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5806286 tn?1375050370

Going through pregnancy alone

This is one of the most absolutely trying times of my life. I feel like I can share a bit on here about it. A few weeks ago my bf (not the sperm donor) broke up with me, and I've been having the hardest time trying to stay positive. I'm not the best at sharing my true feelings with my family because I feel like I'm burdening them. I've been depressed and lonely, and to top it all off, it's Christmas. I don't know how to snap out of this funk. I know my relationship was toxic and not meant to be, but I still loved the guy.

I apologize for bringing everyone down.
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Talking about how you're feeling really really helps- telling your family how you're feeling wont be burdening them and it'll be a huge pressure release for you.  You know that feeling after telling someone about something you're worrying about and it suddenly doesn't feel so huge any more.  I think that's great advice to only be open to a new relationshipwhen you're happy with yourself x
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5806286 tn?1375050370
Oh I'm definitely not even thinking about men. My poor choices in men left me in this situation, so I'm taking a very long break. My doctor told me today I have high blood pressure, so I'm going to have to start relaxing more.
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Ive raised 2 boys by myself, started at 19, gave birth at 20. Now im 33. Depending on how your life skills are and how you handle things, you could go down a right or wrong path. Men will come and go. When you are down and depressed like you are, stay away from men, youll only find someone who is as sick as you are. Wont be good for anyone. When you start working on building youself up and focusing on you and your baby, doing what's best for both of you, then god will bless you with someone when your ready. Treat men as your kryptonite til then. But be picky when the time comes because you and your baby deserve the best, say it and believe it. ~dont waste the next 10 yrs trying to go out to find someone~ You will lose more than you will gain. Join a church, we have a love it. My kids love it, my son getting baptized next week, but im telling you, its hard raising kids without anyone to share it all with, but you have to try to find a change n perspective, and forget about men.
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My baby father nd I r nt 2getha 2...i m very wth my my pregnancy.. try n stay positive nd remind yoself dat u wil have greater joy after ths...kids r a blessing 4rm God nd they wil always b there 2 put a smile on yo face...Stay blessed nd strong girl...
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Crap nicole Armour 1980 @ gmail. Com no spaces.
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Thing is...u do have a blessing coming but that doesn't make life suck any less right now.  Please just keep an eye on ur moods. I stayed so down with my DD and when she was born I was so happy yet so depressed and then I got slammed with PPD and b/c no one was around no one noticed and I just got worse and worse. If I didn't eventually realize what was going on and point it out to my doc at my post partum appt then my daughter may not have a Mom right now.  :-( I am starting to see the same cycle this time. I am on top of it though and have people keeping a close eye on me this time around. If u ever need a should or want to chat I am willing to listen.  Been there....done that. My email is ***@****.
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6452840 tn?1381776492
Ah you will be ok girl!! I agree , you have a right to feel this way, also the hormons make it a little worse, but its good that you are aware that he wasnt the one for you, and how time passes you will be thankful the relationship is over.... And with the little bundle of joy that is inside you will make it all better and easier..... You are strong and you will get out of that funk when you are ready! Have a great rest of the pregnancy, the end is so near!!
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7001988 tn?1392134797
U hve every rt 2 fill the way u do. Try treating urself maybe a nice massage or another spa treatment.
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5806286 tn?1375050370
Thank you. Everyone just keeps telling me that I have such a great little blessing coming, but that's still 2.5 months away.
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I had a hard time with my daughter. I was fighting the pregnancy battle alone at the time and it was tough. I understand how u feel. This time I do have people around but I feel depressed and completely unstable 99% of the time. No one seems to understand why I do either. (((((Hugs))))) I hope u start feeling better soon.
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