting not cut. Like a big fat worm. Lol people that think it's.disfiguring also probably refuse.to vaccine their kids. Smh I guess.ignorance is bliss right?
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People really need to stop saying having your son circumsized is disfiguring him. Do you realize how offensive you are being to parents who chose to do so?
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Most of the reasons people give are infection from not cleaning it and it is easier to clean...   why are people these days trying to make it easier for there kids to be lazy. Men are born with it so they apparently need it for somthing and just because no one has figured out why does not make it ok to cut it off. If it was thought that a women's breast was of no use because baby's can be bottle fed. Would you be grateful if your parents decided it was best to remove them. So you did not have to clean them..... I know it is not exactly the same thing but it is still being disfigured... if a man chooses it later in life than it is his body and he can make that choice. It's not fair for you to make that choice. You are choosing to disfigure another person because babies are not just your children they are people that will grow up with their own beliefs. They can always get it done later even if it may be more painful but they can not undo it if they want to once you do it.  I love my husband but I wish his mother would not have did that to him. By the way my husband is very angry with his mother because he can't undo it to make me happy. He wants his son to be just like him and most men do but he wishes that his mom would have made the decision I did...  it is ultimately the mother decision but I hope you make the right one...
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I had a friend.who wasn't. He turned 18 and decided to get it.done bc he hated it and he had girl friends pick on him. I personally couldn't date someone that wasn't it creeps me out to no end!! I got both my boys circumsized and will again if its a boy.  My only suggestion for you is your oldest is so would your you get son feel different bc he isn't like his brother? Or is it OK bc he is.like daddy??
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Thank you for all your opinions. My husband and I cant seem to agree. It has become a bigger issue then I expected.
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9628289 tn?1405408119
I have 4 sons....two are cut and 2 aren't. My 1st was 3mths old and I was actually in the doctors Office with him and saw the whole process!!!  My 2nd Child was cut before we left the hospital after birth. My other two, I just missed their appointment and never scheduled.  Each time we go to the doctor I have them check and it's fine.
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I had my first circumcised and I will be having my second one as well. I am a nurse so I know both pros and cons to both, it is no crueler than if in a few years you change your mind and do it then except that he will remember the pain then. My son has no recollection of the event its quick I was present he barely cried. I do think its easier, less fuss hygiene care
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8216878 tn?1403882912
I had mine circumcised.  I read alot and heard horror stories so we agreed to do it now rather than later. I was afraid of the upkeep but the way they can do it now was no surgery and I don't have to do anything. Its not raw or anything.  It does not seem to bother him and he was fine when they brought him back to me. Goodluck on your decision I read too many bad things.
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Someone said "pull back the skin at 6months" thats WAY too early, don't pull their skin back untill 2years old..the docs tell you that..and I didn't circumcise my two boys their fine, im pregnant with my 3rd Boy and hes not going to be circumcised either
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8171562 tn?1408628833
Circumcision is a personal choice...though, insurance pays for it when babies are born, but if they have to have it done later it is considered cosmetic surgery and cost a butt load. It not only help keep infection less of a risk as a child, but if he ends up with a woman that is pron to infections he will end up having to pay for the surgery himself.

But its on you whether you want to circumcise or not to circumcise.

Good luck on coming to an agreement with your husband in what you want to do.
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5149846 tn?1409405181
I had my oldest circumsised and will be doing it with this one as well. My oldest's father was uncircumcised and I never liked it. The entire time I was with him I would get yeast infections pretty regularly. I never would go down on him because regardless of him showring and cleaning (even right in front of me) the smell still lingered on his skin. Even he didnt like the fact he wasnt circumsised.

My son did fine with it. It was barely noticeable and he wasnt in any extreme pain from it. Was healed in a few days. Ultimately I feel the choice belongs to the mother. We carry our babies, birth them and then care for them the rest of their lives. Just my opinion.
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I'm from the UK and pretty much no guy is circumcised over here and there are rarely ever any problems and the one guy I know that has been is because someone kicked him in the privates with studded football boots and caused severe cuts which then led to an infection. In my opinion I wouldn't get it done because I don't see why you would want to disfigure your son that way when he was born with it and every man is born with it so there has to be a purpose for why it is there otherwise no one would be born with a foreskin. I think it's up to the person as an individual to decide whether or not to be circumcised
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I come from people that dont believe in circumcision but I will do it to my boy. It is good to do for health reasons. Do it. I hate un circumcised penis.
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Btw..in the early 20th century, most African American men were castrated and/or lynched for sleeping w white women.  That's different from a circumcision mandate
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You should read about it. Yes physicians did it to treat illness but it was also done for the reasons I mentioned. I am aware of the inhumane medical trials except they weren't infected with it they just thought that they were being treated and they weren't. Watch "Miss Ever's Boys". I had to learn all about it in nursing school.
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Although it has been expressed by many people that with the proper cleaning there are no complications in a non-circumcised penis...i do not agree.  I have taken care of the elderly and disabled community for over a decade now and I can tell you that once a man reaches a certain age or has a limitation sometime in his life, that the skin of the penis can very easily be broken down, meaning sores and infection can occur.  For me, I'm trying to think of the well-being of my son for his entire life not just up until adulthood.  
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Circumcision became popular with American physicians during about 150 years as a treatment for illness & infections. They recommended universal infant circumcision as preventative treatment. I dont know anything about the cornflakes man theory,  

but circumcision definitely wasnt to stop black men from spreading syphilis to white women :/ Alot more white men had syphilis than black men. ..plus some black men were purposely infected w syphilis and denied treatment as part of inhumane medical trials.
Anyways, circumcision is a personal choice. I would definitely do it if I had a son.
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It's up to you, for either medical, faith reasons, or just cause you want to. I did. The choice is yours
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9445847 tn?1408059755
I totally think you should get him circumcised because if later in life he becomes lazy and doesn't want to clean his penis right it could lead to other complications. My son was circumcisised and recovered in a week I've had no issues at all. Theres probably a low chance the Dr could mess up so I wouldn't even worry about it.
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Its very good to prevent some illnesses..the baby will heal in a few weeks time and ull b thankful.
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