Trying to enjoy my pregnancy but...

[nylahboo]

So im 37+2 and my boyfriends brother's girlfriend (confusing i know lol) has been trying to get pregnant for maybe 3 or 4  years now..When i found out i was pregnant we lived with them an my daughter and its like i couldnt tlk about how happy i was or anything because she would be upset. Even when we're at family things she acts like shes uncomfortable when people start tlkin to me about my pregnancy an babies. She also tells me things i cant buy for my kid because they are things she wants to get when she gets pregnant an im really getting irritated by it.. Shes 19 and im 25 and it may be my hormones but i jus wana be like shut up up let me enjoy this it makes me wana go off on her but im trying to be sensitive to her situation but idk

[mamaluv_mLo]

Don't let her babysit, if she's that disappointed & controlling...weird things might happen to destroy your happiness! Be safe!

[bubblelicious1]

1st this is ur life! 2nd she needs to go to a fertility doctor for help! It's not ur fault she can't get pregnant! Who is she to tell you what to buy for your baby thats not right! I left a so-called friend alone because of this same issue! She lives right next door to me & I walkdown my steps & in my house right past her! Cause I don't have time for ppl & drama! Don't let her steal ur joy cause she's miserable shes 19 anyway with a whole life ahead of her! Misery loves company

[bubblelicious1]

1st this is ur life! 2nd she needs to go to a fertility doctor for help! It's not ur fault she can't get pregnant! Who is she to tell you what to buy for your baby thats not right! I left a so-called friend alone because of this same issue! She lives right next door to me & I walkdown my steps & in my house right past her! Cause I don't have time for ppl & deama!

[abbb01]

Thats what I thought too shes 19 and been trying for yrs?! I comend u for trying to not rub it in her face cuz I know how frustrated I was when my hubs n I were trying and felt like I was failing as a woman. But she's also veeerrrry young and has a lot of time to get pregnant so I would talk about it freely when ppl ask questions and enjoy it but let her know u really appreciate any support she does give u and u hope she will have a lo too when nature decides its her turn.

[KristiGG]

She is only 19...how has she been trying so long?  As for not wanting you to get certain things that is crazy...why cant ppl have the same things.  If she is bothering you about names ignore her.  When I got pregnant with my first everyone came and told me the names I wasnt allowed to use...I didnt like them anyway but I was annoyed.  I never did that to anyone else and my brother in law pick a name that I had wanted for a daughter since I was twelve but I didnt say anything...who knew if I would ever be blessed with a daughter one and two he had his first.  Then this pregnancy when we picked a name my sister said I couldn't use it bc it was a name my brothers ex wife had liked.  My mom talked to my brother when she heard my sister bc she knew I like the name.  She just asked if he would ever name a daughter that and he said he liked it and when he learned I did too he really wanted me to use it.  People butt in too much and make it much more stressful then it needs to be.  But she needs to relax and realize she is only 19 and that she prolly hasn't gotten pregnant bc she is trying to hard and the guys she is with are scared.  My husband and I stopped using protection the night we married.  It took us 2.5 years to get pregnant.   It was once we decided we were young and maybe should save money and travel a bit before trying again that we found out I was pregnant.   Stress can really affect the process.  Congrats on your baby and enjoy your pregnancy no matter what others say! :-)

[nylahboo]

Thanks. I think i will tlk to her just gotta figure out a nice way to say it without it being awkward after

[angjaramillo]

I tried for a long time to get pregnant. Finally at 33 it happened and I'm so thankful that it happened when it did. Yes it was hard to watch friends and family have kids, but I never took anything away from them and their enjoyment of their blessings. At 19 she has a lot of life to live and at the right time it will happen for her. Talk to her and don't let her take anything away from your experience. This is your time! We only get so many. Enjoy it! She'll get over it. Congrats mama!  

[SaSa28]

I have a cuzen who was like this over my names I chosen for my kids. My reaction was. Look ive chosen the nsmes long ago, my kids were born first, and honestly hunn I dont care what you think or want. This is my baby and I will name them what I want. I also told her that if she wants the same name then to knock her socks off ad in the last 15 years. Ive seen her twice.

My advise is dont let her get to you. Do as you want, get what you want, and talk about your pregnancy  she will have her moment in the sun when its time for her to. Dont let her rune your moment

Congrads by the way!

[soon2bmomof4]

Geez she's been trying for 3 or 4 years! She's only 19! Geez I unexpectedly got pregnant at 19 and wish I would've waited at least till I had more time to experience life to start having kids. I love my kids and they are a blessing, but I definitely missed out on my youth. Tell her this is your time to shine! Don't let people bring you down! If I gets too bad slap her silly and then blame it on the hormones lol

[nylahboo]

Thanks. I just I ive never been in the situation of wanting something so bad like she wants a kid so i try to be nice but then im like why shouldnt i be able to tlk about my pregnancy an how the bby kicks an things like that..all she tlks about is wanting a bby an im just like omg you still go to a pediatrician come on now then im like thats mean

[vblau10]

So sorry for your frustration, I would take her aside and explain how you feel about this situation. It's not your fault that she isn't getting pregnant. Simply explain to her that this is something special for you. And as for you getting things she wants when her time does come, really come on. We are not in the 7th grade anymore, she will have to deal with it. But do expect a bit of drama, as she is still young at the age of 19! Don't let her make u put ur pregnancy on the back burner. You deserve to be happy! Good luck!

[Sharita0427]

You're are blessed & should be able to shout it from the mountain tops if you wanted to. It's not your job to appease her. You don't have to rub it in her facw, but don't tip toe around it either. And you make sure you by your baby whatever the he'll you want. She doesn't even know if or when she'll get pregnant. She's only 19 anyway, tell her to have a seat in the same corner somewhere. I'm so sorry for ranting, but for some reason reading this just pissed me off. It most be the hormones.... sorry, lol