Advice on baby last name

[pypersmommy]

The father and I aren't together and he was into it at first but now he doesn't ever call at ask how is daughter is doing I am currently 24+1 weeks and a ftm. He already has a soon that's 4 that he doesn't see. I have some people tell me I'll regret giving the baby his last name because wat if he's never around. So what's your opinion on this should I give the baby my last name or his?

[miracleboy]

My baby's father is always around I live with the father of my baby, my husband kicked me out 3 years ago and haven't seen him since. I'm with the best man and father right now. I hate my last name because its my husbands my baby will never have that a** holes last name because its not his baby.

[new2thia]

Smcneese that's a very interesting story.  Why do you treasure the last name of a man that's never attempted to be apart of your life?

[theawesomejuju]

I'm in same boat my baby girl will carry my last name not a douche bags

[red84angel]

I was referring to the original poster. So for you, miracleboy, give the baby the father's name, in my opinion :)

[Denise2346]

I been in your shoes my son 7 now and he has my last name don't give your son/daughter. His last name if his not gonna be around

[miracleboy]

Lady's I'm not taking my baby away from the dad, I live with the father of my baby (my boyfriend is the dad) like I said before I'm married to another man but have not seen him for 3 years I'm not having his baby. My last name is the same as the man I'm married to he's not the father of my baby my boyfriend is.

[smcneese]

I would say think long and hard about it. My mom took me away from my dad when I was 2wks old. She did give me his last name tho and to this day I treasure my last name and thank her for that. I am 23 and I have only met my dad twice. Once at age 16 and once this year. I think that was the best thing my mom did on giving me a name was allowing me to have his last name even though he wasn't apart of my life. Its all up to you and how you feel. Good luck!

[Leesa1116]

It's your baby. He's not around. Your gonna be soley responsible for the baby. Should be your name hands down.

[AprilMay24]

If I could go back I wouldn't have given my daughter her dad's last name. We were dating but shortly broke up after she was born. Give your baby your last name. He don't deserve to pass on his last name if he can't be there.

[miracleboy]

At red84angel if I give him my last name it would be my husbands last name which he is not the father, my baby will have my boyfriends last name which he is the real father of my baby!

[Dandi_2014]

Let your baby take your surname.
Makes things in general easier, like at daycare you'll have the same surname.. no fuzz.
:)

[red84angel]

You can pick whatever name you want. I would go with your last name. Good luck hun!

[pypersmommy]

Thank you for all your opinions you've helped a lot. And @miracleboy you can give your baby your boyfriends last name especially if he's on the birth certificate.

[miracleboy]

Its not my husbands baby, haven't been with him in 3 years. Its my boyfriends baby so I want to give the baby my boyfriends last name the real father of my baby. My husbands name would never go on the birth certificate at all, not his child. I was just wondering because I am legally married.

[Angelina19900]

I wouldn't give him he's last name.!

[patty1848]

Just give him your last name.

[MamaMacMurtry]

You can legally give your child any name you choose. First middle & last. I personally would not give my child the last name of a man who's only contribution to the birth is a sperm donation.

[firsttimemommy05]

Exactly this is something u earn its not just given.

[handriimamii]

I feel that the father has to earn having the child carry their name. All my children started with my last name. My son is 7 and I am just now considering changing his name because his father has played a role in his life the past 4 years.

[denyce89]

Hell no don't not give him your child his last name especially when he not putting in effort he can try and claim your son or daughter on taxes which men love that time a year that's when they claim your kid smh and two he can take your kid and you couldn't do anything about it cause his name is on the birth certificate and or baby has his name plus don't give. Him that honor

[miracleboy]

In a different situation, I'm married but have been separated for 3 years I've been trying to get a divorce for 2 years now but he refuses to sign the papers. I'm 29 weeks pregnant with my boyfriends baby and was wondering can I give my baby the father's name or do I have to give the baby my last name?

[taerozay]

While my baby farther is married in he wants me to give my child his last name I'm 29 weeks his around but who knows how lng he hasn't been w the wife for 3 years but doesn't seem lik his trying to divorce

[30ftm]

If I was in your position I don't think I'd give my baby the dad's last name if he wasn't going to play a role in my baby's life. The way he's acting he doesn't deserve it. It's a privilege not a right in my opinion

[firsttimemommy05]

I'm going through the same thing.... Although this is both our first child and he never calls to check on his son.... And he don't even know his own father u would think he wanted to be better smh.... But my son is getting my lastname I wouldnt dare give him a mans name that doesn't care....