Dunno wa to say to him

[R4ch4el88]

So the other morning his phone woke me up at 5am n i picked it up n it was another girl (who was his ex n she moved to another country) n other messages from his mate, little as he knew i seen who it was n when i asked him who it was didn't say it was his ex, anyways just now i had a peek n she said how long till th baby boy is here followed by kisses he told her n he said that he misses her n wants to see her followed by kisses also, he does message other girls but as friends as I'm not a jealous type n he's every right to have girls as friends, anyways does anyone have any ideas wa i can say to him about it please what won't end up in an argument, I'm nearly 26 weeks pregnant  n could do without any arguments thank you

[Amy1830]

Honestly I wouldn't have been able to hold it in as long as you have lol normally I would say to just let it out and if it starts an argument oh well because he screwed up. But I understand the need for peace while pregnant. I think you just need to say what you have found out in a calm and non accusing way. Even if your bf has female friends saying things like I miss you and sending kisses is highly inappropriate in my book and the fact that she is an ex makes it ten times worse. Granted she lives in another country so he's obviously not physically cheating. But to me, that wouldn't matter because it seems that he has the desire to, whether he can physically go thru with it or not. Unfortunately I have a feeling that no matter how nice you are when you bring it up, it's going to turn into an argument. He's going to say you were snooping and that it's nothing and you're being a crazy pregnant girl. But you're not!

[R4ch4el88]

Thank you :-)

[patty1848]

Don't hold it in just because you don't want to argue. I would still bring it up, not sure how calmed i could be... but be prepared for everything.  Either he is on his way out or just like to have multiple women. I'm sorry :(

[bumpinbaby1995]

Yeah me ??, I would of did some phone break and interrogating.

But you can calmly come to him and say. hey I seen you and you're ex texting each other kisses on your phone  ask if there's anything going on & how does he feel about her, get the truth out ... Well at least try.  

[R4ch4el88]

Confronted him n as they all do he started being all defensive

[Kjens12]

I would talk to him, without being accusatory. Just be honest and explain what you saw and ask if maybe you're misunderstanding the situation. That's what I was taught in a stress management class for school at least, when talking about ways to have productive conversations opposed to people getting defensive. I would definitely not wait though. If he is cheating, doesn't have to be physical, then you will be happier on your own. Be honest with him and try to get your views out and listen to what he says. If he seems defensively, that's a bad sign. Hopefully things are not as they sound, and you guys can figure it out. If he is talking to her as more than a friend though you should definitely leave.

[BeautyDefined]

The only time a man gets defensive is when you confront him and your always the nagging accusing type or honestly he's guilty because if he wasn't there would be no reason to get upset. Because trust honey if it was the other way around he'd be confronting you no hesitations.regardless if your ok with him having friends that are girls there's a line that should never be crossed because that's how it leads to other things.  Stand your ground but you'll have to make a decision if your going to continue to put up with it.

[tiffp84]

Males cheat when they are insecure with them selves and weak women allow it you have a baby on the way you can't be weak you have to teach your baby right and by him confide in the opposite sex is disrespectful and leads to other things. Would you want a male to make your daughter feel the way your feeling or your son to treat woman this way. have standards and know your worth and stand up to him be a strong woman for yourself and your child

[R4ch4el88]

Everything is sorted now we had a really good talk about it, thanks guys