To drink or not to drink?

[Jessicanichole86]

My mom wants to make a really weak punch at my baby shower.  I was wondering if it would be OK to drink a little. She said it would be fine. What are your thoughts?

[mommybrandyozuna]

I've had wine a couple of times and I'm waiting for 2 occasions 1. Closing on our new house 2. Baby shower.... that will be the 2 and final times I have a drink during my 13 wks left!  I'd say go for ur weak punch I don't see the harm in one glass! My Doc Told Me A Beer Or Glass Of Wine A Week Wouldn't Do Any harm! So at ur own discretion!  

[ricoswifex30s]

I had one glass of wine over dinner once while being prego with my son and i must admit i felt guilty as heck after! Just the simple fact that i felt a little buzz totally freaked me out knowing my baby probably felt the same way in there... Not a good feeling to say the least but for whatever it's worth my son was born and is a very healthy baby 7lbs 5oz

[NeonPops]

My baby shower had wine and beer, and I wanted it there! My mom and step mom where there and they'd never met and I knew it was going to be high tention there, and I knew a few guy friends (including my fiance) were going to be there, so beer and wine it was!! It turned out perfect!! Everyone had a good time and I had no issues with everyone drinking. I'm a damn adult, if I can't go wthout drinking for nine months, I have an issue, and one day being around a bunch of drunk peeps is no skin off my back. I stuck to my punch and water like I'm supposed to.

Just beacuse there is going to be light punch there at your shower, doesn't mean you need to drink it. The fact that you are even having to ASK is sign that you KNOW its wrong. Never chance things like that, even if other babies come out peachy keen with alcoholic moms or drugy moms, would you really wanna risk it? All it takes is one time to mess anything up...

[bearandfox]

my doctor said it's fine to have half a glass of wine once a day. Not that i do, but he's a very reputable doctor and has delivered hundreds of healthy babies

[kate32324]

I find it tacky to have alcoholic drinks at a shower. Come on its a baby shower! People really can't keep away from drinks to honor mother and baby?  And i really don't think you need alcohol to make the party more fun. It's spiked so what the point if you trying to mellow people out it wouldn't do much.  

[kate32324]

Look at it this way.  If you wouldn't give it to a newborn why give it to a baby in the womb? It still ends  in the same place : their bloodstream.  Even small amounts has a fast effect on unborn babies causing them to spasm or jolt which may feel like they just have the hiccups.

[lenox_mommy]

Im having mimosa's for my baby shower ! It's a tea party theme. Nothing too hard to get the women drunk. I will have half of one during the cheers. I've been craving a drink and haven't had one my whole pregnancy so I will celebrate this experience

[MelFL1988]

Originally I wasn't going to have any alcohol at my baby shower (this Saturday), but my husband and his friends like to celebrate by having beer. I honestly don't mind them drinking (since I hate any kind of beer and my husband should also be allowed to celebrate) but I laid down the law to each of them. 1) No drinking to the point where they get drunk know the limits. And 2) do not give beer to my uncle (he's an alcoholic) or I will toss out every last can.
So honestly as long as people have fun and not ruin it for everyone else I think its ok. As far as the mom to be to drink that's a BIG NO-NO. I would never risk it.

[GeekMom1213]

Baby showers without booze suck. Baby showers in general aren't really high entertainment or anything, but without the availability of beer they can be interminably dull. If you want to have a little cup of weak spiked punch at your shower (which I assume will be in the third trimester) then yes, that's fine. My midwives wholeheartedly support the concept of moderation - a glass of wine or a beer or a bit of a drink for a special occasion especially so late in pregnancy has a near-zero chance of having any effect at all, much less a major life-altering complication. Plenty of people choose to avoid alcohol entirely throughout pregnancy and that's fine but that doesn't mean it is the only choice a smart, loving, and responsible parent can make. If you choose to take one drink, you are not automatically a bad parent or a bad person.

[strongmomma14]

I personally think it's only one party and ppl shouldn't need to drink  whenever there is a party.  There are plenty of other options for punch...i think ur friends and family wouldn't expect there to be alcohol at a baby shower....but everyone and every situation is different. I wouldn't drink any if she needs to make it spiked...i tried and drink of wine in my 2nd trimester and threw up.

[thorarb]

We had drinks and beer at my sister in laws baby shower. She didnt drink but the baby shower was a big get together, men and women. It was alot of fun. Ive never been much of a drinker but I wouldnt mind it at my shower. It's a party I expect people to have fun and enjoy themselves just like I would.

[Schmalzy]

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[Schmalzy]

Get an non alcoholic wine.. That's What I'm going to do :))

[SlavicaTurpin]

I wouldnt drink I think its ok if other people drink hey its a party! But since you are already here and asking us it means you dont think its right and you shouldnt do it. I go by unless im 100 percent sure I am going against that. If I am not sure in something the answer is always no.

[KieaRai]

I wouldn't and I think it's rude for others to at your shower. They shouldn't have to stop what they normally do just bc you can't but your baby shower isn't considered a normal situation anyway. I think your mother and friends should be able to hold off for one day. You don't need alcohol to be boring. My friends are roudy enough already without alcohol and we're just having a bbq for my shower. Good food, music, and people hanging out.... that's all you need.

[sprmom87]

It doesn't bother me in the least bit to be around alcohol, I plan on having it at my shower for guests and making sure there are alternatives for me and others who don't/can't drink.

[tracist_3]

I would never drink while peggers...its only 9 mths so no biggie for me. I had a close friend who would hv a beer every once in awhile & it made me SO mad...she also never stoped drinking energy drinks. I agree with you...just tell her it'd probably make you sick & ask her to hv a punch that you can drink.

[Jessicanichole86]

I totally agree with you! I want people to have fun at my shower! I always find baby showers to be a bit boring and a drink would definitely help! Lol I doubt I'd drink. I told my mom I was afraid it make me sick!

[mitch_14]

I would just have a spiked punch and a regular punch. Its a party if people want to have drinking at their party they can just because we are pregnant doesn't mean the rest of the world has to stop doing everything we can't do lol

[robertiansmama]

I wouldn't ever do that. Imagine what people will think as well about u drinking.....looks really bad on your part.

[November2baby]

Wow alcohol at a baby shower who does that no offense but kinda rude on her part

[kthisutton]

Weak or not it's not worth it. Why would she feel the need to have spiked punch?  Can't she just make regular punch? A baby shower is to honor you and the baby, I wouldn't make anything the mommy to be can't eat or drink.  

[luka_n_baby2]

I personally wouldnt. I would feel so guilty even it was a drop of alcohol. I just can't justify drinking or smoking. Everyone is different though