Drank after miscarriage but wasn't a miscarriage! Did I damage my baby???

[Jenn426]

At 17 wks pregnant, I fell down the stairs. Later that day, I found out my father had passed away. That evening I started with bad cramps and bleeding.  My doctor said it sounded like a miscarriage. My husband was away on business and I had no one to mind my son so I waited until morning to go to the hospital. Thinking I'd lost my baby and father in same day, that evening before I went to hospital, I drank a bottle and half of wine. The next morning I had no bleeding, no cramps, a hangover, and when I went to hospital, the baby was still there!!! Doctor said everything looks fine but I can't imagine mentally it would be- if I drank a bottle and half of wine, wouldn't that be enough to damage this poor baby? My question is, at 17 wks pregnant, did a cause brain damage to this poor baby from binge drinking the one occassion? I am horrified, disgusted, and panicking. Please no judgemental comments- I'm sick enough over this.

[thepenguinsrock]

I wouldn't stress your self I'm sure your baby is absolutely fine.
I was in Vegas getting married and drinking for a week unaware I was 2 months pregnant. I drunk way more than you and my daughter was fine. I was upet when I found out I'd been pregnant and drinking too but my midwife quickly put my mind at rest saying it was a mistake made by a while lot of people who go on to have a healthy baby and ladies shouldn't punish themselves for something they didn't do intentionally. ☺

[2gs_2bs_andcounting]

I think I would self medicate too if I was all alone thinking I lost my baby and my father in the same day. And in the evening sounds to me like after child had gone to bed.

[RockRose]

Jenn, the bigger question here is you drank a bottle and a half of wine while supervising your son alone.  That's about 5 drinks in one evening,  alone.  

It's unlikely that one episode will damage your unborn baby,  but that behavior is a concern.

Best wishes.

[kittin_1988]

I didn't find out I was pregnant with my second daughter till I was 3 months an I drank quite often until I found out. An she is perfect in every way. 1 time will not hurt your baby just think positive.

[rosa232]

Don't worry I drank when I was about 2 weeks pregnant I also didn't know. I had jeigermeister, jeiger bombs, a fifth of jack Daniels, fireball, bud light, dos Equis, and those frozen margaritas you get in Vegas. I drank cause I was in Vegas for the weekend, the next 2 weeks is when I missed my period. But my midwife said everything was fine. So don't feel bad. I still am disappointed with myself but I didn't know. Plus it was too early to test for it.

[2gs_2bs_andcounting]

Talk to your dr, they will understand. But most midwives will say a glass or 2 of wine is OK occasionally. Fas is caused by continuous drinking during  pregnancy.  Not one night

[lkaykirk]

Don't freak out! I drank some before I learned I was pregnant. My baby is fine. So is my oldest son. I drank before I found I was pregnant with him too. Not much but like 2 glasses of something. It will be ok.