Definitely wantig your advice on this!!! Age rivaled

[Raider10]

I know this is mostly suppose to be about pregnancy and such like that but I feel for some reason ten times better talkig on here letting it all out without having to do it on Facebook for all my friends and family to see and just look down at! But my boyfriend/baby daddy comes over every weekend cus he says he wants to be there. He brought me strawberries and flowers which was nice. He works third shift so I get the whole sleep thing but I live with my parents right now and every time he's here they think he just comes to sleep b.c he don't offer to take me out to eat or anyone to go eat or help pay for any food that he eats while he is here will leave and go get him self food but not offer anyone else something. My parents have taken us all to eat multiple times and paid for food and cooked for him as well. And he stays in my bedroom on my bed every day in currently in my living room b.c I don't wanna lay in bed all day and watching t.v and he is still in my room watching tv I asked him to come in here multiple times he will for a few then get back up and go back in there. My family feels like he's just coming here to sleep with me and that's it cus he don't really get sociable while being here let alone take us to do anything my parents are getting frustrated and honestly I am to with it. Idk what to do I'm kinda feeling like this isn't going to work especially when new baby comes.... :/ ugh idk I've tried talking to him all he says is okay. What do u all think is this disrespectful of him or am I just being hormonal and trying to keep things calm with my parents?!

[happiMom87]

Neither of you can be independent while you live in your parents home.. I can understand he's not going to feel comfortable there because it's not his home it's your home however you should put your foot down and not allow him to come over and sleep its kinda like what's the point.. its like the saying goes wHy buy the cow when you could just take some milk.. If you want things to work you 2 should sacrifice the commodity of being at your parents home and see each other less til you guys can independently support yourselves.

[Raider10]

no I told him how I felt about it and he got mad and left I said it'd be nice if u came out and sat in the living room with me instead of staying bunched up in the bed room and no we aren't thinking about moving in together... He just recently got a job. He just being very immature about things right now

[Naki123]

This sounds exactally like one of my highschool boyfriends. A free loader... I think it is important to talk and define what each persons responsibilities are going to be when the baby is here...  Who will pay for what, who will take care of the baby and when? Will you continue to live at your patents? Is he getting his own place? If he continues to stay there how much are your patents going to charge him rent?... I think without these questions answered things will just continue to get worse and worse... It doesn't sound like you were together for a long time so perhaps the relationship won't work, but he will still be the dad and all of the above will still be relevant if the relationship doesn't work.

[Hahn6]

You also have to give him a little break because he just doesn't know any better. I've been married for 10 years and currently pregnant with our 6th. I have to admit most of the time men just Dont know, they can't read our minds and most of the time you have to remind them of things, just because you think he should be one way doesn't mean he will be, if you want something to eat tell him, if you want to go somewhere then tell him, if you want him to help pay for meals then tell him. I'm not being mean its the truth plenty of women can vouch that men need to be told things. Lol

[Isabelle_C]

Hi, i have never been in this situation but I feel like you guys maybe need to hve a serious conversation. He will soon be a daddy and need to seriously man up! Are you considering moving in together to raise your baby? Does he have a job? Good luck

[Raider10]

We have only been together for a month almost two when I became pregnant by accident but I've had talks with him and he comes here b.c we don't live together we've talked about getting a place but idk he still is seemig really immature still. He doesn't socialize with anyone. And he's just focusing I think on his self. I mean he's not really being like he use to. He's just idk how to really explain it! And I don't want him to take the whole family out but it's rather rude I feel to go get food for urself and bring back into the house without asking anyone else if they'd like something...

[Baby1_2]

Ok, first I would say that taking out the whole family out to dinner is not the priority or the main problem, the problem that I see here is that he is not being responsable with his new family, you and the baby! How come you guys don't live together?. If you are staying at your parents house then he should try to help out with money or groceries in case you are not working. I would think you guys are saving up money to move in together with your baby, I would talk to him again because this is not a "boyfriend and girlfriend" relationship anymore, you are a family now and have a baby on the way.... Good luck

[mommi2b23]

Yes sounds quite disrespectful and freeloading. I would have a very serious conversation with him and let him know how you feel. If it doesn't improve, maybe a break from him is needed. Some people won't miss a good thing til its gone and definitely will keep doing what you allow them to do.