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Welcome home party for newborn
My mother-in-law wants to throw a small gathering after baby arrives. I really don't think that's going to happen. First I don't want a lot of people around my newborn (germs and etc). Second, I want to heal quietly at home for a couple weeks. Third, I just don't want people around my newborn lol. Would any of you be willing to have this party? Every time I give her a reason I don't want this party she just ignore. How should I tell her its not going to happen?
Yea I know. I can be a push over when it comes to her, but I believe I will figure it out if my hubby doesn't act on it soon
I know some really nice people who say they are being straight with people, but they just naturally sugar coat things. You've got to simply say, no this isn't happening, or we will do it two months out. Tell her your wishes. I love my mil and I love that she's so excited, it's nice to see her happy, so I know how hard it can be to tell someone "no you can't have fun planning this party". You'll figure it out.
Yes and I'm trying to reason that with my mother-in-law, but she wants the baby to meet the family lol I think she thinks my baby is hers or something
I dont understand why most in-laws and parents are sooo pushy with grandchildren, like you had your time already with your own kids. Give us a chance to be parents! Lol
My in-laws plan to do the same thing for me when my baby boy arrives. But i told them to do it after 2 months so that i can heal and my baby's immune system can get stronger by that time. Right after birth would be wayyy to frustrating and annoying for me.
Good luck to you mama! I will be putting my foot down if he doesn't
The concept seems fine but did I read it correctly, its for thr day you come home? Hell no!! My mil lives two hours away and has insisted on coming to stay at my house With my daughter even though she does better with my family who lives around the corner and thinks she is staying for a week or two after we get home which ***** because our nursery is the old guest room so her queen size air mattress stays in my 3 year old room and she ******* she wakes up early... I told hubby to deal with it and he stay hasn't... PS my section is Friday so he is out of time... Make sure one of you gets on it!!
That did sound nice Erica. I'm going to wait until baby is here to discuss it any further with her. Maybe if my hormones are in wack, healing goes fine, baby is okay. I might change my mind. Right now it's a hell nooo! Lbvvs
It is your choice. But I actually just went to a baby welcoming on Saturday it was small just family and close friends and it was nice. The baby was 3-4 weeks old. And not everyone was all over the baby like you'd think. Some people would just come up and be like Awwww and it was mostly aunts and grandma holding the baby not everyone there. But I wouldn't want one really I mean I might have a family BBQ when the baby is a few weeks old but that would be for our parents and brothers and sisters only. Not everyone we know.
That's a good idea!
Maybe have her come to a pediatrician or Dr Appt so she can hear it from a Dr?
I will definitely update you ladies on how this turns out. She has really just turned into the mother-in-law from hell.
Absolutely NOT! I wouldn't do it. That is not a good idea the baby doesn't need all of those people around that soon. She's a mom and should understand that. Besides you need time to heal and rest. I hope you are able to get out of it.
Trust me ladies I call myself trying to be nice, but I don't think I will keep repeating myself to her. She's one those snobby women that wants all to go her way, but I will be letting her know sooner then later
Girl flat out tell her look ive tried telling you i dont want the party and you wont listen so if you do have it, it will not take place at my house and if you have it somewhere else i will not be there or the baby. I need time to heal and bond with my child ALONE!
Just don't show up.... I guess I'm the evil woman I DONT HAVE FAMILY AT THE HOSPITAL AND I DONT HAVE COMPANY AT MY HOUSE!!! She shouldn't be that bold anyways!!! But I was thinking about a arrival party myself but I remember I don't like my in laws and I never talk to them so naw why be nice now?!? Lol
Lol @ ross yessssss plzzzzz lol. Yes I told my hubby I will go crazy and his whole family will hate me if this party is thrown without my permission. He keeps saying h he'll handle it. Okay!!!
Hahahahahaha omg u want me to go there and kick her ***? Or tell her in my way that u don't want that party? She's inconsiderate
Oh definitely not that would be my idea of hell, it's not your mother so it is down to your husband to handle this with his mum and to simply say we won't be coming because of such and such reason and then both don't turn up. You cannot be accused of doing anything wrong you told her you didn't want a party and that you won't be coming, if she chooses to ignore this or brush it off then that is her problem.
I say let her throw it at her house that way u can day how u don't feel good and u need to go and she has to clean up and get everyone out not u!
I'm with you I dnt want anyone around my baby once I get home from the hospital. I told my bf that already because I just want us to get the hang of it especially me since I'll be the one at home most of the time since he will be working. I already know his mom will hover and might even take off work but I'll just have to let her know that she needs to give all three of us some space and wait until I'm ready.
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@Ross this women just called me asking do I want the same colors as my baby shower for the welcome home party. I told her I don't know, because I still think I'm having this party. She said oh hush I'm taking care of everything. All you have to do is show up. Lol she is really starting to hit a nerve
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