My sex drive is gone!

[CharliMarie]

OK. So let me first start off by saying that my sex drive has always been very mental, which I don't believe my partner seems to get. I am just not that easily turned on I suppose by just the physical nor do I feel its just a light switch that you turn on and off. With that being said tho... I understand that men have needs as well but this pregnancy has been so different from my first. My first pregnancy... I was sooooo ready that I practically called him to come home early and jump on me but this pregnancy I hardly want to be touched. It has been uncomfortable, o have been sickly and just haven't had the desire. Now its starting to cause problems tho in our relationship and I'm getting overwhelmed because he doesn't seem to understand that its not that I don't want to have sex with him... its just painfully uncomfortable and is going to takea little more than a simple caress to get me going! Is anyone experiencing anything like this? I really need some good ideas on what to do!

[sonnya]

I feel you on that with my other pregnancy I was ready to go but with this one I just don't want it and I feel so bad for my husband but I'm like no please don't I'm not I'm not in the mood thank you very much

[BandM07]

My bf is the same exact way, he can physically get turned on and im glad my body does it for him but this pregnancy as well as yours has been horrible.in the sex dept, and ppl kept telling him i should be a raging sex machine while im pregnant and he got it in his head that i was punishing him and making excuses... i also am more mental i have to feel connected and get turned on.. i just try to beat it in his head how im feeling , but i also talked to my doctor about it.

[CharliMarie]

OK cool beans. I will definitely address it at the next visit and hope for the best in good that he gets it! Now my next question may be a little personal but has it gotten better for you @muffmuff26? Both physically and emotionally with your mates understanding and connection with you? If so, what have you done differently?

[MuffMuff26]

I had this problem also and it was also causing problems. So what I did was talked to my doctor about it and I asked her to bring the subject up at the next appointment which she did. He understood better when what I said came out of someone else's mouth