baby name issue

[AriesQT]

Ill be a ftm in August. My husband's name is Douglas. We are having a boy. My husband has kids from a previous marriage. One of his sons is named Douglas, a Jr..so we/I decided on the name Aiden Douglas for our son. My husband tells me today that his mom said not to give our son his dad's name because he already has a son named Douglas. I asked if she was serious and he said yes. I asked why was it an issue to her and he said it may or will cause confusion or problems when they're older. I asked my husband what he thought of her reasonings and he said he hasn't thought about it but he can now see where she is coming from. Well I can't. I don't see a problem with us giving our son his dad's name as a middle name. I want our son to have his dad's name. What do you all think?

[stacie725]

Whatever u choose it will work out and eventually everyone will get on board. Good Luck sweetie!

[AriesQT]

Thanks ladies.

[AriesQT]

We aren't planning on having more. This will be #4 for my husband. I'm fine with having one child. I just feel that he is my husband and it will be our son. I can't give him my husband's first name (I wouldn't even want to name my son Douglas if it was available as a first name), so I thought having it as a middle name was perfect. I told my husband that our son will probably never go by Douglas, so I don't see the problem. He said we'd talk about it. Middle names aren't that important to me, but I wanted our first child together, my first period to share his dad's name.

[canadiana]

Name, not new *

[canadiana]

I kind of agree with him, not because I think it's confusing, but I guess I just find it strange to have multiple children who share names other than the last names. In my family, even the cousins don't share names... My sister's middle name is Christine, andy cousin's middle name is Christina because my mother and aunt both wanted to honour their grandmother, but thought that the same name would be strange. It's ultimately up to you and him, though. Not his mother or me or anyone else... If I changed my mind just because someone didn't like the name my partner and I picked, we would never be able to settle on a name. Why don't you ask Douglas junior if he would like the baby to share his new, though. He might be excited about it, but as a child, he might also feel like you're taking something away from him. Anyway, that's what I would do.

[stacie725]

I see where u both are coming from, but what if u have another son? Because the other two boys will have dads name will the third feel left out or will try to incoporate Douglas in his name as well? I kinda had the same issue. I had a daughter who passed away and we named her Stacie Elizabeth after me and boy friends deceased mother. He then had another daughter with someone else and she gave her his mothers middle name. I don't feel that it should have been done. He already had a daughter that used the name regardless if she is here or not she was still a part of our family. Since she passed away 14 years prior to the current daughter I am not sure if the new gf new or not, so I took as if he never told her or they don't consider the name taken because she's not present.. it could be me, maybe I took it too personal.