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How are we supposed to be happy!!??

I just watched this video showing the first twelve weeks of embryo growth in the womb and the scientist narrator said that five or of six pregnancies will end in miscarriage. I'm getting sick of being told this negative **** about pregnancies, and then being told by people to just be happy. What the hell!? And people close to me wonder why I'm so nervous and anxious about my pregnancy. I seriously hate this crap. Anyone else feel this way!?
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I believe he means 5 out of sic mcs happen in the first trimester. Not that we mc 5 out of six embryos
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Believe it or not but he means out of every pregnant woman.  It doesn't necessarily. Mean you.  But I wouldn't worry,  be thankful because I ran into the grieve and loss forum on what to expect and It's made me more aware snddthankful of my pregnancy.  What's meant to be will be.  
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Believe it or not but he means out of every pregnant woman.  It doesn't necessarily. Mean you.  But I wouldn't worry,  be thankful because I ran into the grieve and loss forum on what to expect and It's made me more aware snddthankful of my pregnancy.  What's meant to be will be.  
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I duno about that I had a miscarriage bk in 2009 and I was told by the hospital that 1 in 3 women loose there 1st but 5 in 6 is a bit steep
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I had same fear until I passed my 7th month of pregnancy, I think our hormones make us more worried about miscarriage than anything else but of course listening to negative stuff make it worst. Don't you worry dear be positive and try to avoid watching such stuff..
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When I found out I was pregnant my doctors told me the same thing, not all baby's survive the first 12 weeks, but they said they say it to all mothers so they are prepared in case they miscarry.. however like you it just made me anxious and nervous throughout the first 12 weeks. I didn't fully relax until I did the 18 week ultrasound.
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Statistics are just numbers while they may be true u have to look at ur own family history of pregnancies and draw ur conclusions from there if the women in ur family have had success getting pregnant and carrying children to term then chances are u will too while miscarriages do happen they don't happen to everyone and every reason is different so I wouldn't stress especially if u made it out of the window of time for miscarriage
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I know that number sounds crazy by keep in mind that most of that is what is  and called a chemical pregnancy. It's where ur tech pregnant but then have a period that's a couple days late and don't know u were ever pregnant bc you don't think about it. So technically a miscarriage d ue to not being a viable pregnant that if it wasn't for the early pregnancy tests out now you would never know. But pregnancy is a wonderful thing and is a time to be happy. You will always worry about your child even when they are adults that's what parents do but I couldn't imagine going 9 months not being happy always thinking what if bc then I would be miserable. I know it's hard not to worry and stress but that's not good for the growing baby either. I just leave it in God's hands
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BTW... this my third successful pregnancy:) no miscarriages thank GOD:)
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Sometimes reading info this early is not the best. I totally can relate. On my 3ed pregnancy even though I have my two kids I worried but u know what I learned to avoid reading scary stuff like that and enjoy the moment I wish u the very best and dont google to much right now:) wishing u the very best and to ur little blessing
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Heh just read finurligaidas comment and there you have it we both have the same understanding
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Lol 1. If it was 5 out of six that end in miscarriages then the world wouldn't be overpopulated.
2. It has been said that if you have unprotected sex all the time that you will get pregnant every month and your body automatically decides of you are in prime health to stay pregnant or not . So that's where the statistics come from. Obviously if this is true then you would miscarriage before you even realised you we're pregnant
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Think of it like this, the evolution has made us capable of developing and delivering a child. Trust your body, it has more knowledge about pregnancy then anyone walking on earth. The numbers the doc in the movie talked about are probably encounting the wast majority of miscarriage that happens before the first two weeks, aka acts as a normal period. We don't usually talk about them as miscarriage since it's so early we don't even know we might be pregnant.
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It really is. I'm fascinated by all that stuff too, but even when I think it's gonna be a fun little video or article there's always this stuff thrown in that scares the crap out of me. Its like, Why do they insist on scaring the crap out of us every chance they get?? Lol
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I totally agree about not reading negative things about it anymore. I wasn't expecting him to say that. The title to the video on YouTube said something like watch the first weeks of embryo growth. I am fascinated by how life grows inside the human body, but anytime I read anything or watch anything on it, I hear negative things. It's just discouraging.
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I know it's easier said than done though, I still worry like crazy about all kinds of things that could go wrong, it's hard to help.
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Wow, 5 out of 6?? That's just crazy. I can totally relate though, it's like everything I read is just another warning, and it doesn't stop after the baby is born, it's just warning after warning and scary stuff. There's so little material on the positive these days. My doctors actually told me with my first to stop reading so much, bc I was just freaking myself out over something that probably won't even happen. I know miscarriage and complications are a very real thing, but look at all the healthy babies that are born every day. So try not to worry too much and just let yourself be happy, and stay away from all those negative articles as much as you can. Its good to be aware to an extent but all the stuff printed out there is just ridiculous. So try to relax and be happy. Let your doctor be the judge of when and if you need.to be concerned. Good luck!! You got this!! :-)  
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Oh and my mother miscarried 2 and had 14 children. And what about 19 and counting
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Thats stupid i have four healthy kids and one on the way im 32 weeks right now that dude doesn't know what hes talking about i never miscarried.
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