Husband working alot?

[lexus3232]

I understand he has to work we hv kids baby on the way.. but do u ladies wonder if he is cheating ? I do he is working gone all the time I just dont trust it ..I feel like im always stuck he just leaves and I deal with everything im so over it... But if it continues I will walk.. away I didn't sign up to be alone..

[knufrio]

My husband has been working a lot extra recently too, however I'm lucky that he still comes home at normal time... He's just in his office on the phone the whole night

[badyas]

Truck driving is hard. Maybe you can talk to him about going out just the two of you one night. And just try not to get upset on that date. Make it a good one that may spark back all the good feeling and cut out the frustrations. I know when you have kids its hard to get a baby sitter and I know when they come home from a long days work they just want to relax. I've had mine refuse to go out but he would order food and have it brought to the house. Just find some special way to bring back the happy and shut out those crazy hormones we have!! Remember to find the good and not focus on the bad ducky stuff that is always there.

[lexus3232]

@hazel413 truck driver

[lexus3232]

@badyas thank u I understand what ur saying .. its frustrating ... tho

[badyas]

I think you should talk to him about it but only do it when you are calm. My husband has been working 10-30 hours of overtime. He already works nights and I never see him. But he explained that he just wants us to be able to afford everything. He is just trying to show everyone he can provide. There is alot of judgement we don't see being put on them. Its easy to think he is cheating or doesn't want to be in a relationship.  Its is alot of hormones going on in your body. I can understand. There are many times I thought it would just be easier to just call it quits. You didnt sign up to do it alone but if you call it quits your doing it alone anyways. Try to calm yourself and look for the things he is doing. If you have to ask him to do little things that you think insignificant but it will make you feel so much better. Even little things help. Im sorry your so stressed. I have been there. But I honestly don't think I would be happy without my husband. Even when he is unhelpful and a huge pain. Just remember why you love him. Remember the things that make you happy even when it is so hard. Best advice I was ever given was for every negative I think of try to think of 3 positive things to remind me its hard for him too. Good luck. I hope things work out. I doubt he is cheating but that is only from what I know from my own experience.  

[CountryMomToBe]

I would confront him about it.  It could just be your hormones giving you these grandiose paranoid thoughts.  Maybe try counseling.  Maybe he just feels like because he is the man he needs to provide or he feels that what he's currently providing is inadequate.  It could potentially have nothing to do with cheating... BUT I would definitely confront him.  You have to open dialogue or you will make yourself miserable & you'll never know.  

When my sister was born my dad worked out of town ALL the time & my mom would get so depressed & angry & crazy hormonal & accuse him of being a workaholic, & going out to strip clubs and God knows what else.  Turns out my dad just wanted the extra pay so we could not be so poor.

[hazel413]

Well depends, what does he do for work?