Raising children who will be respectful!!

[Bellababy2013]

To all parents out there please, I beg you, raise your children to be respectful of others, to have manners and compassion and common sense!!
I work in child care and this last week I have been at my wits end with the amount if disrespect, lack of manners, poor language and the sheer need to be cruel to peers for the sake of feeling popular!! I normally work with nursery schoolers and this week I was absolutely disgusted by the behaviour of the school age children I was working with!! When did people stop disiplining their children and teaching them how to act like appropriate human beings?!?!
I am absolutely dumbfounded by how this continues to go on and then people act like they have no idea why their child is so rude!!
Please don't let this cycle continue!!

That is all :-)

[hannah_louise10]

I feel your pain! I look after children too and they are soooo rude, no respect at all! my baby will definitely not behave that way!!
the kids no longer act that way when I am looking after them but the way they speak to their parents is appalling! they have no discipline at all!

[Bellababy2013]

Its outrageous!!
I was dealing with a special needs child and had to take him out of the room and when I came back I was disgusted at how the kids were speaking to each other and the new staff.
And I find the ones that are the worst their parents are just as bad unfortunately...or they are the ones that act like I have no idea why they're like that......ummm because you allow it!! Makes me crazy...and sad...these kids won't get anywhere in life with such rotten attitudes...

[Tiffyscott32]

I am in childcare too! So hear you! Amen!

[Gishie37]

I've seen it too and its just sad!!! Whenever Im around those kids I always make sure they behave and say their manners! My boyfriends little sister is spoiled no discipline at all! Its soo annoying to see her do whatever she wants and say whatever and act any way, without getting in trouble.

[bbm1188]

I worked in childcare 5+ years. I feel you. I had one group of kids one year I made progress on and I felt like all of us were a family. Everyone had respect for eachother and it was just so nice. But the last year I worked was hell. I've never had kids that were so horrible to eachother. I would carry some of it home sometimes. I did everything I could think of to get these kids to just tolerate eachother to just understand how eachothers additudes effect one another. Nothing seemed to get through. I felt like the parents wanted me to raise their kids not them. Its sad what we as child care workers have to fix bc I think the parents are just over worked and dont have energy to do it. Ug seriously wish some would take note

[aprilj93]

Thank you! My mother in law has two terrible children about 12 years younger then my husband and she doesn't understand why... my child is 2 almost 3 and I constantly get compliments on what a polite child she is. My MIL told me and my husband we were too mean to have children!!! Omg we're not mean we're reasonable and very loving but discipline when needed, its really not rocket science.

[bellamelissa87]

Children learn from example. So just model how you want them to be. I work with children. 2.9 years to 6yrs and if one of them are having trouble I always correct them firmly but kindly. They respect you a lot faster that way. I honestly haven't seen one disrespectful child where I work. I see children who are struggling who need guidance, I see parents in tears who think they have the hardest child. I see children with older siblings who feel powerless at home then come into school and try to admit some authority over others. Its a constant reminder to speak to children about their actions and the consequences of how it affects others but If repeat it over and over and consult with other staff then it becomes a manageable situation. Patents who seem to have children who are " disrespectful" are the ones who need the most compassion, understanding and support. Taking time to show these parents you care and giving them that time create a bond and a trust that will lead to a wonderful relationship between all three of you. Sometimes if you don't know an answer to something you can always ask another staff member or tell the parent " I'm not sure let's ask so and so." Its amazing what can happen to transform a child in as little as 2mons and sometimes as long as 2-3 years. Its all about working together and supporting those tough children all along the way. You model as much respect and firm boundaries as possible, you get great kids and eventually amazing adults. Goof luck all its a daily challenge that can be fun and stress free if you so choose.