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Is anyone pregnant with what they know will be their last child?

I have a 13 & 14 year old from a previous relationship. I always wanted more kids and the older i got and the longer i was single i just figured it'd never happen. Then i met my husband who had no kids. We have a beautiful son thats nearly 8 months and im almost 7 months pregnant with a daughter. We were sure after we had our youngest son we wanted at least one more due to the age gap. I wanted to make sure he had a sibling closer to his age to play with and grow up with. Didn't necessarily plan this close but i had one moment of weakness within my 6 week waiting period. Anyway before we knew this was a girl we discussed trying one more time for a girl if this was a boy. I wasn't 100% sold on that though because i dont feel like you should try for another just for the sake of having a certain sex. Well now that we know its a girl im torn on whether this will be it. My husband kinda wants to have another but im not sure. Previously i thought if i had a girl I'd be good with saying I'm done but I'm not sure. Has anyone had that moment of clarity where you know you are done? How do you know you are done? Another factor is Im  going to be 35 after this one is born and i for sure want to wait at least a year especially since i just had back to back pregnancies. That'll make me 36 possibly almost 37 having a baby.
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YESSS!!! My husband and I have a 5yr old son, 6mth old daughter, and a new & LAST edition to the family due June 2,2016.
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I have a 10&13 yr old I was finished after my 10 yr old and new it , but my fiancé wanted more. I was on birth control even since my 10 yr old was born and never had the urge to have another I was a young mom so I was actually looking forward to my kids growing up and having a social life again . My fiancé had made remarks of having another kid but when I put it into light the benefits of the kids growing up we both thought it would be best we didn't have any more and time had past we felt it was too late to start over with the age gap. May 2015 I had a tubal ligation to make our choice permanent . I had so much time to think about it and I was 100% sure I didn't want anymore .. Well almost 2 months ago I found out I was pregnant !! I'm almost 22 weeks now I'm still in shocked and having a hard time excepting it . Can't say the same for my fiancé he seems happier than ever and always says how it's a miracle baby I guess he wasn't being true to him self when he agreed to being done and I slightly feel guilty for pressuring him into not wanting anymore .. I think you just know when ur done I'm def. done after this one and we both will be going in for a sterilization after this kid and I'm having them do a cut and burn.. This time around ! This baby was a shock and an accident but God had other plans for us I guess
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Since you know you don't want another child until at least a year after this pregnancy, then worry about whether you should get pregnant or not at that time. Things can change in a year and you'll know for sure whether it's a good time or not to get pregnant. Love your growing family!
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My husband and I always wanted 3 or 4, but after #2 we felt that we were done. That we didn't have the financial means for a 3rd. Within that same year everything changed and we decided to try for a 3rd. We are now blessed with #3 due next month, but this time we are done. I'm getting my tubes tied during my c-section.
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I have a 10yr old daughter and my partner has a 10yr old daughter… i am now pregnant with my second and am 16wks 1day and this is mine and my partners first together… we both have agreed t have another one after this pregnancy and thats it… we have four between us then lol
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I'm like you I'm on the fence about having another. I have a 22 month old girl, and am expecting a boy fen 2016.

I really want another girl to give my daughter a sister, I loved having a sister growing up we are still so close.
Anyway our dilemma is mainly will we be able to comfortably live/provide for three kids.
Career wise we are just about to start, I will be teaching next August & my husband just became a Welder. I think we will put a pause for at least one year to focus on getting a house(we rent an apt).
Then I will have to come back & reconsider if we can or even want to have one more...
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This is my fourth and final baby!! I get to meet my sweet baby girl Marlee in 11 days via c section! 2 boys 2 girls!  PERFECT
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I was clear with this one being number 4. He want to have one more but this is my body and after all the complications with this one I'm 100% sure. Plus of becomes very expensive and physical draining at time.
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I have an almost 6 yr old girl and a son on the way. I'm done! Before I leave the hospital I will be fixed. Cut, tie, burn, whatever just fix me lol.
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I'm expecting my second and have had the same complications I had with my fisrt daughter, low amniotic fluid, which a specialist told me it's rare that it has happened again during my pregnancy. We just found out we're having another girl. Me and my husband we're hoping for a boy, but are super happy non the less.

