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I miscarried emotional help needed!

How long does it roughly take to start to feel better after miscarrying?
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the movie 'return to zero' helped me and my (now ex) fiancé a lot.
it shows how females and males cope entirely different than one another.
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Oh ps- I bought the book "grieving the child I never knew" and even if you're not religious it's a great book that really helped me put my thoughts and emotions in order and really sort through things to feel better
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Everyone is different. I miscarried at 15 weeks and honestly, it took almost 2 months for it to even sink in that we lost the baby. I had a massive mental breakdown... I sobbed literally for 3 hours straight..... Then it took another 4 months for me to really start dealing with it.

Be patient, the pain never fully goes away- but it does get better. Don't hesitate to reach out and talk to someone, allow yourself the time to grieve , and know you're not alone.
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I used to be a really emotionally disconnected person, I felt tremendous and overwhelming amounts of empathy for others but never for myself. So when I miscarried and fell into deep depression over it it was totally new and unexpected for me. Sometimes I would just lie down on the floor where I was standing, I just couldn't take another step, it's such an indescribable and terrible feeling. I had known, from studying abortion issues, that no matter how much someone thinks an ended pregnancy was right or ok, that your body and hormones do another thing. This was not your choice and you lost your baby so on top of your emotional loss, your body has all these crazy extra hormones made to support a child, it's confused as to where the baby is, and your body is mourning along with you. I am all about being natural and no meds, but i ended up having to get on zoloft for a little. I am so sorry for your loss! This is something I was always told as a child so I hope it doesn't sound stupid, but your baby was too perfect for here and God needed him back with him. Please look into what your body is going through afyer miscarraige too and give yourself endless love and time : )
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Miscarriages are difficult and not everyone understands what you're going through. My husband was supportive when I miscarried last year but he wasn't as affected as me. I still think about it all the time because I would have delievered by this point...
I'm so greatful and relieved that this pregnancy is doing so well.
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When I miscarried 2years ago, it only took about 3 weeks to PHYSICALLY feel normal again.  Mentally, a heck of a lot longer.  It really wasn't until I got pregnant again (in November) that my heart didn't sink anymore when I thought of pregnancy.  But everyone is different.  I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Hi Dear one,

As the ladies have previously stated there is no set time limit as to when you start to feel better. But time heals all wounds you will never forget something like this either. It has been a year this past Jan 19thbsince our loss and I still cry at times. I look at pic of my ultrasounds and my hpt's and cry out WHY!!!!! Why did this have to happen to me.

One thing you must remember is that if you know you were caring for your body as it was not your own but you were sharing it not causing any bodly harm to your baby then nothing is your fault. I don't smoke drink or dabble in pharmaceuticals if you catch my drift, lol..... But one thing my Ob assured me of and that is there is nothing you can do to cause or prevent a m/c.

So as u take you time and heal it's okay to cry hell scream if you need to but never bottle up your feelings about your loss..... Please don't hesitate to contact me if you ever need someone to talk to or just need someone to listen!!!

May God heal your broken heart,
KeeLolo
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It slowly gets better but the pain never goes away. I miscarrird last year at 12 weeks and not a day that goes by that I don't think about my little baby I lost.  Eventually your be able to talk about it. Sorry to hear your loss it will get easier.
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It gets better with time but u never forget its been almost 7 yrs since i lost my baby i lost my baby 1 wk before my b day 7 yrs ago :( and till this day i remember my lil angel
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please look at my journals on my profile. I feel you will find some comfort in my postings.
I lost my son at 16wks back in September :(
thinking of you during the start of this horrible journey to feel healed :(
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I am so sorry for your loss hun. There's no set time limit... I've  felt it everyday for the last 6 months. At first it was crippling, then i threw myself into a project - painted the kitchen and started uni, and now it's a bit easier. I talk about my first pregnancy with friends and family who understand and are comfortable with the topic. I need to acknowledge that i had created a life and that keeps me level. I've just found out im pregnant again and trying very hard to be positive and happy!
I hope you find a little bit of comfort in my reply that some of us have been there and made it through the very hardest part. My first baby will always be a part of me.
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