With my complications, me and my husband already talked about this being our last and like NE7 if we do decide to want more the great option is we'd adopt. There's lots of children that need homes and I don't think I could put myself at risk with trying to have more children and leaving my kids without a mommy or my husband as a single parent.
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Thanks for all the input. I guess I'll wait and see how I feel and wont rush into any permanent birth control.
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We are on our 2nd and final child. At the age if 33 and DH 35. We have a 7 yr old daughter. I was actually fine with just her but I promised hubby we would have another and try for a son. We prayed and God answered our prayers, we are expecting our son this month. He gave me the OK to get my tubes tied. I don't want to be prego all my life. I got things to do, lol! So we are done. I told my husband if he ever decides he wants another we can adopt, because physically I am done.  
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I'm pregnant with our second child and we are having a girl. We also have a 5 year old girl. I was adamant that if this was a boy that would be it because we would have a girl and boy but of course we are having a girl. So my husband was on board that this would be our last also even though we are having a girl, but he has thrown out comments that he kinda wants to try again for a boy and that threw me off because I was sure this was our last. So I'm actually stuck as what to do. So im sure me and my husband will be having this talk again soon.
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I'm pregnant with my 3rd a boy I have two girls who will be 2 and 4 when this one is born we know we are done for a few reasons. 1. We have a 4 bedroom house and don't want our kids to have to share. 2. My pregnancies aren't the easiest and Iv had complications in the last trimester everytime. 3. I always wanted wanted atleast one of each and now I've got it. 4. I feel as though my family is complete. 5. I'm ready to enjoy my kids with being sick and pregnant.
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I'm on my second baby due in a few weeks and this will be my final baby I have my 20mth old son and I'm expecting my daughter I think having the pair is just fine and my husband is fine with it too I think since he has the pair too from his previous relationship
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I have an 8 year old..5 year old..7 month old and 10 weeks with this one..i plan on having a planned c section and getting my tubes tied..im 31 and 4 kids is a HUGE blessing that i thought i would never have but we are happy..juat have to figure some things out
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That just 4 more for me lol
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This is our fourth and final baby. I'm only slightly heartbroken knowing this will be my final pregnancy experience. We have an 8 yr.old, 7yr.old and an almost 2 yr.old, and I am due December 13th. We always planned a family of four. We bought a house to accommodate four, our income accommodates four, and our vehicles accommodate four. All of that being said, after we had our third and only girl, I thought I was done, i thought this is perfect. but 6 days after our daughter turned one, my husband began talking about another and I found myself really wanting another as well. We just got lucky to have two boys and two girls!!
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Don't think my body could take it lol
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12618772 tn?1445214532
Lol 10 kids I would do it!!!
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Lol wow ladies well I'm 31 I have 3 older kids from a pervious relationship 7 10 14.. And I just had a 6 month old  with my  bf of 4 1/2 years and we are expecting again..honestly ladies my past relationship had me to the point where I didn't want no man and no more babies EVER!!!but since I've met my bf he has me looking at things differently he is such a good man and a great dad and we have a great life I don't mind having more babies now... he has always wanted a big family something he never had
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I couldn't imagine being pregnant 10 times lol omg just the thought it's nearly a football team lol :)
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I'm on my 5th baby. My husband and I will have 5 kids under the age of 5 once we deliver. We had all ou kids very close. I'm pretty sure I'm done after this due to how hard its been in my body. We're seriously considering getting my tubes tied cut and burned. In the same sense though I might just want to get paraguard. I used to want 8 to 10 kids but I'm not so sure now . I always end up thinking about what if. Lol
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When I had my second 8 months ago me an my partner said we would have one more then have my tubes tied in now 13 weeks when we found out about this one we were unsure as to weather it would be our last or not I'm 27 will be 28 when this one is born I have a 4 year old and and 8 month old already I'm in 2 minds as what to do as this will also be my 3rd c section and second one in 14 months I don't know if my body could do another pregnancy but I also don't know if I'm ready to say no more ever it's hard so I understand what you mean
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